Moral support needed

I'm a little overwhelmed right now so I'm just venting. I'm so behind on my wedding planning and had been getting so discouraged. All I really have for sure is the place and the photographer/videographer. I can't even find the time to go in and see the priest. I work minimim 80 hrs/wk and just can't get it together. Then, a few days ago I found the dress after starting to feel like I would never find 'the' dress. I was back in the spirit of things and making appointments and feeling optimistic.

So now of course here comes the disaster to knock me back down. My father had a stroke yesterday. He has never taken good care of himself and I've told him for years that this could happen but I'm just the baby, he doesn't listen to me. I had a nagging fear that this would happen for a long time now. I keep having visions of walking down the aisle by myself because he can't walk or not having a father-daughter dance. My father is such a big show-off, I can't imagine him not making a speech and he can't talk properly. The funny thing is that we are not that close and I was considering not doing all of those things anyway. Its so different when its not even an option.
I know he can get better and I hope that he will but right now I'm in the worst case scenario mode. I just can't deal right now. I probably will end up postponing after all because I can't even imagine how I can find the energy or the time to plan now. I couldn't do it before with less on my plate. I'm just so frustrated and so upset and I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I often have the same worries about my parents and constantly beg them to take better care of themselves -- its very frustrating! The funny thing is that if the situation were reversed they would probably tell us the same thing. I hope your father has a quick recovery, and that you are able to figure out what to do regarding the wedding. I actually had to postpone my wedding for various reasons, and it was the best decision I could have made. You deserve to have as happy and stress-free engagement as possible -- even if it turns out to be a bit long. Good luck & stay strong.

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Very sorry to hear about your father. I felt at times that I was so stressed out, and didnt care about the wedding plans, but once your day comes closer, you will feel much differently. You have to be strong and especially for the sake of your father. I know I would be devastated if I was in your position. The thought of my dad not walking me down the aisle..etc. But he can still whether he is in a wheelchair, or a walker. Its the thought that he is there with you. No matter how he walks you down the aisle, or gives you away, or have your dance with your father, he will be there for your very special day Cheer up sweetie, everything will come together. XOXOXOXOX

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So Sorry to hear about your dad. If you know he is going to be ok then try to just be thankfull that he will still be here to walk you down the aisle.

Can you take a personal day anytime? I actually did that today and got a few things done.
Maybe take some time off for a few weeks to be with your dad and when your feeling up to it again you'll be back on track.

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I am sorry to hear about your dad. My dad & i are SO close, and my dad has had 2 heart attacks and he is ok now. He is in and out of the hospital alot still with angina attacks, angioplasties etc.i am sure your dad will be ok.
if you need help of any kind i am here

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Honestly you should wait a month or so before postponing anything. See how your Dad is feeling and then talk with him and decide together. People recover from strokes and other illnesses.
If you are stressed about your planning and time, perhaps hiring a coordinator could help you. You do not have to be a celebrity to have a coordinator or pay for one either. I got one to help with my the wedding day so I would not stress over anything that day.
Let us know what you still have to do and we can help. Call the Church and make an appointment to speak to your Priest. Also, can you cut down your hours a bit, or take 2-3 vacation days. You can get a lot done in 2 days. Also, consider going for a manicure and just relaxing for a few minutes without your phone on. That always helps me.

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I feel so sorry for you. Both my parents are deceased. I am going thru planning the wedding and looking for subsittues for certain things..Ee:Father/daughter dance etc. My dad never took care of himself and had a major stroke. Try to be strong. My dad and I were not too close when I was growing up, but after my mom passed away we were inseparable. He used to say we had a father-son relationship becuase we were so close. My heart goes out to you. If you need to email me please do so. I am here to listen and vent to. I know what it is like. Keep your chin up and do not think of the worst unless you have to.

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I am so sorry to hear about your dad, my dad had a stroke about 3 years ago, it was due to a comination of diabetes and high blood pressure and he wasn't styaing away from the foods he was suppose to. He had the stroke in his sleep and just woke up feeling funny and the left side of his body was numb - he is sooo stubborn, he didn't even go to the hospital for hours. Anyway, he had a mild one, thank god, and regain all feeling back - what a wake up call for him! He is taking care of himself physically right now, not mentally though - he still has to get some stress out of his life, but who doesn't now a days. There are different types and cases of strokes, I wouldn't post pone anything yet, depending on the type of stroke, he may have a 100% recovery. When is the wedding? If you want more information and my expereinces with him having the stroke, please do not hesitate to email me at [email protected]. He will be in my prayers.

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sending you cheer up vibes

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I am sooo sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he makes a super speedy recovery. Good thoughts, wishes, and prayers to you and your family.

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Tammy:

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I'm constantly after mine to take better care of himself, but he'll never change. Try to stay positive. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

P.S. I hope you don't have to postpone your wedding. Maybe try to think on a few immediate things to take care of instead of EVERYTHING. That way it won't be too overwhelming. All the best to you!

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My thoughts are with you and your family...try to keep your chin up and think positively. I know how hard that is for you, but it's amazing what wonderful things can happen if you believe they can! *big hugs*

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I'm sorry to hear about your dad. My prayers are with him.

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sorry to hear about your father... I got chills when I read your post, I feel so bad when people post things like that.
hope it all works out, I will keep you guys in my prayers

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I just wanted to thank you all for your words of encouragement and prayers. I haven't had a chance to respond because I really haven't been home much. He's doing a little better, I guess we just have to take one day at a time. It seems that the worst is over. He will have a lot of rehab to do but I know he can do it. I'm feeling so much more optimistic than I did before
I'm not making any wedding decisions now, one way or the other. Its not the priority right now. I'm just spending as much time with my family as I can.
Thanks again for all the much needed moral support. You ladies are truly special.