MOH Vent...UPDATE

Well I have 2 maids of honor....... 1 has been my friend since we are 3 and the other even though I know her only 7 yrs she is like my sister.... well the one I know for 23 years has really been pissin me off this whole time...... she has always wanted to be my MOH and assumed she would be so I gave the honor...... truthfully I really only wanted the other one to be but I fig we have been friends for so long and there for each other so I said what the hell i'll have 2.... anyway .....anytime I would bring up anything about the wedding she would totally change the subject and disregard anything I was talking about.... when it came time to go for the dress fitting she was like well I have to go out with my coworkers for happy hour but she did end up coming anyway after my other friend told her that was really f**** up.... she got mad when my other friend said she is planning the bachelorette party and insulted when she was told she took no interest in anything.... but she really has no clue about anything thats going on....... (there are many other things but I dont think the page is long enough)....now the other day I turned around and was like hey MOH whens my wedding date... and she didnt even know she thougth a few min and said ummm the day before thanksgiving... my other friend was like u think shes getting married on a wednesday..... now I am to the point that im so fed up I dont even want her as my MOH or even at my wedding.... I just dont know what to do.... do I suck it up and let it go or tell her how much she pisses me off and that she doesnt deserve the honor..... sorry soo long but I need to ge this off my chest!

Update

Well its been a few days since this post and i still havent spoken to her I along with a few of my other friends have ignored her.... (friends have other reasons and everyone is sick of her) everytime she calls i cant bring myself to answer the phone because i just want to pick up and say you outta the wedding!!!!.... the test will be tonight if she shows up at my friends bbq so i will keep you guys updated!!... thanks for all of your input!

You def. need to talk to this girl. I was a BM in a wedding once and had no idea when the wedding was. But I guess your MOH should be different. I would ask her if she really wants to be your MOH or just hold the title, express how you feel about her inability to get interested in your wedding and lack of interest in planning anything. The conversation will go where it is meant to go. If it goes well your friendship will probably be stronger, if not then you'll have your answer and won't have to always look at your pics with an ex-friend in them. GL hope it all works out

I know what you are going thrugh! I have 2 also ...1 has been my friend since we were 3 and the other is actually my sister and that's the one I have problems with LOL. My sister is hard to get a hold of she never returns calls etc. and she lives 3 hrs away from me and the rest of the BP...and basically the only reason I have her as one of the MOH is well because it's my sis... (I really wanted just my friend but now I have 2 LOL) My other girls have bee just great!!

wow that is a tough one! I would def try to tell her how you feel...hopefully that will make her realize she is hurting your feelings! MY MOH's ( I have 2 also) have been great but I THINK of one of my BM could kinda careless... Some people are just selfish!

I say this b/c I had a MOH who cuold care less about the whole thing. She was soooo into it until it got closer...didnt want to meet up with me to do vendors meetings (which I never required her to do) I just figured if she wanted to come she could...bought .99 cents chinese slippers to wear with her dress b/c she didnt want her feet to hurt! She complained about everything I did, even complained that my FMIL was doing my shower the day after my bachelorette party...and MOH and BMs didnt pay for the shower..notttaaaa!

She complained and said she wanted to go home thru my whole B-party and really made it into a bad bad night.

With all that said...I kept her as my MOH...BIG MISTAKE! In every picture of myself and DH with her int he back ground she has a nasty face on, or a puss face or looks so uninterested its not funny. NOT worth it.

If I knew now what i knew then she would have been given the boot and told she could be a BM but not my MOH... I would have preferred to have someone by my side that could at least be a little excited and be honored that I considered her that close to me...but instead I got the devil of MOHs...and she wonders why we rarely speak now

Jaclyn-- so sorry you have to deal with this!!! I know exactly how you feel - I too have 2 MOH's and one is fantastic (she's in VA) the other one not so much!!!! I have talked to her twice about the whole situation - she seems to be trying!! so my suggestion, as said by the other ladies, is to talk to her!!! get it off your chest and then see what happens!!! either way you will be better off!!!

good luck and keep us posted!!!!!