MOH problems

sorry,

To make a long story short, my MOH told be this week that she wanted to bring her boyfriend of a couple months. I have worked and met him before at my last base and do not like him. This week she told me that she wanted to bring him. She didn't RSVP and when we sent out invitations being that its a destination wedding we asked ahead of time if she was going to bring someone. She said no. She didn't RSVP. So, when I told her I didn't want him there, she told me that if he doesn't come, she isn't either. I told her that I wasn't going to change my mind, that I wasn't going to feel uncomfortable at my own wedding. He would have been at all the important things she went to. She said that she had to do what she felt right and isn't coming to the wedding at all! So i had to get a new MOH and bridesmaid. Do you think I was wrong?

LyseeH

I'm sorry...

awwww i am sorry you are going through this...right before your wedding! it is your day and you have every right to feel the way you do....+ why should you feel uncomfortable @ your own wedding....

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Posted by SoulMates422

I don't think you are wrong at all. This is your day and you have the right to not feel uncomfortable at your own wedding.

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I agree wholeheartedly. Too bad she'll be missing out on Sanibel Island. It's absolutely breathtaking!!! Her loss

not wrong at alll.....its your day....

wow i cant believe this! she doesnt want to come to your WEDDING just cuz shes cant bring her bf... yea look for a new MOH! sorrry u have to go thru this

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Posted by LyseeH

sorry,

To make a long story short, my MOH told be this week that she wanted to bring her boyfriend of a couple months. I have worked and met him before at my last base and do not like him. This week she told me that she wanted to bring him. She didn't RSVP and when we sent out invitations being that its a destination wedding we asked ahead of time if she was going to bring someone. She said no. She didn't RSVP. So, when I told her I didn't want him there, she told me that if he doesn't come, she isn't either. I told her that I wasn't going to change my mind, that I wasn't going to feel uncomfortable at my own wedding. He would have been at all the important things she went to. She said that she had to do what she felt right and isn't coming to the wedding at all! So i had to get a new MOH and bridesmaid. Do you think I was wrong?

LyseeH

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no you are not wrong you are lucky you found out now what kinda friend you have and that she does not deserve the honor of being your MOH

thank you! I have been feeling bad because I want her in the wedding. But my FMIL says that maybe she used this as an excuse to get out of the wedding. There is a list of things the former MOH has done to piss my FMIL off. My future in laws are paying for the entire wedding.

Good news is I asked one of the bridesmaids I have to be the MOH and she is doing a wonderful job even though she's had it for a week! The stress is gone that I once had!

since she didnt rsvp then its her fault for not letting u kno ...and maybe its best for u if she doesnt comes...besides u dont need her there...I always tell fh the only person that needs to show up is u screw everyone else ur marrying fh not her so i wouldnt even worry about it...its a destination wedding she didnt have to make it harder for.....itll be great!!!!