my FH wants a baby soooooo bad

FH and I were talking about after the wedding to start trying and I was so excited. But after thinking about it I think it may be best to wait a year before trying to settle into the marraige and everything. Especially financially. I'm a sucker for baby clothes and I'll spend our house down payment on the clothes!! LOL So if we wait a year plus at the very least nine months we should be able to save a DP on a house. But then again, that's if we wait

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by Espo22

serious question to the ladies

i see some of you plan exactly when you want to get pregnant, such as you want to be pregnant by so and so month or for example fall of 08...do any of you wonder about the fact that it can be a long process and not everyone gets pregnant right away? I know ppl who tried for months and many even for a year or 2 or longer and it wasn't happening...i am just asking bc i am curious if ppl are preparing for this possibility...see this is the exact reason why i WON'T plan it...i dont want to disappoint myself, ive seen what others go through and i dont want to sit here and expect to be pregnant by lets say feb 09 for example and it doesnt happen and this goes on for a while...i am honestly really scared about going through this

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i agree it took my mom and dad 3 years before they had their first granted fertility drugs did a number on my mom and gave her 7 kids haha and my aunt it took her 6 yrs to have her first and she tried invitro now she has 4 kids

but in all seriousness i am very nervous for this. therefore i am not plannning. i know i want to wait several yrs and enjoy being a newlywed but not planning a time of the year

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oh wow 7 kids, i love big families.

Yeah see not that ill go into thinking it won't happen but i dont want to set my heart on a specific time and it not happening...i am fine with the fact that maybe it would take me more tries i am going into it knowing to prepare for this possibility. Of course while im trying i wont think 'its not gonna happen' ill hope for the best and then when it doesn't happen just have to move on and keep trying, and theres nothing wrong with trying

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yup we have a big family thanks to those fertility drugs haha

but no i agree i am not going to alwatys think well it might not happen you know yo have to have a positive attitude but ti runs in my family and i get nervous that maybe i shouldnt wait too long but then again i will hopefully be blessed when god thinks i am ready!

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by Espo22

serious question to the ladies

i see some of you plan exactly when you want to get pregnant, such as you want to be pregnant by so and so month or for example fall of 08...do any of you wonder about the fact that it can be a long process and not everyone gets pregnant right away? I know ppl who tried for months and many even for a year or 2 or longer and it wasn't happening...i am just asking bc i am curious if ppl are preparing for this possibility...see this is the exact reason why i WON'T plan it...i dont want to disappoint myself, ive seen what others go through and i dont want to sit here and expect to be pregnant by lets say feb 09 for example and it doesnt happen and this goes on for a while...i am honestly really scared about going through this

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Thats a tricky question for me. Honestly, me and FH arent sure we want kids at all. So were pretty comfortable with what happens. If we dont get pregnant then we dont. I know a lot of people dont think of it that way cause IM in the minority when it comes to wanting to have children.

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I actually feel the same way as you!!!

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by Espo22

serious question to the ladies

i see some of you plan exactly when you want to get pregnant, such as you want to be pregnant by so and so month or for example fall of 08...do any of you wonder about the fact that it can be a long process and not everyone gets pregnant right away? I know ppl who tried for months and many even for a year or 2 or longer and it wasn't happening...i am just asking bc i am curious if ppl are preparing for this possibility...see this is the exact reason why i WON'T plan it...i dont want to disappoint myself, ive seen what others go through and i dont want to sit here and expect to be pregnant by lets say feb 09 for example and it doesnt happen and this goes on for a while...i am honestly really scared about going through this

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Thats a tricky question for me. Honestly, me and FH arent sure we want kids at all. So were pretty comfortable with what happens. If we dont get pregnant then we dont. I know a lot of people dont think of it that way cause IM in the minority when it comes to wanting to have children.

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I actually feel the same way as you!!!

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Yeah! If we get the itch then we'll scratch it. If we dont, then we dont!

And for those of you who worry about not getting pregnant I have a great story to give you guys faith. My mom was told she would never be able to have kids because she was born with one fallopian tube. Well, after her and my sisters father broke up, she started getting very sick and went to see a doctor. They did an ex-ray and told her she had a cyst that had to be removed surgically in her stomach. She almost scheduled to have the surgery but decided to get a second opinion. Well, the second opinion was that she was pregnant with my sister. If she didnt go for that second opinion, they would have removed my sister from my mom! She went on to have me and did get pregnant twice after but lost those. Anyway, always have faith and if my mom got pregnant with one fallopian tube, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE! Keep the faith girls who are trying.

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by Espo22

serious question to the ladies

i see some of you plan exactly when you want to get pregnant, such as you want to be pregnant by so and so month or for example fall of 08...do any of you wonder about the fact that it can be a long process and not everyone gets pregnant right away? I know ppl who tried for months and many even for a year or 2 or longer and it wasn't happening...i am just asking bc i am curious if ppl are preparing for this possibility...see this is the exact reason why i WON'T plan it...i dont want to disappoint myself, ive seen what others go through and i dont want to sit here and expect to be pregnant by lets say feb 09 for example and it doesnt happen and this goes on for a while...i am honestly really scared about going through this

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Thats a tricky question for me. Honestly, me and FH arent sure we want kids at all. So were pretty comfortable with what happens. If we dont get pregnant then we dont. I know a lot of people dont think of it that way cause IM in the minority when it comes to wanting to have children.

