I think it's the norm to have BMs buy their own dress, right? Are you making them buy matching shoes that you choose or wear their own based on your specifications?
Is everyone paying for their own hair and makeup or will you pay for that too?
Are they chipping in for the bridal shower? bachelorette party?
Are you paying for their hotel rooms?
Are you buying their DOJ?
stinenandy2010
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My girls are paying for their dresses, any alterations that are needed, bachelorette party and hair/makeup. The hair and makeup was up to them whether or not they wanted it. All of them are getting hair done but not all of them are getting makeup done. And no hotel rooms are necessary for them.
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They are buying their own dresses... im telling them they can pick any dyable from Davids Bridal and just have it dyed the color of the dress...
they are paying for their own hair and makeup, mainly because im not making them go and get it done... they can do whatever they want in that regard.
I dont know about the shower... im assuming they are chipping in...
the bachelorette party is a baseball game, so everyone is paying for their own ticket, and everyone is chipping in for the bus and beer for the bus then their beers at the stadium...
not getting hotel rooms... i am paying for their transportation to and from the RH if they want it... we all are going back to my neighborhood so there is no reason for hotel rooms... fh and i are staying in our own house that night as well...
yes i bought them their DOJ
xela
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I am not supplying my bm's with any of that stuff...but I did ask them not to give us anything for our wedding. I know how that stuff adds up bc I've been in a bridal party before.
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For my girls, I have having them just wear black strappy shoes (their dresses are black). All the other partise I've been in just told us what color to wear but I've heard of girls asking them to buy shoes too. I just think it's an not needed expense.
I'm having my girls pay for their own hair and makeup but if there are any travel expenses (they are coming to the house) then I'll cover that and MAYBE tipping, I'm not too sure yet.
My mom and FMIL are paying for the bridal shower. The depends on who ends up hosting the shower. Typically the BP pays for it but some moms have been known to host it since they tend to be expensive. As for the Bach Party, I think my BP is paying for me to go to that. I was told I didn't have to worry about that, so it's either the whole BP or my MOHs are paying for me.
We can't afford to pay for their hotel rooms. I've heard of brides doing that but that can be REALLY expensive.
As of the DOJ, I'm DEF paying for that. It's going to be one of their gifts that I give them before the wedding as a thank you for putting up with me.
I hope this was helpful to you!
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My girls are paying for their dresses, their own hair and makeup (if they choose to get it down), their shoes (I told them any silver shoe), and probably part of my bachelorette party.
My mom and FMIL are paying for my shower, my mom said she is not requesting money from my BM's because she knows they're all strapped for cash.
I am buying them all necklaces as part of their gifts.
As for hotel rooms, I *might* ask them to all stay with me the night before and if so, I will pay. But if they get a room the night of, that's their own tab.
runnerbride1023
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My BMs are paying for their dress and any alterations. The dresses are black and I asked the girls to all decide if they will wear closed toe or peep - and the shoes should be black. other than that I dont care, and since it is a black shoe if they have to buy new ones I dont feel as bad since they will definitely wear them again.
i am paying for make up and hair, only b/c I dont think i can ask them to get it done and then not pay for it. if it was optional, I wouldn't pay.
I am not paying for their hotel rooms if they decide to stay over, but i am arranging for a car service to pick them up at their apartments and bring them to the RH on the day of. Partially b/c I am worried the dress will get wrinkled and they do not have cars.
I am buying their DOJ. I am asking them to wear simple stud earrings and I am buying a bracelet for each of them.
Not sure about the shower or B-party. I am not involved in those.
asg450
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My BM's are paying for their dresses.
They can wear any shoes they want as long as they are silver.
They will be paying for their own hair and makeup, I will pay for their henna if they plan to do it.
I think they will be chipping in for the bridal shower and bach. party.
They do not have to book any hotel rooms.
No I am not buying their DOJ, I'm getting them a number of different things as their BM gifts.
halfbaked
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The BMs are paying for their own dresses, with the exception of my sister. She's 16, I'll buy her dress for her.
I'm not making the girls buy matching anything (not even the dresses!). So they can wear whatever shoes/jewelry they already have or buy whatever they'd like. I won't be buying them DOJ because I don't want to dictate what they can and cannot wear. No hotel rooms are needed. I'd like to pay for their day of make-up but that's on the back burner until we get closer to the day. I'll probably take them out to get manis/pedis the night before though! I don't think they are chipping in for the bridal shower, though they will have to do some manual labor. LOL! But I think they are all chipping in for the bachelorette party.
