Mom Situation...thoughts?? (long - sorry)

Okay ladies -

My wedding is starting at 6:00 - so i'll be getting ready around 2:00 is my guess. We can get into the Fox Hollow's photo studio at any time - so I want to get in there earlier so we didn't have to miss the cocktail hour...

Part of our package with the Fox Hollow is that we get the night of our wedding at the Hotel next door and we can check in at 2:00. I had planned to get ready at the hotel, in the suite so that we wouldn't need to get a limo at all for anyone.

My mom is upset because i'm not planning on getting ready at her house (where i grew up). She was thinking that I would so we could get some pictures at the house.

Part of me wants to but mostly - my parents are going to be selling the house eventually and I don't want to have another huge life memory there just to see them sell it in a few years...

We are paying for everything ourselves, so the cost of a limo will fall to us as well - but that really is only part of my reason for not wanting it..

What do you think?

Ouch that's a tough decision... But maybe there are some creative solutions...

Can you have your photog meet you there before you head to the Fox Hollow at 2pm? The photog could take a few sentimental shots, maybe your dress hanging up, or your veil or something?

Maybe some fun shots of just you and your mom (and Dad?).

Then you can take a regular car service (or family car?) to the Fox Hollow in time for your 2pm check in?

Its a little tough to be creative though without the logistics (how far is mom's house from Fox Hollow, would your photog be able to come 1 hour early, etc)...

if the cost of having a limo is the main issue, I think your mom would understand once you explain the logistics... But don't rule it out simply from the emotional standpoint (that they'll sell in a few years) - its kind of bittersweet now but years from now it might be a really SWEET memory; plus you'll know how happy it made your Mom!!

Best of luck with whichever you decide!!

I don't know... i have to say i agree with your mom. granted, i am very traditional and everything in my wedding was too... but i don't know, i guess i feel your parents raised you in that house and 'giving you away' probably means so much to them so getting ready in the house were you grew up will be a bittersweet, very special and senitmental moment for them. i LOVED getting ready at home and i love the pictures of me and my parents in our house... the house my father built and we all grew up.... nothing is more meaningful than being in the house you grew up right before you leave to get married.... your last step to adulthood in your parents' eyes. i i think even if they are going to sell the house, that will be one more special memory you'll have and you'll have the pictures of it too. . . .to me, i think the hotel is impersonal... when will you ever be back there again....

good luck to you in your decision!

Hm, tough decision. You just have to go with your gut. Whatever you feel deep down is what you should do.
Personally I am not taking pictures at my parents house. They have 2 huge dogs and it will be too chaotic. So for sanity reasons, I am not. I hope I don't look back and regret it.
Good luck.

I think that you should get ready at the hotel. Just let them know that your finances are running thin and you can't afford to get the limos. If she is going to make a big deal ask her to help pay for the limos then.
I didn't get ready at my mom's house either. I got ready at the hotel with all of my girlfriends. It was just easier.
Sorry you are in this situation!

I am planning the same thing at the Fox Hollow.

Another consideration is that it is easier for your bridal party to be getting ready at a hotel right next door. All the travel is done with so you don't have to worry about traffic, weather, limo not showing up, etc.

If you feel attached to the house then you should do it there. But if it is your mom's dream, not yours, try having a heart to heart with her and explain finances/practicalities outweigh it.

I'm sure whichever you do will end up beautiful. And maybe you can take a few shots there before you go to the fox hollow to please your mom.