Meet the Parents - a nightmare tale
SO my family travelled to Rhode Island this weekend to meet FH's parents. I was very nervous, obviously. I love my father but he can be VERY judgemental & he was CLEARLY coming to check these people out.
They met during the day yesterday, briefly. We had 8 pm dinner reservations. FH & I brought my family to the restaurant. As we walk in, the Maitre'D tells FH that his sister is there and he makes a face. (This is a place we go to often.)
FH has a 21 yr old sister who is a full blown, falling down drunken lush. As we sit at our table,she comes over. She is in the tightest, see thru little dress I have ever seen. She was there with a large party. My father raises an eyebrow & shoots me a look but I ignore it.
We proceed with our evening & over the next hour, she starts doing things like SHOUTING at us across the resturant & toasting us. Clearly, she was getting drunk. I go to the ladies room just before dinner arrives & I find her in there. She is sitting on the counter and can barely hold herself up & strangers are asking her 'Are you ok honey?' I was mortified. She sees me & perks up telling me how much she loves me, etc...
As I leave the ladies room, i tell her to walk. I cannot carry her, I am 7 1/2 months pregnant. She proceeds to FALL BACKWARDS onto a waiter & send a tray of food flying. The entire restaurant is now staring. I literally walked away & left her there. I walked back to the table& told FH to 'do something.' My father is freaking out. Now the Maitre'D brings her to OUR table, pulls up a chair & seats her with us. Her 'friends' don't want her anymore. She speaks utter nonsense & profanities thru our dinner, passing out at times. She is on her cell phone & starts SCREAMING at her date who left her & says 'come back here & pay my tab. You know we're POOR! We can't afford sh!T!'
FH's parents say NOTHING. FH is laughing, he thinks its funny that she's so drunk. I was near tears. She goes to the Ladies room & I tell FH to follow her. He didn't. She took a digger onto someones table,knocking over their drinks.
As we leave the restaurant, she is demanding to drive. Oh, did I mention she had MY CAR????? Her car is in the shop so FH gave her mine for the night. (He bought me a new car recently, so I have 2 cars until the lease is up on the old one) My father sees the valet pull my car around & FLIPS OUT on me saying 'the girl is clearly a drug addict. When she crashes and kills someone, you will lose everything, You will lose your home, You will be liable!' He is of course, right. FH' s mother says 'she's not driving, I am.' She drives my car home. The lush REFUSES to get in the car with her mother or father, so she comes in with ME, my dad & stepmother!!!! FH says 'meet you at home!' and walks away & Leaves me with her. We were 1/2hour away. She is screaming in the car, demanding to be brought to a bar. She refuses to give me directions back to the highway so we get lost. My father was ripping his hair out.
Needless to say, SOMEONE owes me an apology. My father called at 8 am this morning & said 'we've seen enough. We're headed home.' He didn't even want to go to breakfast.
I told FH this morning how mad I am. He says I'm over reacting. I saw his mother & she said 'getting angry solves nothing. What are you going to do? It's who she is.'
I told him that I am telling the BM & staff at our wedding to cut her off.
WHAT DO I DO???? I am devastated, horified & scared for my wedding.
ETA - to make matters worse, my CAT died yesterday. He was only 5.![]()
They met during the day yesterday, briefly. We had 8 pm dinner reservations. FH & I brought my family to the restaurant. As we walk in, the Maitre'D tells FH that his sister is there and he makes a face. (This is a place we go to often.)
FH has a 21 yr old sister who is a full blown, falling down drunken lush. As we sit at our table,she comes over. She is in the tightest, see thru little dress I have ever seen. She was there with a large party. My father raises an eyebrow & shoots me a look but I ignore it.
We proceed with our evening & over the next hour, she starts doing things like SHOUTING at us across the resturant & toasting us. Clearly, she was getting drunk. I go to the ladies room just before dinner arrives & I find her in there. She is sitting on the counter and can barely hold herself up & strangers are asking her 'Are you ok honey?' I was mortified. She sees me & perks up telling me how much she loves me, etc...
As I leave the ladies room, i tell her to walk. I cannot carry her, I am 7 1/2 months pregnant. She proceeds to FALL BACKWARDS onto a waiter & send a tray of food flying. The entire restaurant is now staring. I literally walked away & left her there. I walked back to the table& told FH to 'do something.' My father is freaking out. Now the Maitre'D brings her to OUR table, pulls up a chair & seats her with us. Her 'friends' don't want her anymore. She speaks utter nonsense & profanities thru our dinner, passing out at times. She is on her cell phone & starts SCREAMING at her date who left her & says 'come back here & pay my tab. You know we're POOR! We can't afford sh!T!'
FH's parents say NOTHING. FH is laughing, he thinks its funny that she's so drunk. I was near tears. She goes to the Ladies room & I tell FH to follow her. He didn't. She took a digger onto someones table,knocking over their drinks.
As we leave the restaurant, she is demanding to drive. Oh, did I mention she had MY CAR????? Her car is in the shop so FH gave her mine for the night. (He bought me a new car recently, so I have 2 cars until the lease is up on the old one) My father sees the valet pull my car around & FLIPS OUT on me saying 'the girl is clearly a drug addict. When she crashes and kills someone, you will lose everything, You will lose your home, You will be liable!' He is of course, right. FH' s mother says 'she's not driving, I am.' She drives my car home. The lush REFUSES to get in the car with her mother or father, so she comes in with ME, my dad & stepmother!!!! FH says 'meet you at home!' and walks away & Leaves me with her. We were 1/2hour away. She is screaming in the car, demanding to be brought to a bar. She refuses to give me directions back to the highway so we get lost. My father was ripping his hair out.
Needless to say, SOMEONE owes me an apology. My father called at 8 am this morning & said 'we've seen enough. We're headed home.' He didn't even want to go to breakfast.
I told FH this morning how mad I am. He says I'm over reacting. I saw his mother & she said 'getting angry solves nothing. What are you going to do? It's who she is.'
I told him that I am telling the BM & staff at our wedding to cut her off.
WHAT DO I DO???? I am devastated, horified & scared for my wedding.
ETA - to make matters worse, my CAT died yesterday. He was only 5.
