My cousin cancelled her wedding and I am so pi$$ed.
Original post by MrsInglima
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at 8am this morning i got a phone call from my aunt telling me my cousin canceled her wedding. i am so freaking pi$$ed! she decided to get married to this guy (who she's been with for 8 years, 4-5 of which he's been begging her to get married) 2 weeks after FH and i got engaged. she wanted a destination wedding and was really selfish about the whole thing and you could tell a lot of it was because she was jealous of FH and was trying to compete. plus she wasn't even excited to get married anytime i talked to her she just didn't care and her mom ended up planning everything besides the BM dresses and her wedding gown.
between the gift and the clothes and all of the other beauty things i spent over $500. i don't have money like that to just throw away. i'm so lucky i didn't buy a plain ticket or a hotel room otherwise that would have been another $1000! but my plane ticket was my birthday present this year from my parents. i could have used the $400 to finish paying off my credit card debt. and now i just spend hundreds of dollars and doubled my debt thanks to her.
no one really knows how she is because her mailbox is full and no one can get a hold of her. i know she's upset, and i feel bad for her because she essentially broke her own heart. but i am so incredibly angry, as is her mother who paid for the whole wedding by herself and now she can't get any of that money back. that's thousands of dollars down the drain for nothing!
plus she hasn't even ordered her dress for my wedding (she was going to be a BM) claiming that she was too overwhelmed with the wedding (even though my aunt literally did everything and paid for everything). and this is the latest we could put the order through for the dresses.
she is so freaking selfish i can't believe it.
MrsInglima
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Posted by VickiR510
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i know people are going to post with things like i shouldn't be selfish and i should look at it from her perspective, and i do see the bright side of all of this (trust me, this is what i have been telling to everyone else). but i am just so incredibly pissed. everyone knows how selfish of a person she has always been, and now she screwed over our entire family with wasting money on plane tickets and hotel rooms and gifts. ugh. i'm just so angry.
Actually i was going to say dont you think its so funny how some people get when u get engaged? I mean overall i have had such great experiences but u always have that one person who is such a strange duck! And now look because of her stupidity not only are u out $$$$ but she caused so many others grief & expense. Thats just sad. If she could have just s u c k e d it up & said wow thats great & not have the attention focused on her during your time then maybe this never would have happened! So sorry for u!
I emailed her to check in and see how she is (because her voice mailbox is full). So at least did the right thing and tried to be there for her. But you're right about her being stupid about the whole thing.
As for the plane tickets. I am going to call Liberty Travel to set up an appointment while I'm off. Maybe something good will come out of all of this.
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Posted by kweber322
That *****! Can you try to sell the dress on ebay? Or I would donate it to one of those places that give underprivileged girls dresses for proms - they'd probably be thrilled with it and at least some good would come out of this whole thing.
I've never heard of that. Can you give me more info?
Jsquared279
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Wow that is so awful! I am so sorry!
lilpiggy742
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Try to see if the airline can give you a credit and u can put it towards another trip...possibly a honeymoon. I understand how pissed you could be though. My cousin is getting married and we have to book a flight and hotel and rental car and if they called it off....man i'd be steaming from the ears with anger. I think it's because you're already trying to take care of your own wedding and money is more tight. I hope it works out
kweber322
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Here's a web site where they'll buy your dresses if you send them a photo and description:
http://www.preownedpartydresses.com/
Operation Fairy Dust is a company that donates dresses to girls for their proms, but they aren't accepting any new dresses at this time:
http://www.operationfairydust.org/
And I found somewhere where you can also donate them to Hurricane Katrina victms:
http://www.uscj.org/Koach/prom-dresses.htm
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Posted by kweber322
That *****! Can you try to sell the dress on ebay? Or I would donate it to one of those places that give underprivileged girls dresses for proms - they'd probably be thrilled with it and at least some good would come out of this whole thing.
I've never heard of that. Can you give me more info?
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that stinks , i know how hard it is when it comes to money wasted , sorry
GinaBambina08
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Wow, that's nuts!
Autumnbride03
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I don't think you are being selfish and I would be really angry too if I wasted $500 (well, $900 is you count the money you would have gotten for the plane tickets) especially since I am tight on money too, I can't imagine.
At the same time, I really feel horrible for her, she's been with him 8 years, she has to be heartbroken.... not to mention the embarrassment of cancelling her wedding..... that is like my worst fear....
I'd reach out to her and keeping the anger venting elsewhere, like here!
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I would change that flight ticket and use it for my honeymoon
That's always a good idea!!!!
I didn't even think of that. I guess if FH and I can get the money together to put down a deposit on a hotel, we can use it for that.
Oh yea something like this happened to me & Fh on a destination wedding for friends & we had a credit on Jetblue we used it towards our HM (the Aruba part). So it actually turned out ok!
I just saw my credit card bill for last month.
I'm cashing that plane ticket in. No HM for us.
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Posted by beloved13
I would change that flight ticket and use it for my honeymoon
That's always a good idea!!!!
I didn't even think of that. I guess if FH and I can get the money together to put down a deposit on a hotel, we can use it for that.
Oh yea something like this happened to me & Fh on a destination wedding for friends & we had a credit on Jetblue we used it towards our HM (the Aruba part). So it actually turned out ok!
