My family is stressing me out

Ok, my fi and I decided to keep things simple and only have a MOH, BM and FG in out wedding party. Now it is approx. 50 days before the wedding and my family(mom, grandma, aunts) are giving me a hard time because we don't have anyone to usher people to their seats at the church. My fi and I are having his two 12 year old cousins hand out the programs so we figured that the guests will just seat themselves after they get the program. What do you think?

My family is stressing me out

don't sweat it. i don't know about you, but I think it is awkward when an usher walks me to my seat and my date is behind me. it's nice when an elder widow gets walked down, but that's the only time. i never understood the whole thing?!?!? I always say no thank you to the usher that approaches me.

My family is stressing me out

I`ve never been to a wedding where the usher has escorted me to my seat, and I`ve been to at least 7 that I remember. If someone walks in without a date looking awkward and confused, the people handing out the programs can direct them where to sit.

My family is stressing me out

I agree, we wont be having any escorts either even though we have the people for it. Everyone can seat themselves after they receive the programs. As long as someone tells them which side to sit on and first 2 rows are immediate family only (or one row) they will be fine.

My family is stressing me out

If your family is really putting the screws on and you want to stop the insanity, just ask 2 men (brother in laws or cousins?) if they could stand at the entrance and offer to usher or at least say to guests which side is which. It will probably turn out to be a non-event, as the other girls have said, it`s hardly a big deal these days but I can see how older people in your family think it's a necessity. I say pick your battles and this one is definitely not worth it...if they keep insisting that these men need to officially be ushers in the bridal party with the rented tux and in all the pics, that`s another story.... Hope all else is going well.

My family is stressing me out

My brother lives in OK. and he was just mentioning to me how they have both ushers and men in the wedding party. They are two seperate group of people. The ushers escort guests to their seats while the bridal party stands at the alter with the groom. As Elizabeth said just pick two friends or family members to escort people to their seats.