okay so i need opinions.. i went to my mother with my idea for our table arrangements.. and she blew a fuse. fh and i are at our own table (the dais).. the dais is at the far end of the room and the other tables are lined against the wall on either side of the dance floor.. so what i want to do is put the bridal party at one table with their dates.. and that is where my mom flipped. she said my siblings (theyre in the bp) should sit with my family members.. and fh's brother and cousin (theyre in the bp) should sit with his family and their dates.. i want the BP at one table.... is that wrong??? i want them to sit together and i thought that was normal.... my mom flipped a friggin lid at me and yelled and cursed at me about this.. because i told her its my wedding and thats how i wanna do it.... am i being a bridezilla or is she being a MOBzilla? please give me your honest opinions.. cuz if you all tell me im being stupid i will change things around.. nothing is set in stone yet. thanks girls.
GinaBambina08
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with your idea! Both ideas make sense and it's honestly just a matter of preference...her opinion on the seating isn't any better than your idea and being that it's YOUR wedding, the decision is ultimately yours..
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I think you're right!! I dont think I've been to a wedding where the bridal party splits up and sits where their family. It's either they sit at their own table with their dates (some just have the bridal party at a table without their dates, and the dates sit at their own) which i dont like at all...or the bridal sits with the bride and groom along side of them at one of those long tables....which i also dont like lol
Mine will be sitting with their dates at their own table
LittlePup34
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i think your right its whatever you want
mRm2008
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I think your plan is absolutely fine! Its your day, make that clear to her!
MrsK2008
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ypu do whatever you need to do because regardless someone is going to get ticked off.
I am sitting my BP all over the dang place with people they will be comfortable with because that is how I would like to be seated.
There will be no BP table at our wedding!
kBr
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thank you for your replies girls.. thats how i feel about it.. i am just not a fan of the bp table without their dates OR the bp being at mine and fh's table.. but i DO want the bp to have their own table and be able to sit with their dates.. because the bp is special to me that day, i want them to stand out from everyone else. i hope my mom comes around because it really stinks that we have to fight about something so stupid that just happens to be important to me.
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The reason to have a BP is to have them with you and as a group supporting you on your day. IMO...they should all be sitting together. Mine will actually be sitting with us and their dates at a head oval table.
anneandchris
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While neither idea is wrong (it is a preference) there was definately no reason for your mom to flip out.
missliss
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MY BP will be scattered all over the place. They will be seated with their dates, but at whatever table their friends/family are seated so that they can have the best time also..... so in other words, wherever they would be seated if they weren't in my BP.....some will be together though since they're friends and/or related.
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Kristen, Debi and Fred's arrangements sound like yours, with the BP at their own table, and my Husband and I will be at a table with my Friend and her Husband, and Pastor and Wife, and some others. My Son, and other Daughter will be at the BP table. I'm ok with it. Mary MOB
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i think either way is fine to do it, since it's your wedding i say do it how you want to. we're splitting the bp up, because for us that just makes more sense, but everyone's wedding is different and there is no set rule about wthere the bp needs to sit.
zoe282
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Whatever you want to do. I'm splitting my BP up, but whatever you want you should do!
bluegreen08
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i think my bridal party with dates is just barely too many to sit at one table (i have to check on this) so i think we're going to do MOH/BMs/dates at one table and BMs/GMs/dates at another. Any room at those tables can be filled in with friends or family who are close to those people.
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You made the same mistake I did this weekend - showing someone else your seating ideas!
I had a similar situation but with one of my BM's.
Ladies who are getting married later on, review the seating with you and FH and don't show anyone else. You can't ever please everyone and it stinks how people make this into such a big deal. You are only sitting for a short time!
Either way I think is fine, if you feel strongly, do it your way, its your wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kBr
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yeah i totally regret showing my mom.... she tried to give me a guilt trip for never consulting on ideas with her or asking her to go to stores for stuff with me... so i tried telling her that this is exactly why i dont do those things with her!! because she goes psycho if i dont agree with her opinions!! argggg anywayyyy thanks girls
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do NOT stress this - put them at the table with their dates with the rest of the BP....
You are probably like most people & will try to get the BP together for little things here & there, and they'll all know each other & have little inside jokes, etc....they should sit with each other!!
This is YOUR wedding - do it YOUR WAY!!!!
Dee0522
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We are doing a BP table (w/ dates) but I think FSIL is going to sit at FH's family table because she doesn't really know the rest of the BP that well (mostly my friends and FH's coworkers). I personally don't think it's right to seat anyone separately from their date. So there would be a whole table of 'plus one's' sitting together, who, chances are will have just met? Very strange to me!
kBr
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my bp knows each other.. so its not like theyre gonna feel weird sitting together... its my 2 sisters, my brother, my best friend.. and fh's brother and cousin... my moms complaint was that maybe my siblings would wanna sit with their family members.. like cousins, aunts, uncles, etc.... and i dont think thats a big deal! we're not gonna be sitting for a long time or anything... people will all walk around and mingle... but i want the bp to have their own table near mine and fh's because theyre the bp! lol okay im done haha
AMGBride2008
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Typically, the BP sits together... guys at one table with dates, girls at another table with dates... I think you should do it your way...
