MOH Blues (long)

My MOH is naturaly cheap!! She's giving me a hard time about spending a lot of money on a dress. She thinks $165 is too much to spend on dress that your not going to wear anymore. The dresses that we picked out can be worn for dinner parties,etc. I think she's being cheap for the wrong occasion. We have been bestfriends for over 10 years, I know what this girl spends when she goes shopping. My feelings are hurt that she's being so cheap towards my wedding and it's not like she doesn't have the money to spend (everyone knew that they would have a monetary obligation for this wedding over 1 year ago). She has put that idea in her sisters head (who is a bm), but after I explained to her that your not going to find a cheap dress and gave her the figures and facts she understands. Not to say my 3 other BM are coming from out of state w/ their 6 kids in tow are not even concerned about the cost. What do you say to someone like this w/o it getting nasty or feelings (hers) being hurt?

MOH Blues (long)

Look, $165 is very inexpensive for a bridesmaid dress. I would set her straight; if she feels that the financial obligation is too much, then maybe you should ask her if she wants out. I could see her complaining about $300-400, but $165. That is ridiculous.

MOH Blues (long)

I hate to say this, but it is a long road when it comes to bridesmaids and $. Believe me. I was told by one bridesmaid that she would rather spend $40 on a bathmat for her bathroom than on shoes for the wedding. Lovely. Just remember to be patient and try to take into consideration personalities and circumstances (which I have been trying to do all along). In all honesty, $165 is really not that much for the dress and I think rather than causing you both stress, offer her the out now, if she wants it rather than letting this build up. I think we can all understand how the $ adds up when you are in a wedding, but it is an honor to be asked, and if you knew about it for a long time, you could save up what you need. Good Luck!

MOH Blues (long)

try $355 for a dress w/o alterations. no, i don`t really have the $$$, but this is her day- so i wouldn`t even dream of complaining. i`m just gonna have to suck it up and cut back on my other expenses. i was so happy that she asked me and even though i am in 2 other weddings this summer, i was honored that she included me. i think she is being selfish. if she is in a financial rut, why don`t you offer to pay for the bm dresses in lieu of a present!