feel like they are so ruined. FH and I were talking about our e-party today that we are going to be having in our backyard over Memorial Day weekend (which is also 1 year til the wedding). It will just be a bbq with close family and friends.
Anyway, I called my mom to talk to her more about it and she goes 'Oh no, I forgot you guys were planning that. Dad and I bought plane tickets for Florida for over that weekend.' So I said 'Can't you do anything about that?' And she goes 'Sorry, I guess we can't be there.' So now my own parents aren't gonna be at my e-party. She won't even make an effort to say she can re-schedule her trip and cash in her tickets. I'm kinda insulted because my mom and dad are ALWAYS going away on vacation and they can't set aside a little time for me and FH. We are going over their house for dinner tonight so I think we are gonna have a talk with my parents about this. Am I making too big of a deal??
BTW, we can't change the date because it's the only time FH's family can come down from New Hampshire. Plus i'm not willing to give into my parents because they forgot!!
lori7570
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Awwww...that stinks...
I would talk to them, but if they don't change it they just have to accept that they are going to miss their dtr's e-party....
A little guilt goes a long way
Bridezillla2010
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aww ,,, that really stinks! I say go on as planned ...
we found out that a few people that are in the wedding party can not make our e-party .... I was going to change the date, but FH said not to.
That really stinks because its your parents. Talk to them ... they should be able to change the tickets to the weekend after!
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i would def be upset as well.... offer to pay for the change of date fee if its that big of a deal.... its your e-party!!! your parents should want to be there and feel honored! jmo
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Thanks girls, I agree. My mom should want to be there and be honored to be there. She has been against an e-party from the start though. She says it's an inconvenience to guests. I don't understand where the hell that comes from.
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Posted by RedsBride
Thanks girls, I agree. My mom should want to be there and be honored to be there. She has been against an e-party from the start though. She says it's an inconvenience to guests. I don't understand where the hell that comes from.
Well that may be your answer...she might be being a bit passive aggressive and 'forgot' about it when she booked the flight
ETA: No offense to your mom...just my therapist brain working..
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I am sorry to hear that....
just tell them that this is a once in a lifetime event and that going to Florida can happen at anytime.But that if they feel that Florida is more important, that not to worry at least you know FH's family cares enough about you that they are willing to come down from NH to attend. Tell them that they will be showing future in-laws how much they really care about you.
See if that will convince them to change their plans. Guilt!! It is the only way!!
Good Luck!!
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Aww that *****! You should def. explain to your parents how disappointed you are and that this means so much to you. Hopefuly they will come around!
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def give them the guilt trip over dinner. say uve spoken to everyone to see if you could change the date to accomadate them and that u couldnt u really wanna be there ... blah blah .... im sure u can do it..Good luck
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Posted by RedsBride
Thanks girls, I agree. My mom should want to be there and be honored to be there. She has been against an e-party from the start though. She says it's an inconvenience to guests. I don't understand where the hell that comes from.
speaking from my experience this weekend, its defintely not an inconvenience to guests...ive been getting phone calls all day and my mom too from guests that came to thank us for the wonderful time they had, etc etc...
if its what you want, do it...and i dont think u should change anything!
im sorry u have to deal with this situation, though!!
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Posted by RedsBride
Thanks girls, I agree. My mom should want to be there and be honored to be there. She has been against an e-party from the start though. She says it's an inconvenience to guests. I don't understand where the hell that comes from.
I don't see how its inconvenient for the guests? Did she elaborate on this at all? We are not having an e-party but we are also having a smaller wedding. I don't see how yours can be inconvenient it sounds like a fun, laid back style party...
FallBride2010
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I think you have every right to be hurt and mad. I would def talk to them...and hopefully they will understand where you are coming from
futureMrsJSL
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Sorry to hear that. I'd definitely express your hurt and disapointment to them. Tell em everything you just told us and how it makes you feel. Good luck.
Future Mrs H
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OMG, i am so sorry you are going through this. I would definately try to talk to them and explain just how much this means to you. I really feel for you, I know what its like when your parents aren't excited about wedding things.
Kimbiz1
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Aww that stinks. Hope you get to talk things out over dinner. Good Luck
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NO YOU ARE NOT MAKING A BIG DEAL!!! these are your parents! i would tell them its upsetting you and its important that they be there to suuport you. maybe they can just get a credit for the tix and use them another time
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I think you are DEF not making a big deal at all! First of all how do you forget? And then not even try to fix the situation. Hopefully your talk at dinner is going well good luck!
