Morbid Convo W/ FH yesterday..

evewedsjc Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:00 AM

Morbid Convo W/ FH yesterday..

Yesterday, we were on our way home and we drove by a cemetery and it dawned on me that if God forbid something happened to FH I have no idea what he wants...burial...cremation..etc...

I HAD to ask and it was sooooo weird...realizing I am in charge of him for like EVER....

He ended up saying he wanted cremation and to be buried wherever it's easier for people to visit...I said cremation but he MUST take me wherever he goes...I want to be on his mantle forever....lol...to which he said I am not surprised..

has anyone else had this horrible convo yet???

egem523 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:02 AM

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I can't bring myself to even talk about it.

flairforfashion Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:03 AM

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Yea, this is something FAR from my mind. Anything can happen at any given time but why think about it?

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:20 AM

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Nooooo

PROBM Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:27 AM

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NickandTara426 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:34 AM

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FH has a burial plot already and I HATE when we pass the cemetary! He calls it 'the resting spot' it makes me upset every time he says it! So basically I know where I'm going to be buried as well

SOTHISISLOVE53109 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:36 AM

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We have talked about it before, and yes it's very sad but we both want to be buried together. Don't know where neither one of us have plots.

That is my biggest fear of FH passing I think about it all the time, don't know why but I don't even know what I'd do god forbid.

evewedsjc Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:37 AM

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I know I am the worst for making everyone sad...!!!

coldasice217 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 10:45 AM

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I'm going to cry...I think about awful things like this all the time and I'm really paranoid that I'm 'putting it out there in the universe' and will attract something awful to happen because I keep thinking about it.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Sep 10, 2008 11:02 AM

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no, we havent discussed it... cremation may be the way to go.... rarely do we ever visit fam at the cemetary and it costs so much for that... whats the point... blehhh

i'd want my ashes sprinkled out in the ocean off a cruise ship LOL That would def make me happy

PoppedInASnap Posted: Sep 10, 2008 11:46 AM

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Yeah we actually did, but fh and i both chickened out after a while it got too upsetting

PoppedInASnap Posted: Sep 10, 2008 11:46 AM

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Posted by coldasice217

I'm going to cry...I think about awful things like this all the time and I'm really paranoid that I'm 'putting it out there in the universe' and will attract something awful to happen because I keep thinking about it.

we didnt die last night! Thats a good thing!

allegracristina Posted: Sep 10, 2008 11:49 AM

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Posted by evewedsjc

I know I am the worst for making everyone sad...!!!

noooo you're not! it may be sad and so devastating for us to think about, but it's a part of life that is unavoidable and should be discussed. we both want to be cremated. i think it's important to talk about these things. you're not debbie downer eve i promise haha

coldasice217 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 11:51 AM

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

Posted by coldasice217

I'm going to cry...I think about awful things like this all the time and I'm really paranoid that I'm 'putting it out there in the universe' and will attract something awful to happen because I keep thinking about it.

we didnt die last night! Thats a good thing!

HAHA...that is true. I bet they didn't end up doing it or something. They'd probably never tell the truth anyways.

shell1879 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 11:59 AM

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unfortunetally i have......
the pre deployment stuff was kinda rough especially when i got the call from him at the armory asking for mine and my daughters SS#'s
to add us on his life insurance and into his will god forbid something happened that was a rough day since we never really talked about it and he just kinda sprung it on me.

Future Mulligan Posted: Sep 10, 2008 12:04 PM

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we have talked about it - its weird that after you are married your parents really dont have a say in what happens to you - which is kind of weird to me....like what if his parents want him buried and i want him cremated? KWIM? so yeah, that is why we talked about it - problem is, i dont really know what i want - i think id like to be cremated....i dont want to be in the ground rotting - b/c once everyone who knew you passes away there is nobdody left to visit you anyway....but the thought of how they cremate you makes me - my FH already told me he wants a closed casket if anything happens to him, he doesnt want anyone to see him dead, i hate talking about this stuff!!

littlepixie12 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 12:08 PM

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Yes, I bring it up all the time, because god forbid I need to know and FH hates talking about it and refuses to answer me!!! So i have no idea what he wants still!!

NikkiR515 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 12:10 PM

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We haven't really talked about if we want to be buried/cremated (I am still undecided!) but we talked about what would happen if one/both of us were to die...We know who would get what assets and we also decided who we would leave our currently imaginary children to if god forbid down the line something were to happen to both of us...

Utterhappiness Posted: Sep 10, 2008 12:12 PM

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Erica, I havent had teh convo yet but I love how you and your FH turned it into something humorous!

Your a riot!!

xoxo

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Sep 10, 2008 12:29 PM

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Yes.... A few times and we were actually talking about it last night.

My Mom went to buy a vault where my Grandmother is so I told her to look into the prices for FH and I so shes not alone. So not only have we spoken about it but it seems like I will be buying one soon. FH knows about it but he does not know that i'm going to buy it... Its soo sad/weird that I dont want him to even hear it.

I hate this.