MOH Rant/Vent!

My first fitting is next Sunday. I have virtually no family, and was looking forward to my MOH's being there. Initially, both were going to come, then I realized it was the same day as Wintuk (FH and I are going), so I had to make the appt earlier. One MOH said she couldn't make it. My other MOH suggested spending the night before at my place for a girls night out. I loved the idea. This week I was emailing her places we could have dinner.

So today, we were going out for drinks, and she tells me she booked a ski trip for the weekend of my fitting!!!! We were sitting on the E train going downtown, and my eyes just filled w/ tears. Having someone at my fitting meant the world to me, and the one person who would be there was backing out to ski! ***!!!!! I ask nothing of my friends. I'm always the first person there for them, but I'm always the first person they push aside when better plans come along.

I know this is long, sorry, I just really needed to vent. I'm hurting right now. I know FMIL will be there for my fitting if I ask her, I just really wanted one of my MOH's there. My other MOH is willing to cancel her plans to come with me, and I would love for her to be there, but that's so beside the point right now. OK. vent/rant over.

Any opinions??

i'm so sorry this happened...

i've said it before and i'll say it again....the longer time you have to plan, the longer you have for people to let you down & for things to go wrong!

I wish i lived in NY - i'd come with you!!!!

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Posted by davenjess

i'm so sorry this happened...

i've said it before and i'll say it again....the longer time you have to plan, the longer you have for people to let you down & for things to go wrong!

I wish i lived in NY - i'd come with you!!!!

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thank you!! and it's sad, but what you said is really true.

it is....i couldn't count on two hands and two feet the amount of times i've been sad at something that happened or that someone didn't do something they said they would....

Im sorry sweetie!! Friends can really suck sometimes!

Mary MOB

I will take you !!

Aww that s***s!!! Im sorry.. hopefully there's no snow where their skiing

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Posted by 2007 Crescent Bride

What time are you going? I can see if someone will watch my son and I will come for moral support!!!

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we should !!!

sorry you are going through this

i can relate to what you are going through. My MOH is my own sister. She has been NO help at alll. i had to push her to get her dress. i had to take a day off to accomodate her schedule. she hasn't once called me & asked how are the wedding plans or if i need any help. at first i was really upset. but i refuse to let her get to me anymore. for the most part its been me & my FMIL. Thank God for her ! she has been great. so i share my excitement with her.

my advice is try to make the best of it.. unfortunately times like this you know who your friends are !!

hey weekend twin... i looked at u'r pictures.. is u'r dress from macys bridal?

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Posted by teenigrrl

My first fitting is next Sunday. I have virtually no family, and was looking forward to my MOH's being there. Initially, both were going to come, then I realized it was the same day as Wintuk (FH and I are going), so I had to make the appt earlier. One MOH said she couldn't make it. My other MOH suggested spending the night before at my place for a girls night out. I loved the idea. This week I was emailing her places we could have dinner.

So today, we were going out for drinks, and she tells me she booked a ski trip for the weekend of my fitting!!!! We were sitting on the E train going downtown, and my eyes just filled w/ tears. Having someone at my fitting meant the world to me, and the one person who would be there was backing out to ski! ***!!!!! I ask nothing of my friends. I'm always the first person there for them, but I'm always the first person they push aside when better plans come along.

I know this is long, sorry, I just really needed to vent. I'm hurting right now. I know FMIL will be there for my fitting if I ask her, I just really wanted one of my MOH's there. My other MOH is willing to cancel her plans to come with me, and I would love for her to be there, but that's so beside the point right now. OK. vent/rant over.

Any opinions??

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Did you tell her how you felt ??

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Posted by shoegal68

sorry you are going through this

i can relate to what you are going through. My MOH is my own sister. She has been NO help at alll. i had to push her to get her dress. i had to take a day off to accomodate her schedule. she hasn't once called me & asked how are the wedding plans or if i need any help. at first i was really upset. but i refuse to let her get to me anymore. for the most part its been me & my FMIL. Thank God for her ! she has been great. so i share my excitement with her.

my advice is try to make the best of it.. unfortunately times like this you know who your friends are !!

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My FMIL is great, and she will go with me. I'm very thankful for her. It's sad but true, you really see other people's true colors in times like this.

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Posted by mookie73

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Posted by teenigrrl

My first fitting is next Sunday. I have virtually no family, and was looking forward to my MOH's being there. Initially, both were going to come, then I realized it was the same day as Wintuk (FH and I are going), so I had to make the appt earlier. One MOH said she couldn't make it. My other MOH suggested spending the night before at my place for a girls night out. I loved the idea. This week I was emailing her places we could have dinner.

So today, we were going out for drinks, and she tells me she booked a ski trip for the weekend of my fitting!!!! We were sitting on the E train going downtown, and my eyes just filled w/ tears. Having someone at my fitting meant the world to me, and the one person who would he saw me crying, so I was immediately defensive. When I'm upset, it's best for me to calm down first, then talk about it. Since I've calmed down, I haven't spoken to her, but I know she's upset as wbe there was backing out to ski! ***!!!!! I ask nothing of my friends. I'm always the first person there for them, but I'm always the first person they push aside when better plans come along.

I know this is long, sorry, I just really needed to vent. I'm hurting right now. I know FMIL will be there for my fitting if I ask her, I just really wanted one of my MOH's there. My other MOH is willing to cancel her plans to come with me, and I would love for her to be there, but that's so beside the point right now. OK. vent/rant over.

Any opinions??

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Did you tell her how you felt ??

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She saw me tear up, so my immediate reaction is to be defensive. I know she was upset too, but I need to calm down before I'm able to really talk about things. I don't want to say something I may later end up regretting.

Aww.. i'm sorry. People can be selfish sometimes....try not to let it hurt you.
Thank goodness for your FMIL...

And I don't even know you but I would have went with you!!

First of alll I'm sorry you feel sad because they backed out on you. I know you really want them there. Is there a way you can change the appointment to a different time which will be good for them and you? If not then go with FMIL and insist that you want them there for your final fitting when you pick up your dress. Im sorry again