MOH vent

So my sister is a my MOH as is 4 years younger than I am. She started dating this guy in April and he's been staying at our house because he lives far away from his job and our house is closer, but thats besides the point. So today I have a dress fitting for the wedding I am a bridesmaid in in July. So i thought my sister could come with me to start looking at dresses for my wedding. She told me she would come with me, but now the boyfriend is staying over tonight so she wanted to bring him with us to look at dresses. I don't want him there so my sister said well then Im not coming. Does anyone else think thats a little screwed up that first of all you would want to bring your bf shopping for BM dresses which Im sure he probably doesnt want to go to and to not come with me just because I don't want him there. I am so mad right now. i feel like everyone in my family could care less about this wedding. The only one who is willing to do everything I ask for help with is my FSIL. I should have made her MOH. Sorry this is so long. Im really mad and upset right now. So I guess Ill just go today and start looking at the dresses myself and if she doesn't like the dress I pick out. Too bad! Sorry again

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm going through a lot of S H *T at the moment too.

I would firmly tell your sister that there is no reason for her bf to be there and this is something that you want to do with just her.

That is really immature of your sister to get mad about something like that. Just try and talk to her

I know where you're coming from! I'm the first one to get married on my side and I feel like none of my BMs are interested in my wedding! I do most of my wedding stuff alone or with my mom bc I understand that it could be boring for someone who is single. However, your sister is the MOH and I think she should definetly go with you!! She already said she was going - it's not your fault her boyfriend is staying with you guys. I would tell her that your going bm dress shopping today with or with out her but you would like for her to come because your not the one who has to wear the dress. If she refuses again then say 'Oh well if you don't like what I pick I really don't want to hear it.' Good luck and sorry you're going through this

wow, that's kinda selfish of her, ok, its a LOT selfish. her bf wouldn't even want to go anyway. only my FH would want to go. lol

honestly, Id sit her *** down and say look, you're my sister and I love you, but this is really hurting my feelings. your bf can stay home for 2 hrs while we look.

if she continues to be impossible Id ask yor FSIL to be the MOH, but that's just me. I don't do drama.

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Posted by aquag12283

So my sister is a my MOH as is 4 years younger than I am. She started dating this guy in April and he's been staying at our house because he lives far away from his job and our house is closer, but thats besides the point. So today I have a dress fitting for the wedding I am a bridesmaid in in July. So i thought my sister could come with me to start looking at dresses for my wedding. She told me she would come with me, but now the boyfriend is staying over tonight so she wanted to bring him with us to look at dresses. I don't want him there so my sister said well then Im not coming. Does anyone else think thats a little screwed up that first of all you would want to bring your bf shopping for BM dresses which Im sure he probably doesnt want to go to and to not come with me just because I don't want him there. I am so mad right now. i feel like everyone in my family could care less about this wedding. The only one who is willing to do everything I ask for help with is my FSIL. I should have made her MOH. Sorry this is so long. Im really mad and upset right now. So I guess Ill just go today and start looking at the dresses myself and if she doesn't like the dress I pick out. Too bad! Sorry again

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HA!!! This is my story too!!!! I picked FH's sister bc we are great friends and she couldnt care less about doing anything for me. I should have picked FSIL too!! I feel your pain on this.....I dont know what to do....

Yeah I really just don't get why she would even think that was a good idea to bring him, and in all honesty she'd probably wind up paying more attention to him than the actual dress shopping (esp. since they only just started dating and that's the 'cutesy stage' lol).

Like the girls said, just sit her down and explain to her why you are upset about the situation and see where it goes from there. If you don't like your sister reaction or response, you can decide what to do from there.

Why can't he stay home for a few hours while you ladies go look at some dresses.? There really is no need for him to go and I would not be comfortable trying on wedding gowns infront of any guy... The only guy I would allow to see my Dress would be my Dad...

But anyway Im sorry you are going thru this...Maybe explain to her that you dont want any guys seeing you trying on dresses and that you thought it would be nice to go with just the 2 of you..

I'm so sorry about this!
maybe she doesn't want to leave her bf alone because he will feel weird or akward if he is at your house by himself and that why she wanted him to tag along. either way, i don't think thats something he would care enough to go to, and i wouldn't want him there either.

its still a little bit early, so i would try again and see if she will come with you on another day, minus the bf, if she still won't pick out the dresses out yourself and just tell her to go buy it.

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Posted by Moonmist09

I'm so sorry about this!
maybe she doesn't want to leave her bf alone because he will feel weird or akward if he is at your house by himself and that why she wanted him to tag along. either way, i don't think thats something he would care enough to go to, and i wouldn't want him there either.

its still a little bit early, so i would try again and see if she will come with you on another day, minus the bf, if she still won't pick out the dresses out yourself and just tell her to go buy it.

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He's stayed at our house before by himself. So there really is no reason. I know its early but I figured since I would be there getting fitted for the other dress we could start looking and then narrow it down to show the other BM's. She said she would come with me minus the BF tonight after I complained to her, but like i said to her was it really necessary to stress me out for no reason

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Posted by allornil

wow, that's kinda selfish of her, ok, its a LOT selfish. her bf wouldn't even want to go anyway.

honestly, Id sit her *** down and say look, you're my sister and I love you, but this is really hurting my feelings. your bf can stay home for 2 hrs while we look.

if she continues to be impossible Id ask yor FSIL to be the MOH, but that's just me. I don't do drama.

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ITA!