im just curious how many of us Brides are paying for their wedding entirely on their own... Are you saving cash every month, loan? Using a credit card.
Sitting down trying to imagine how I will come up with a bazillion dollars is just plain OVERWHELMING!!
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We are paying on our own. Actually I've been the one to lay out money right now, but FH will be paying the balance on everything in December when a CD he has matures. So we're both paying, but right now it's me laying out with each paycheck.
We have a date tomorrow night to go over how we are going to save $2000 between now and September to make the Metropolitan payment. It's the only one we really have to scrape for. Everything else has already been budgeted.
I hear you on it being overwhelming. I think there might be a cocktail or 7 tomorrow night to ease the pain.
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We are paying for it on our own. We have got a little help from my parents & FFIL but i'd say 90% is being paid for by us. We had some savings and continue to save each month. We will not be taking out a loan. So far it has been working out just fine. I hope it continues to stay that way.
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I give you all soooooo much credit. FH and I are paying for some of the wedding and that's overwhelming- I couldn't handle/imagine paying for the whole wedding. It's really awesome of everyone who can pay for their dream wedding good job ladies!
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We are paying for most of it ourselves. It is overwhelming but I'm really good at budgeting my money.
Percz2418
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We are thankfully getting help. Our reception is essentially being paid for, as well as the rehersal dinner, honeymoon, and my dress, shoes, accessories, veil, hair, makeup, etc. The rest is up to us. We decided how much we could take from each of our individual accounts to deposit to start a joint wedding account. Then we agreed on how much we would each be able to contribute per pay check. Then we came up with the estimate of how much we'd be able to save. We've greatly cut down on extraneous spending too and put in extra where we can. Budgeting is NOT fun. But it will be so worth it when your big day comes!
We are lucky that my parents chipped in a lot and his parents offered to help too. So while we are still paying for a lot of it ourselves and it's been difficult to save, we've had a lot of reprieve.
Having a Thursday night wedding and a ridiculously low budget for a dress and flowers helped out a LOT, I have to say. At this point, we are only still saving like crazy to be able to pay for the honeymoon. Our goal is to be debt-free, wedding-wise, on July 4, 2014!
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100% on our own. Very very stressful but we are saving like crazy.
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We are paying for the wedding on our own. It has not been easy, not being able to go out to dinner or hang out with friends at a bar. And I am a graduate student, so I don't make much. But we are trying really hard, keeping our guest list really really small and only getting the basics with the vendors.
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FH & I were originally paying for the majority of it with some help from FFIL. My parents aren't in the position to really help and I don't speak to my father. FFIL recently turned around and offered to pay for the ENTIRE thing! We were beyond shocked and relieved. More money to save for our future
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We are paying it on our own..Actually a big bulk is from me. I wanted my dream wedding so I was happy to pay for it. I had a big chuck of money saved up and I'm continuing to save up! My mentality is money can be made again..one night of memories is priceless..lol
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Posted by violet0711
We are paying it on our own..Actually a big bulk is from me. I wanted my dream wedding so I was happy to pay for it. I had a big chuck of money saved up and I'm continuing to save up! My mentality is money can be made again..one night of memories is priceless..lol
That's what got me to realize this as well. I thought a wedding and reception was frivolous. All this crap for signing a marriage license.
But you're right. A lifetime of memories is priceless. Thanks for putting this in perspective.
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FH and I are paying ourselves also. My mom is paying for my dress and wants to get us a photo booth but that's about it! We are savings more than we pay in rent every month. I can't wait to be putting this money towards a house! or just some fun spending/vacations! we are still over a year to go but we are just making payment and putting $ into our long term savings account and checking things off the list as the money goes in. sometimes I wonder if we will have it all when the time comes but there is no turning back now! we don't plan on using any CC's (except maybe for extra spending on our honeymoon) and we certainly are not taking out a loan unless it's for a house or a lifetime spent in retirement!!
don't stress! just do the best you can, you are getting married because you LOVE one another and want to spend your lives together and creating a family. Not because you need extra lights, or bigger bouquets or a bigger diamond. I think a lot of people forget what a wedding really is about.
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Posted by Soon2BeMrsPy
FH & I were originally paying for the majority of it with some help from FFIL. My parents aren't in the position to really help and I don't speak to my father. FFIL recently turned around and offered to pay for the ENTIRE thing! We were beyond shocked and relieved. More money to save for our future
wow!!!! go you!! sorry you don't speak to your father (I don't speak to mine either) but my aunt (my father's sister) always told me 'You can't choose your father, but you can choose your father in law!'
looks like you did a good job :)
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Posted by jenandivan
Posted by violet0711
We are paying it on our own..Actually a big bulk is from me. I wanted my dream wedding so I was happy to pay for it. I had a big chuck of money saved up and I'm continuing to save up! My mentality is money can be made again..one night of memories is priceless..lol
That's what got me to realize this as well. I thought a wedding and reception was frivolous. All this crap for signing a marriage license.
But you're right. A lifetime of memories is priceless. Thanks for putting this in perspective.
My friends all think I'm crazing for spending all this money in one day, but in my personal opinion, I think it's worth it. I want my dream wedding to be married to the guy of my dreams. In the end, I may be broke, but I will be happily broke..lol.
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We are paying for about 70% of it on our own. We put aside a predetermined amount of money each week. We based it on our budget and so far so good! It's really tight, but it will be worth it.
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We are paying for all of it ourselves with the exception of my dress which luckily my mom has offered to buy. FH is not good at saving so he covers most of the bills each month which allows me to put away most of my income for savings. It's a very tight budget but we make it work, and in the end I'm glad we aren't accruing any debt from the Wedding. And it makes me feel confidant about when it comes to saving up for a house I know we can do it since we're saving so much now! Lol
We're pretty much paying it all ourselves. My mom is paying for our DJ and photobooth and she says she's going to pay for at least half, if not all my dress, but i'm not counting on the money for a dress. (not that she's not good for it, but she's really not in the position to be shelling out even an additional 1k for my dress)
FH and I are paying for the venue, photographer and decor. We have a savings plan and are doing well with it. I buy certain things every now and then like vases and certain little things so it doesn't seem TOOOOOO extravagant.
We're also saving for a house at the same time. So we're broke now... but I know in 2 years it will be worth it <3
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Posted by violet0711
We are paying it on our own..Actually a big bulk is from me. I wanted my dream wedding so I was happy to pay for it. I had a big chuck of money saved up and I'm continuing to save up! My mentality is money can be made again..one night of memories is priceless..lol
You are so right...this one night of memories is priceless...
We are paying for the wedding on our on and have been saving and reducing our spending. I have significantly cut back on my shopping, we reallly don't eat out much and we try to find activities that are low to no cost. I am amazed at how much money we've been able to save..
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We are paying it on our own and saving each pay check certain amount to make payments plus putting money aside to save for the final balance. It is really nerve wracking and everytime I do the total amounts I cringe and hope that my calculations will be accurate lol.
