mom + me = drama

need to vent

I have had a lot of resentment towards my mother with the way she has raised me!!!! I am 24 and can't stand looking at her knowing that she has done wrong. When i confront her about it, she becomes very defensive and tries to avoid the situation.

i cant be apart of that anymore. its long pass due and she still thinks its right to treat me like crap.....

Its to DEEP for details......

i live with my parents because its the smart thing but i am never happy when i am there.....
they are unstable
they are everything i don't want to be


i have the opportunity to move out and live with FSIL

I have a new family......my FH's family....which is amazing. i am SOOOOO happy when i'm with them

i feel that the best revenge would be to never speak to my parents again.....that would make me extremely happy!!!

i would love to even NOT invite her to my wedding.....
honestly i want nothing to do with her ever......
i have felt this way for about 14 years......
I AM TO NICE OF A PERSON........
y do i feel like i always have to OWE HER......

please just give me a good kick in the A$$!!!

what do you think????

awww I'm sorry!! I can't tell you what to do, but I'm here if you need to vent more.

My friend went through something similar with his mom and he moved out. He speaks to his parents when he has to and still gets the bday/christmas presents, although he always says he won't. He doesn't want to invite them to his wedding either..but probably will and then they prob won't come and he'll feel bad. It's so tough...they are your parents...but if they weren't there for you...I don't know.

Wish I could help...but here's some

Hum..
Well I have alot of resentment twds my Mother and Father in how they brought me up as well. I do know they meant well but it doesn't stop my feelings. I don't hate them , I do love them but I do dislike them. Make sense?

I don't think your speaking from your heart I think your speaking out of anger. Think of the loss of your parents or if something terrible had happened to them - how would you feel? Try to keep that in perspective. Hopefully you will take knowledge in what not to do for your future parenting skills that you did not approve of and be a better parent

Try to keep in mind that our parents are just human and they do make mistakes. LOTS of them.

Wishing you best of luck and try to remember to breath.

Oh ya I don't recommend you to disinvite your mom to your wedding. I think you might regret it.

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Posted by gemmifer

Hum..
Well I have alot of resentment twds my Mother and Father in how they brought me up as well. I do know they meant well but it doesn't stop my feelings. I don't hate them , I do love them but I do dislike them. Make sense?

I don't think your speaking from your heart I think your speaking out of anger. Think of the loss of your parents or if something terrible had happened to them - how would you feel? Try to keep that in perspective. Hopefully you will take knowledge in what not to do for your future parenting skills that you did not approve of and be a better parent

Try to keep in mind that our parents are just human and they do make mistakes. LOTS of them.

Wishing you best of luck and try to remember to breath.

Oh ya I don't recommend you to disinvite your mom to your wedding. I think you might regret it.

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ITA!!! with all my heart I agree. I have a bitter dislike towards my parents...I LOVE my dad and my mom but things that happened while I was growing up always tend to creep back in.

All I know is for all the bad things, I am here today, those things MADE me the person I am today. Made me want and not want more or less. I dont recommend you not invite her-you may say that now-but in years down the road you may not be able to go back across that bridge again.