MOH rant (Long Sorry)

I had one like that- but not my MOH

after I was begging her to go get measured- she finally emailed me to tell my she couldn't afford to be in my wedding

my Dad paid for the dresses, my Dad is paying for the shower

All she had to pay for was the Bach party

needless to say we don't talk anymore!

This is a hard one and although we'd love to believe that bridesmaids are there to support the bride, often times there is that one or two that actually cause more undue stress. All I can do is offer you And IMO, no, I wouldn't say anything because chances are, there may be more going on in her life (financially or otherwise) than meets the eye

I'm so sorry you have to deal with something like this! Is it possible she's jealous of you because you're getting married? What is her situation? Sometimes people have very odd reactions to others' happiness. Have you tried speaking to her about how she's acting? If not, I'd do that because I wouldn't want any resentment to build and hurt the friendship. Is there anyone else you can ask to be your MOH? Again, I'm so sorry!

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Posted by craigshunny

I'm so sorry you have to deal with something like this! Is it possible she's jealous of you because you're getting married? What is her situation? Sometimes people have very odd reactions to others' happiness. Have you tried speaking to her about how she's acting? If not, I'd do that because I wouldn't want any resentment to build and hurt the friendship. Is there anyone else you can ask to be your MOH? Again, I'm so sorry!

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I agree. it *****, though. you guys need to sit down and have a long talk.

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Posted by mclane

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Posted by craigshunny

I'm so sorry you have to deal with something like this! Is it possible she's jealous of you because you're getting married? What is her situation? Sometimes people have very odd reactions to others' happiness. Have you tried speaking to her about how she's acting? If not, I'd do that because I wouldn't want any resentment to build and hurt the friendship. Is there anyone else you can ask to be your MOH? Again, I'm so sorry!

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I agree. it *****, though. you guys need to sit down and have a long talk.

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I agree totally, and look at it this way, its still early. I hope it works out

I definitely think that you should speak with her and remind her that her job as the MOH is to make your life LESS stressful. Upon agreeing to be your MOH, she should know that it isn't going to be cheap. She definitely shouldn't be complaining to you.

I had to talk to one of my bridesmaids because she kept saying things that stressed me out. When I confronted her I just explained that things are stressful when planning a wedding and even if I was being overly sensitive, she, as my bridesmaid and FRIEND should make that allowence. I wasn't asking for a free ticket to treat her like garbage, which I wasn't, I just wanted her to think before she spoke. I even told her that if it was too much for her, she could bow out gracefully and there would be no hard feelings.

Thanks for your input. I think part of the problem is that she doesn't realize she is being hurtful.

She grew up with just her Dad and was the maid of honor for her sister so she had to do everything for her.

I think she might be anticipating that she has to do more than I expect her too.

And she might be jealous. She is single and hasn't ever had a boyfriend since high school. And all of our friends are getting married and having babies and I know she feels left out.

I think that I will give her a call this weekend and just talk to her.