My family SUCKS- -- should I tell them?

Really, I'm not surprised this is happening... I just didn't think it would be so dissappointing and saddening....

It's about my shower... first let's put aside the fact that my mom was ruining it for me by letting me in on the details and asking me to participate in the selection of invitations, let alone the fact that she ruined the 'surprise' part of it... but now I forced FH to tell some of what was happening behind the scenes... and I am NOT happy about what he told me...

We are having a co-ed shower and HE is doing basically all the planning! That's just not right.

NOT ONE of my BMs is helping him with anything. Not even my MOH. No one has asked any questions, no one has even MENTIONED anything about it... and they all know the planning is in the works.

My mom, who lives in Fla and is supposed to be planning this with the MOH, just dumps everything on him and is being a pain in butt about the date claiming there is only ONE possible weekend that it can take place because she is too busy. Nevermind how inconvenient it would be for everyone else including the BRIDE and GROOM.

I'm so dissappointed in my BMs (which are mostly my cousins) and my mom. For some reason I thought they would WANT to throw me a shower or AT LEAST be somewhat interested in it.

I'm mad for FH but he refuses to say anything to them. He says he will let them have it AT the shower. Great. That should be real pretty. I told him he should just call them up and tell them what he expects them to do or just ask for help.

I'm so dissappointed in them and would like to say something myself because I know that if things were reversed, I'd be going all out for THEIR showers!!

Would you say anything?

I dont know what I would do.... I personally would want to yell and scream but would probably keep quiet until AFTER the wedding just so I dont make the stress and tension worse... once your big day is over.. then I would let them have it. JMO
Both of our families stink!!!!!! If it werent for my sister I dont think anyone would even throw me a shower... and if they did it would be REALLY ghetto

eta. As a pretend bm I will take the responsibilty of helping out!!! tell fh to give me a call

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Posted by Soon2bMsZ


I dont know what I would do.... I personally would want to yell and scream but would probably keep quiet until AFTER the wedding just so I dont make the stress and tension worse... once your big day is over.. then I would let them have it. JMO
Both of our families stink!!!!!! If it werent for my sister I dont think anyone would even throw me a shower... and if they did it would be REALLY ghetto

eta. As a pretend bm I will take the responsibilty of helping out!!! tell fh to give me a call

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Thanks!! I forgot to tell FH that I had a pretend BM that would help! FH will be ringing you shortly!!

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Posted by JimmysBride

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Posted by Soon2bMsZ


I dont know what I would do.... I personally would want to yell and scream but would probably keep quiet until AFTER the wedding just so I dont make the stress and tension worse... once your big day is over.. then I would let them have it. JMO
Both of our families stink!!!!!! If it werent for my sister I dont think anyone would even throw me a shower... and if they did it would be REALLY ghetto

eta. As a pretend bm I will take the responsibilty of helping out!!! tell fh to give me a call

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Thanks!! I forgot to tell FH that I had a pretend BM that would help! FH will be ringing you shortly!!

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i second soontobemrsz
ur fh should contact us....

I think you should talk to your mom or MOH....Tell her that it isn't you FH's responsibility to be doing this..
I know how hard it must be, planning a wedding and then having to worry about this!
Sorry

Are you sure that they aren't trying to throw you off? I've seen family and friends do crazier things to keep everything a secret.




If not, I agree with the other LIW brides. Tell him to sign up and we'll help him.