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they are buying their own dresses and doing the alterations. my fmil is a hair stylist so she'll be doing our hair that day and everyone will probably just do their own makeup or if they wanna go somewhere, they can pay for it. my sister will be doing my makeup. my sister & mom paid for majority of my shower, with the help of my fmil. the bridesmaids will be paying for my bachelorette party also... i wanted to chip in but they aren't having any of that. and as for jewelry, i said that they can wear whatever they want. they are all very different so i thought it'd be cool to see the different styles.
jcreilly
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my girls are buying there own dress and shoe they want, ( same color ), hair and make-up there are doing themselves! if I can I will pay for there makeup as well!
MissingLI
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I'm having a destination wedding and am only having one BM. I told her that I would pay for her dress because I know that she will already have the cost of traveling. If I am able to, I will try to pay for her hair or make-up.
As for the shower/bachelorette...not sure if I'm going to have either. I live OOS now and I'm not sure who would throw those things.
I will buy her the DOJ as well.
debzy
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My BMs paid for their dresses. I told them to wear whatever shoes they wanted, as long as they were silver. They paid for those, if they didn't already have them. I let them wear their own jewelry.
They did their own/paid for their own hair and m/u. However, the day before I took them all for manis and pedis, which I paid for.
My mom paid for my bridal shower. My BMs and attendees paid for the bachelorette party.
Only 1 BM needed a hotel room and she paid for it herself.
LanaB
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I am buying their dresses. Most prob I will chip in a lil for my bachlorette, because I totally understand with today's economy its not easy to pay for everything. And not sure about the bridal shower
LanaB
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p.s. The shoes I don't care about because my BM dresses are very long you wont be able to see the shoes anyway. And hair and makeup its up to them weather they wanna get it done in the salon or themselves
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I am paying for their make up & DOJ. I dont really care if they have matching shoes b/c their dress are going to be floor length. I prefer they do something w/their hair but I dont care what, so they can pay for that. Oh and the ONLY thing I am going to be a pain in the a$$ about is tan lines......I CANT STAND when ladies have tan lines in wedding pictures. I plan on offering to pay for their spray tan if they do have tan lines & possibly their mani's.....geezzzee i'm going to be SUPER poor!!!!
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Oh and the ONLY thing I am going to be a pain in the a$$ about is tan lines......I CANT STAND when ladies have tan lines in wedding pictures. I plan on offering to pay for their spray tan if they do have tan lines & possibly their mani's.....geezzzee i'm going to be SUPER poor!!!!
OMG I didn't even think of that!!! Will people have tan lines in early june???
las1
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What are your BMs paying for? dress, shoes, make up and hair
I think it's the norm to have BMs buy their own dress, right? Are you making them buy matching shoes that you choose or wear their own based on your specifications? my dresses are black so i just requested they wear black shoes
Is everyone paying for their own hair and makeup or will you pay for that too? no they are paying but some are not gettting it done - they are doing it themselves
Are they chipping in for the bridal shower? bachelorette party? My sister and mother paid for my bridal shower here and my FMIL paid for my shower in southern NJ. BM's did not pay at all for shower. They paid some for the bach party but my sister paid for most of it. Are you paying for their hotel rooms? No.
Are you buying their DOJ? No.
MikesBride2B
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They are buying their own dresses, but I found them for a great deal so its not nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
I don't care what shoes they wear, the dresses are floor length
If they want hair/makeup they will pay for it, although i was thinking about giving $50 towards it as a gift.
My mom is paying for my shower so they're off the hook there...
I'm assuming they will pay for at least part of my bparty.
Lucky2010
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They're paying for their dresses and alterations.
I don't care about shoes, but that is up to them.
Hair and make-up is optional for them. I haven't booked it yet, but I will definitely tell them the prices and to let me know if they're interested. I don't want them to feel pressured, but I know one of my BMs wants to get it done because she didn't get it done at another friend's wedding and regretted it. They'll willing to splurge.
I'm definitely buying their DOJ and giving them a gift.
I'm assuming that they will take care of the bachelorette party. I'll probably get them cute t-shirts or something to wear though. I shouldn't assume though so I'll discuss this with my MOH!
As far as my bridal shower, my mom is in contact with my MOH so my mom will probably pick up the expense. I don't think she'll let my friends pay for it.
