my ex...rant..UPDATE

So, I found myself going to the stupid website today to see if he wrote back or not yet. It would have been sort of nice, closure maybe, if he wrote something like-hey I'm sorry for what I did to you, you're a good person who didn't deserve it and I wish you happiness. I dunno...but who CARES?

No news was really good news SO I just deleted the account. I'm not going to sit around waiting another five years to get an apology. I hope he tries to write again and feels like an ***...LOL




My ex, whom I dated for 12 years dropped off the face of the planet when he started sleeping with my best friend behind my back ( they are now married with two kids). Took me some time ....ok..umm.. YEARS..to get over it and now he just randomly sent me a message on reunion. com ( guess he lost my email) that just says
” congrats”.

That’s it. One word.

I have not heard from him in five years and I had tried contacting him a few times back when it all started..he ignored my calls/emails etc…and I gave up. There is a lot he could be congratulating me for that happened in the past five years!!! Of course I know what he’s talking about but I don't know how he found out..…

I almost died when I saw in my inbox “You have a message from blah blah blah on reunion.com” I thought it was a joke, I didn’t even remember signing up for that thing…anyway I log on and find has the audacity to bother me just to write one word?



I wrote back….'thanks, for what?'


ugh, now I wish I had just ignored it but I had to write something. I am tempted to cancel the stupid reunion membership too just so he can't write again but I don't want to seem like I care.

WHy DO I care anyway? FH is a million times better for me than he ever was and I'm SO much happier now....still. It irks me.

it's because you never got closure - that's why it's still bugging you. It's 100% normal...

Once you receive his reply, (if he replies), i'd write back with, thank you for the congrats, have a nice life.

NEVER read another thing he sends you...EVER.

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Posted by davenjess

it's because you never got closure - that's why it's still bugging you. It's 100% normal...

Once you receive his reply, (if he replies), i'd write back with, thank you for the congrats, have a nice life.

NEVER read another thing he sends you...EVER.

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I absolutely agree!!!

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Posted by bluekat16

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Posted by davenjess

it's because you never got closure - that's why it's still bugging you. It's 100% normal...

Once you receive his reply, (if he replies), i'd write back with, thank you for the congrats, have a nice life.

NEVER read another thing he sends you...EVER.

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I absolutely agree!!!

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seriously what if you FH found out I would die if FH's x did that. I might find her and beat her

oh I already told FH that he wrote me this morning. I don't hide things from him ever. He doesn't get jealous, he knows I adore him...

I wish I hadn't written back ....I was just so shocked to get the message. I don't think he'll write again, I was obviously being obnoxious in my reply.. but if he does, I'll just delete it. ( good idea). There's no way I'm going to start an email relationship back and forth with the guy, I have no desire to be his friend.

That's not really the issue I have, the issue is how insensitive and arrogant he is to think that recieving a message from him at this time is actually something I'd want. LOL. Hearing from him and being reminded of the pain he and my former bff caused is the last thing I want!!!!

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Posted by ValnChris

oh I already told FH that he wrote me this morning. I don't hide things from him ever. He doesn't get jealous, he knows I adore him...

I wish I hadn't written back ....I was just so shocked to get the message. I don't think he'll write again, I was obviously being obnoxious in my reply.. but if he does, I'll just delete it. ( good idea). There's no way I'm going to start an email relationship back and forth with the guy, I have no desire to be his friend.

That's not really the issue I have, the issue is how insensitive and arrogant he is to think that recieving a message from him at this time is actually something I'd want. LOL. Hearing from him and being reminded of the pain he and my former bff caused is the last thing I want!!!!

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Be strong - don't reply anymore - he is NOT worth your time or your emotions !!!!

How absurd of him to write you at all never mind a random 'congrats'..funny thing is #1 hes seeking you on random webpages #2 its prob eating him up that your happy and getting married

I feel sorry for your ex bff you what they say ' how you get them is how you keep them' hope shes ready for when he does what he to you to her!

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Posted by davenjess

it's because you never got closure - that's why it's still bugging you. It's 100% normal...

Once you receive his reply, (if he replies), i'd write back with, thank you for the congrats, have a nice life.

NEVER read another thing he sends you...EVER.

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My thoughts exactly.

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Posted by davenjess

it's because you never got closure - that's why it's still bugging you. It's 100% normal...

Once you receive his reply, (if he replies), i'd write back with, thank you for the congrats, have a nice life.

NEVER read another thing he sends you...EVER.

