My FBIL...

Wants to bring some hot girl to the wedding that he is sleeping with so he can show her off!!!! ***??? The first thing my FI said was - she is totally going to be the center of attention. Hello??? I don't want her there and I don't feel like paying for her plate!! AND we'll be lucky if he even gives us $50 as a gift!!!!!

I guess she is some girl from their high school years that the guys all used to drool over. I would much rather invite someone off the B List than her.

Plus, what is she going to do when we are all taking pictures?

Am I being irrational or is it okay that I am pissed?

dont be worried about her being the center of attention! SHE WONT...YOU WILL be! I dont even know you, but i can promise that! youre the bride, she is just some girl...

if he is invited with a date, he can bring her...you dont have to include her in pics...she is not dating him a long time, is not engaged to him and not married... she will wait somewhere, not your prob...who cares what she does imo!

relax! promise it will be fine! just ignore her if you dont like her... unfort. she may be there. but dont worry too much

The funny thing is - he's not invited with a guest. He is supposed to be sharing a room with his dad that night. He hasnt had a girlfriend in years and goes to her for a booty call a few times a month! If he was interested in her I would not mind at all. Oh well, I guess she can come.

And of course she's an identical twin!! Thank God the other one is not coming!

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Posted by july06bride

wellllllllllll technically if he was not invited with a guest AND he has no true significant other she doesnt have to come!

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Yes, tell him no guests... you don't have room.

Plus if you let him bring her what about your other guests that were not invited with a guest?

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Posted by David'sbride

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Posted by july06bride

wellllllllllll technically if he was not invited with a guest AND he has no true significant other she doesnt have to come!

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Yes, tell him no guests... you don't have room.

Plus if you let him bring her what about your other guests that were not invited with a guest?

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i agree..unless they are really 'together'...
maily b/c of your roomsituation also

I toldmy bro he could bring whoever he wants with him...he isnt dating anyone..i didnt want him to be alone..he needs to DANCE!

Okay, don't kill me. But I was single through many, many, many weddings and I can't even tell you how happy I was when I was dating someone and they could come with me. Most of the times people dread going to weddings single because of all the other couples and slow songs. So, he may just want to bring someone so he isn't alone.

As for the center of attention.....absolutely impossible. Impossible. Everyone is there to see YOU and your FH. And no amount of outward attractiveness is going to detract from the glow you are going to have on your wedding day. Its infectious and unattainable and no matter what she looks like, you will be the most beautiful woman there (and within a 100 mile radius of the reception ) But if he isn't invited with a guest, then your FH could possibly talk to him and let him know.Good lucvk!

is he your FH's brother?
if so then why isn't he invited with a guest?
I wouldn't want to go to my sister's wedding alone. Weddings can be very hard for a single person to get through...especially if they dont have a date.

This girl will never be the center of attention...you will be. And if this girl does end up becoming serious with your FBIL then your FBIL and her may end up holding a grudge against you and your FH for not allowing her to be at the wedding.

Your talking about 1 extra person...for your FH's brother to bring a date...its not like this is a distant cousin that you talk to only at Christmas...its your FH's brother...let him bring the girl.

JMHO....sorry if you dont agree.

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Posted by july06bride

dont be worried about her being the center of attention! SHE WONT...YOU WILL be! I dont even know you, but i can promise that! youre the bride, she is just some girl...

if he is invited with a date, he can bring her...you dont have to include her in pics...she is not dating him a long time, is not engaged to him and not married... she will wait somewhere, not your prob...who cares what she does imo!

relax! promise it will be fine! just ignore her if you dont like her... unfort. she may be there. but dont worry too much

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So true

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Posted by july06bride

dont be worried about her being the center of attention! SHE WONT...YOU WILL be! I dont even know you, but i can promise that! youre the bride, she is just some girl...

if he is invited with a date, he can bring her...you dont have to include her in pics...she is not dating him a long time, is not engaged to him and not married... she will wait somewhere, not your prob...who cares what she does imo!

relax! promise it will be fine! just ignore her if you dont like her... unfort. she may be there. but dont worry too much

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Ditto! People like to have a dance partner, i would hate to force someone to come alone if they really didn't want to. It's YOUR day, everyone will be looking at you, not her!

I just think it's annoying that comments were made that 'she will be the center of attention' - that is totally inappropriate - YOU will be the center of attention on your big day, and for anyone to suggest or want otherwise is ridiculous.

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Posted by smm2675

i have to jump in here - i have 2 fbil's on fh's side. 22 and 19 - they will be 23 and 20 for the wedding. they have gf's now, but if they are not together they will NOT be invited with quests. why should i pay for some random chick to eat and drink for free??? so family is not always invited with a guest. and i voted no, she should not be invited.

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Ditto

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Posted by smm2675

i have to jump in here - i have 2 fbil's on fh's side. 22 and 19 - they will be 23 and 20 for the wedding. they have gf's now, but if they are not together they will NOT be invited with quests. why should i pay for some random chick to eat and drink for free??? so family is not always invited with a guest. and i voted no, she should not be invited.

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That is exactly my feelings on this.

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Posted by smm2675

i have to jump in here - i have 2 fbil's on fh's side. 22 and 19 - they will be 23 and 20 for the wedding. they have gf's now, but if they are not together they will NOT be invited with quests. why should i pay for some random chick to eat and drink for free??? so family is not always invited with a guest. and i voted no, she should not be invited.

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THANK YOU!! He was not invited with a guest because my fiance did not want him to be since he was not remotely dating anyone (in years).

Also because their father is not well, and he would have to look after him so to speak and is supposed to stay overnight in the hotel with him.

If my FBIL and the hootchie had any type of future I would not mind at all, but when he's randomly sleeping with her a few times a months and not communicating in any other way, I don't think it's fair. We are paying over $200 a head and I'd rather have one of my friends that are on the b list instead of her.

And yes, I realize that another $200 in the grand scheme of things will not break the bank, but it's still irritating So, we'll see what happens. I am not nearly upset about it now as I was yesterday.