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we are planning to do the exact same thing!! after a few years ( one or two or three or. . . five? LOL ) i am going to go off teh pill and then we will see what happens. . . no charting no temping nothing


i really wanted to have kids my whole life but due to some circumstances lately i have totally change my mind and FH has never really wanted kids so its working out for us so far

who knows what will happen though - we will leave it in God's hands!

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Posted by MPAS

HELLLLLLL TO THE NOOOOOOOO

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LOL!!! Same here! We talk about it but we both stress not for a few yrs!

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Posted by gabbie83

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Posted by Snowflake08

we're working on it!!! LOL

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arent you afraid that if you get pregnant before the wedding, you'll have morning sickness or you ownt be able to have a drink at your wedding?

you dont start showing till whcih month?
what bout honeymooooooooon?

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not really
im getting married in 45 days and im not pregnant yet so im not worried
if it happens it happens

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by MPAS

HELLLLLLL TO THE NOOOOOOOO

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Ditto! If a baby comes over, Fh cant wait til theyre gone!

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this is kinda the point fh and i are at right now too...i wonder if that will change in time...at least we are both on the same page with this

Denise and Kim, i agree with both of you

you cannot predict when you will get pregnant
you can try to plan, but you really have to know your body

however, what kim said about positive thinking is so true

if you think you wont or cant, that stress really does work against your body

there is SO much more to getting pregnant than just the obvious

a GREAT book is 'taking charge of your fertility'
i use ovulation predictors and monitors to see when i am fertile
i also chart my temperature EVERY DAY at the same time

Laura - educate me. What does that mean - charting your temperature? What kind of a window does that give you? What are you looking for?

Sorry, I'm just curious about this stuff

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Posted by beachbum05

Laura - educate me. What does that mean - charting your temperature? What kind of a window does that give you? What are you looking for?

Sorry, I'm just curious about this stuff

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well, actually, there are only about 4 days out of the month that you can actually get pregnant
it has to be when you ovulate so you chart your temperatures and they give you an indication of when you do infact ovulate
or, for some people, while charting, they notice if they are not ovulating at all
you can get your period and NOT ovulate

you also check your cervical mucus, i know it sounds gross, but when you want a baby, these are the things to do

to chart your temps, you have to take it the second you wake up, before getting out of bed

my basal thermometer is right on top of my alarm clock

if your temps stay steady, it would show non ovulation

if you have a 'peak' temperature, it would show ovulation. then, when your period comes, the temp drops again OR if the temps stay up for 14 days or more, you could be pregnant and should test

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Posted by MPAS

HELLLLLLL TO THE NOOOOOOOO

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Ditto!!!!!

We had the discussion on when to start trying. FH's opinion is as soon as we get back from the HM. I told him I don't know who he's going to be having those kids with, but it won't be me. I'm staying on the pill at least until our first anniversary.

I want some time as husband and wife before we are mom and dad. JMO.

If we have trouble conceiving, we'll try fertility drugs, etc. I'm hoping for twins anyway. And if we can't conceive, than it wasn't meant to be and we'll adopt.

if i were younger, or we were younger, im sure i would feel the same way

but we're not and the older you are, the more risks involved so we gotta get moving!!!! LOL

OMG my FH asked me if we could start early so that we don't have to waste any time. He wants a honeymoon baby but of course he knows it can't always be instant and can take some time so he wanted to start like 2-3 months before the wedding. My reply was 'r u nuts?!?' No way will i be sick for my wedding.

It will happen when the time is right,...after the ring is on the finger...lol.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by MiciB115

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Posted by Espo22

Yeah see not that ill go into thinking it won't happen but i dont want to set my heart on a specific time and it not happening...i am fine with the fact that maybe it would take me more tries i am going into it knowing to prepare for this possibility. Of course while im trying i wont think 'its not gonna happen' ill hope for the best and then when it doesn't happen just have to move on and keep trying, and theres nothing wrong with trying

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Trying is the best part!

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SO TRUE

but i do wish you all the best of luck, and i hope none of you do have to deal with that.

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u know what it's interesteing that u wrote this because statistically it does take most couples up to a year to get pregnant.. i happen to be a fertile myrtle and can get pregnant if someoen looks at me while i'm ovulating. but even though we were successful first time out, that disappointing feeling is SOO real.. we didn't realize we had been successful becuse the tests I was using kept coming up negative.. (they were from the dollar store ) so i thought we weren't pregnant.. and yep.. that feeling of disappointement is a tough one..

i think we're very fortunate to have been successful so soon, even my dr was like wow.. but i know that it didn't have to happen this way.. i know of a couple of ladies who are trying and have been trying for awhile to no success.. especially as u get older-it's harder.