My Father is getting married on thurs I need some support?sorry so long

PrincessConsuela Posted: Aug 24, 2004 02:47 PM

My Father is getting married on thurs I need some support?sorry so long

hey ladies i am obvioulsy not happy about my father getting re-married. I dont think he is ready. He is an emotional mess. I did not speak to him for about two years now. I found out about his girlfriend from someone else he did not want to tell me himself. then when they got engaged he decided to call my lil sis and tell her over the phone. She told us. nice right. anyway the whole divorce is a long story which this woman who he is marriyng does not know why my parents got divorced. (After thirty years he could not keep it in his pants and lied to my mom for about 5 years about his well whatever) I have no respect for him and i cannot sit through the ceremony and wedding knowing he cannot make this commitment to anyone. sorry so long.

Thank you for your support ladies

Donna Posted: Aug 24, 2004 02:49 PM

Re: My Father is getting married on thurs I need some support?sorry so long

I'm sorry that you have to deal with this.

Maybe if you feel this strongly you shouldn't go to the wedding.

Blu-ize Posted: Aug 24, 2004 02:50 PM

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You do have a choice. You don't have to go..really

CaCRmr Posted: Aug 24, 2004 02:51 PM

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Christina....sorry to hear that you're not happy about your father's wedding. I guess what you have to think of while your at the wedding is your father's happiness. I know he probably didn't care about yours at the time he cheated on your mom but you have to be the better person and be happy for him.
Is your other sister going to be there?

Sassyz75 Posted: Aug 24, 2004 02:53 PM

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My parents are divorced and both re-married.

And yes, it's hard- but I'll tell you something someone told me once. What your Father does in his life- his behavior- and the reasons for the divorce between your parents has nothing to do with how much your father loves you- which I'm sure he does despite his behavior.

You can do it-

One day many years from now you might be happy you went.

julz33 Posted: Aug 24, 2004 02:55 PM

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Something similar happened to me. My father moved to Kansas to get married to some woman he met on the internet that he only met 2 times in person! My brother, sister, and I all did not go to the wedding. My brother and sister won't speak up but when he asked if I was coming I told him straight out why I wasn't.

james'pokey Posted: Aug 24, 2004 02:57 PM

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I am so sorry. Coming from someone who's father has been married three times and now has another girlfriend, I understand it can be hurtful. I think you should concentrate on you right now and let him make his own mistakes.

PrincessConsuela Posted: Aug 24, 2004 03:35 PM

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I am definetly not going to the ceremony. i will also give a review it is at the rivera...lol that is the real reason for me going. I really feel sorry for this woman he is marrying. oh well this is her third marriage.

Kriss2c Posted: Aug 24, 2004 03:38 PM

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I'm sorry you have to go through this. I too feel that if you are that uncomfortable with this marriage, you should not attend. And shame on your dad for not telling you personally.

David'sbride Posted: Aug 24, 2004 03:43 PM

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My mom died when I was 8 and my father remarried twice... neither one worked out. I know the first one was a rebound after being married to my mom for sixteen years (she was killed suddenly in a car crash) I think he needed to be married... didn't know any other way. Of course I was very young and there were different reasons.

I can only imagine the range of emotions you must have gone through the past few years. My only words of advice are 'do what is best for you'... because you have to look at yourself in the mirror and be comfortable with your decision. Forget what anyone else wants you to do... they are not you and don't have to live with your thoughts, emotions, etc.

Just be true to yourself... those that really love you will support your decision... and those that don't, well, that's how you find out who truly loves you.