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AGREED!!!

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Posted by davenjess

it's because you never got closure - that's why it's still bugging you. It's 100% normal...

Once you receive his reply, (if he replies), i'd write back with, thank you for the congrats, have a nice life.

NEVER read another thing he sends you...EVER.

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Absolutely agree!

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Posted by ValnChris

oh I already told FH that he wrote me this morning. I don't hide things from him ever. He doesn't get jealous, he knows I adore him...

I wish I hadn't written back ....I was just so shocked to get the message. I don't think he'll write again, I was obviously being obnoxious in my reply.. but if he does, I'll just delete it. ( good idea). There's no way I'm going to start an email relationship back and forth with the guy, I have no desire to be his friend.

That's not really the issue I have, the issue is how insensitive and arrogant he is to think that receiving a message from him at this time is actually something I'd want. LOL. Hearing from him and being reminded of the pain he and my former bff caused is the last thing I want!!!!

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Girrrrllll - i TOTALLY agree - if you get something back. let it just lie. Look all that pain you went through - as HORRIFIC as that is - it lead you to your FH today! so you know what I say - THanks for doing that cause otherwise you wouldn't be with the man of your dreams!!!! Yes the pain is ...well...painful - but think of what that pain brought you to! PURE HAPPINESS! embrace it - smile - click 'log off' and keep right on going!

hugs for you but happy ones!
Ex's SUCK ARSE

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Posted by RadiantBride

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Posted by davenjess

it's because you never got closure - that's why it's still bugging you. It's 100% normal...

Once you receive his reply, (if he replies), i'd write back with, thank you for the congrats, have a nice life.

NEVER read another thing he sends you...EVER.

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My thoughts exactly.

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I agree...he is scum..why invite that back into your life...its just not worth it!
Enjoy this time with FH and nothing else with the other one!

its totally normal to be feeling the way ur feeling. just because this guy popped his head in out of nowhere and its got ur brain thinking doesn't mean u should feel guilty for giving it any thought.

I've been in similar situations so many times and like you...against all my better judgement...i respond and communicate. thats just my nature and then i wanna kick myself in the *** for putting myself out there because u almost always end up being reminded why you stopped communicating in the first place.

it's ok to answer him back and its even ok to wish him well in his life...but don't let him get too close because i think maybe he just sent you that one liner to 'throw the fishing line out there' so to speak...he's testing the waters to see your reaction.

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Posted by Sharron70

I do have to say, if he did write again, I'd be soooo tempted to write back 'Well I owe a ton of thanks. If you weren't the lying, cheating, useless weasel you are, I may not have met the man of my dreams and be 1,000 times happier than when I was with you. So, THANKS!'

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Sharron, you always come up with the BEST comebacks. I LOVE it.

And yes, you should thank him. My ex wrote me a happy birthday email last year 3 years after he callously dumped me and tried to take our dog. I seriously wanted to say 'thank GOD you dumped me....' I'm now with the guy of my dreams whom i love more than anything in the world!!!!

You asked yourself the right questio - why DO you care????

Itll always urk you - 12 years is a lot of history - and I think you care not in a nice way, but in an angry- still hurt way.

You are bigger and better- and nothing gets up a spine more than not giving any reaction!

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Posted by Sharron70

I do have to say, if he did write again, I'd be soooo tempted to write back 'Well I owe a ton of thanks. If you weren't the lying, cheating, useless weasel you are, I may not have met the man of my dreams and be 1,000 times happier than when I was with you. So, THANKS!'

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ha ha, that's exactly what I'd want to say and it's the TRUTH but it isn't in my nature to be like that...I'm better at being indirectly biatchy.
Fh is a million times better for me in so many ways..plus he's waaaaay hotter than that loser. LOL. One of our songs is 'Broken Road'

Thanks everyone for your responses and empathy. Don't worry, I will NOT let him back in my life in any capacity. I would have loved to have stayed friends with the man after dating for 12 years but the way things ended, it's just not possible for us to ever be friends.

Now I am 100% obsessed with FH, he is AMAZING. I do not have any feelings lingering for loser...it just brought up pain and anger even to see an email from him NOW. I would be tempted to write again to him if he did respond only because I'd love to rub in his face how happy I am, how well I'm doing with my career and how good I still look as compared to his wife who blew UP like a whale..lol...

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Sharron, you always come up with the BEST comebacks. I LOVE it.

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Yeah, I'm a bltch like that