Had a makeup trial today. I showed FH the before and after and he said ' You looked better before'
I was crushed....
On one hand I love that he thinks I am naturally pretty, but on the other my feelings are hurt.
He also said: 'it is too much and I don't like lipstick'
Normally I wear Bare Minerals, eye shadow, mascara and gloss.....simple.
How do I balance wanting to look and feel beautiful on my wedding day with FH thinking I look beautiful as well. I want him to think I look the best I have ever looked when he sees me coming down the aisle.
I want to respect his opinion but I DONT want to look like I do everyday on my wedding day and that is what he wants.....
Summertimegal424
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he was probally just being completely honest in how he felt. i give him props, most guys would just say 'looks greeeat'
but i totally see how you could be bummed. i wouldn't worry about it. im sure he wont even notice the make-up on the day of..there will be SOOO much going on
jsha20
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He will most likely feel differently on the day of the wedding in context with your dress and hair. Most men say they like the natural look, that's just how they are. I would go with whatever you feel beautiful in and I am sure he will think so, too.
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I'm so sorry your FH said that
I'm not sure how your makeup looked from your trial, but maybe you can use a light pink or a gloss that enhances the colors of your lips. That will tone it down a bit and make you look more like 'you' and you can still look glamorous.
Maybe it was because too many things were changed from your daily routine that made your FH say he liked it better before... You know, your lips, eyes, and cheeks. So if you don't change ALL of them, he might be more comfortable
valthom426
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LOL! I had the same reaction from my FH. I know your feelings are hurt, mine were too. But it is a good sign. We compromised on the liquid eyeliner since I only wear pencil eyeliner once in a blue moon.
coldasice217
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I'm sorry your feelings are hurt!
Are you definitely using this artist? Or are you planning on more trials? If you are going on more trials, perhaps this one just had a heavy hand, and if it was more naturally applied it would be a compromise.
You know, it works both ways too, because every day I wear LOTS of makeup, so even with my makeup professionally done I feel like I just look the same as every day, which is good and bad, so I can see how you're bummed.
9509Bride
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Posted by coldasice217
I'm sorry your feelings are hurt!
Are you definitely using this artist? Or are you planning on more trials? If you are going on more trials, perhaps this one just had a heavy hand, and if it was more naturally applied it would be a compromise.
You know, it works both ways too, because every day I wear LOTS of makeup, so even with my makeup professionally done I feel like I just look the same as every day, which is good and bad, so I can see how you're bummed.
This was just one of the people I had lined up I have not signed with her for sure. It was not my usual brand of makeup but it was not heavy IMO. I guess my normal foundation is so light that it doesnt really look like I have any on.
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my fh did the same thing to me. I came out of my makeup trial and i was like wow i look hot. Then i see fh and he's like 'i dunno you look weird, it's too much makeup, you look fake!' so I got upset. But I still booked the makeup girl because i loved it and i know once the whole look comes together he will love it. i think he thought it looked weird because i was all made up and wearing a sweatshirts and sweatpants.
MrsCtobe
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Just explain to him that a wedding calls for a little more makeup than just natural and you'll be back to your naturally gorgeous self the next day.
ladybengal
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well it was probably a jump for him to see you always look natural with makeup and then see you all dolled up...for instance when i had my first makeup trial...I had her make me look natural...very soft romantic colors...FH was like I thought you were getting your makeup done today..because I love color but not for my wedding day...i would go with a natural look and when I say natural I mean...a day time look that they like to call it..
Sweeteey51
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Thats the tricky part, if ppls fh is used to seeing them a certain way every single day (ie not alot of makeup natural beauty) then he sees you with tons of makeup its unexpected. He still gonna think you look beautiful regardless, just do what you feel makes you look good.
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Honestly, i think all FH's are a little weirded out at first when they see all of that make-up. Its true most men like their women natural. But when my FH saw me the day of the wedding & he just kept sayinghow beautiful & gorgeous i looked. I think when the whole thing is put together the make-up will fit in. But when u see it with Jeans & tshirt it looks a bit to much. Maybe do the make-up but just use lipgloss. Compromise a bit.
MrsJuneB2B
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i'm sorry your feelings are hurt he was just probably being guy-honest...which in and of itself is actually cool of him. HOWEVER, i don't think he's thinking of the wedding. sure if you were washing the dishes or going to a movie, you'd look like you have a lot of makeup on...but it's your wedding, lots of pictures... you need to have a little more so you don't look washed out in your dress. ... so my advice would be to do what makes YOU feel beautiful and realize that he's not going to think that the day of, because when you put it all together, it's going to be drop-dead gorgeous!! i wish guys could think before they leap sometimes... you're going to be a knock-out!
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Don't be sad he just thinks your beautiful all naturale so when he saw you all dolled up, he's not used to it so that's why he doesn't care for it. Guys don't understand that we need the makeup to stand out in the pics, they just don't get it. Don't feel too bad, my FH kept looking at me like i was some sort of stranger when i came after my makeup trial lmaoo. It was so funny he just looked at me like a small child scared of a new toy
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Posted by jsha20
He will most likely feel differently on the day of the wedding in context with your dress and hair. Most men say they like the natural look, that's just how they are. I would go with whatever you feel beautiful in and I am sure he will think so, too.
ita....somtimes when we dont wearmakeup everyday its a shock to fh to see us that ay..but when u r all made up with the dress n hair n all that other good stuff u will see how much he lovs it...
if u liked t,book it,he will love the y u look that day no matter what
Celeste617
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Definitely don't feel hurt
FH did the same thing to me after I did a trial and showed him pics. He's like too much makeup! Meanwhile, I barely had anything on!! He even said 'that lipstick is too dark' - I'm like 'that's the lipstick I wear everyday that you say makes you want to kiss me!' They are such dopes Just take it as a compliment They like us better without all the crap but they won't even notice it on the day of!
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Do another trial and have them go with more neutral non shimmery colors. That will tone it down but you can still have it so you feel pretty to. Are you doing fake lashes? you should do those but do it very natural looking so he will still like them and you will feel different. im sure you will look terrific either way. i totally understand where you are coming from.
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my fh liked my make up trial but if he had it his way he would have me with no make up at all times. He also said yikes thats alot of make up I dont know. Good thing is I did it for my e-pics and when I got my e-pics bac the make up looked awesome he was like wooow I explained to him that you need what appears (at least to someone like me who never wears blush and hardly wears eye make up) to be 'alot' so that you don't look washed out in the pro pics. Tell him that see what he says
meara
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Sorry he said that but I agree with folks who say he will feel diff about it day of b/c you will be all dressed up. maek-up can look more severe in normal clothes. .like w/o yur jewelry, dress, veil, etc. . .so if you like it wear it. . or you can tone down a little .
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I'm sorry your feelings were hurt, but maybe you should take his opinion into account when choosing the kind of make up you wear. If he likes it better when you look natural, maybe you should find a make-up artist at a Bare Esscentuals counter (they have them at Nordstroms or in the actual B.E. stores). This way it's something special, but your FH will still be happy.
I wore B.E. make-up on my wedding day and it looked great.
