Need help- I am the MOH in my best friends wedding. I am fighting with the other bridesmaids to the point where we are not really speaking. I am sure the shower will be an event in itself, since the bride knows we are fighting- my question is to I go to the BP party. They just want to go to dinner and I wanted to take her out on the town. I already told them I was going to do that anyway but what do I do about dinner. They have totally lost my respect since they were cursing at me. Is it rude that I let them take her to dinner and I do something else with her and all her other friends since they aren't inviting them to dinner? Sorry so long but need help deciding.
chellynyc
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If I were you I would still go to the dinner and then go out w/the bride after dinner - if the rest of the bridal party decides to come then fine, but if they don't then who cares. I think your friend will be upset if your not at her BP dinner, especially since you are her MOH and the most important friend to her that she chose you to be in this role.
I was a MOH in my BF's wedding last year and had many issues w/the bridal party but ultimatley I did what I knew the bride would want and would make her happy.
She had a great time at her bridal shower and her BP because I did what I knew she would like.......I did what would make her happy and not the rest of the bridal party.
To sum this up, screw the rest of the bridal party - go to the dinner for the bride and have a great time. If you don't go, the bride will be upset and the bridal party will think they got the best of you.
janelovesharry
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Posted by chellynyc
If I were you I would still go to the dinner and then go out w/the bride after dinner - if the rest of the bridal party decides to come then fine, but if they don't then who cares. I think your friend will be upset if your not at her BP dinner, especially since you are her MOH and the most important friend to her that she chose you to be in this role.
I was a MOH in my BF's wedding last year and had many issues w/the bridal party but ultimatley I did what I knew the bride would want and would make her happy.
She had a great time at her bridal shower and her BP because I did what I knew she would like.......I did what would make her happy and not the rest of the bridal party.
To sum this up, screw the rest of the bridal party - go to the dinner for the bride and have a great time. If you don't go, the bride will be upset and the bridal party will think they got the best of you.
I agree with all of this!!!! If you don't go to her dinner, she might feel bad. Ultimately, remember it's her wedding and day and her other bm's obviously aren't YOUR friends but they are hers. I went through the same thing with my cousin's wedding. I was her MOH and I HATED all her bm's, they were so rude to me and basically not nice people. But, I had to suck it up and hang out with them at certain events. Now, I wish I hadn't b/c I don't speak to my cousin anymore (that's another story ).
Just grin and bear it through the evening...$hitty as it may be...you can do it, b/c you are a good friend
Here are some hugs to get you through it
Mrs. Powell
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Posted by janelovesharry
Posted by chellynyc
If I were you I would still go to the dinner and then go out w/the bride after dinner - if the rest of the bridal party decides to come then fine, but if they don't then who cares. I think your friend will be upset if your not at her BP dinner, especially since you are her MOH and the most important friend to her that she chose you to be in this role.
I was a MOH in my BF's wedding last year and had many issues w/the bridal party but ultimatley I did what I knew the bride would want and would make her happy.
She had a great time at her bridal shower and her BP because I did what I knew she would like.......I did what would make her happy and not the rest of the bridal party.
To sum this up, screw the rest of the bridal party - go to the dinner for the bride and have a great time. If you don't go, the bride will be upset and the bridal party will think they got the best of you.
I agree with all of this!!!! If you don't go to her dinner, she might feel bad. Ultimately, remember it's her wedding and day and her other bm's obviously aren't YOUR friends but they are hers. I went through the same thing with my cousin's wedding. I was her MOH and I HATED all her bm's, they were so rude to me and basically not nice people. But, I had to suck it up and hang out with them at certain events. Now, I wish I hadn't b/c I don't speak to my cousin anymore (that's another story ).
Just grin and bear it through the evening...$hitty as it may be...you can do it, b/c you are a good friend
Here are some hugs to get you through it
Well said.
cormar
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Thanks for the advice- I have all intentions of attending for her sake. Just needed some girl advice bc FH thought differently.
She is my MOH and I wouldnt want the done to me. Thank God all my girls get along.
