My first vent- it's long
Just to warn you this vent is going to be long. I am sooo angry, upset and stressed out right now. I have been engaged for 15 months now and right from the beginning FH knew I wanted things done early. That’s just how I am and have always been. I actually wanted as much as possible done by Dec 31. I was not at all subtle about that deadline. Dec 31 has come and is LONG gone and yet a large portion of the planning is not done. FH wants to be involved in the planning and is paying for a majority of the final wedding costs. Yet getting him to do anything is a major hassle. I don’t want to become a bridezilla and have tried really hard not to be and so far have succeeded. I am at my breaking point right now. He is a major procrastinator. I have tried everything I can think of to get him to do what needs to be done in a timely manner but to no avail. In Nov. I made up a list of things that had to be done and had him decide what he wants to be involved with and come up with a deadline. NONE of them have been met and half of them still aren’t done. His guest list that I had asked for last June, I finally received at the end of Feb when I got upset and suggested postponing the wedding. Things only get done when I get upset. I made him a list of what needed to be done by April 30 and gave him 6 weeks to do 8 things( which really were not all that difficult-one of which was give me a check for the florist- that took over a month to get and 3 reminders btw) As of Tue. 4 were not done. Tues night I again got upset. So yesterday he ran out to do things in a panic. So they get done half a%^ and without thought put into them. He went to pick up our wedding rings that have been ready and sitting at the jeweler for 3 weeks now without ME. His ring fit perfectly right out of the display but mine had to be made. Tue night he said he was going to go alone to pick them up and I told him I wanted to go to make sure the ring fit!!!! Lets just pray the ring is not to big or small. Then he goes to pick out the gifts for our readers- one is his BIL, one my sisters BF(who has been a tremendous help with the wedding). He decides the perfect gift for them is engraved pens. Nice for his BIL since he works in an office but how is it a good gift for my sisters BF who is an electrical apprentice?????![]()
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The flowergirl is FH’s goddaughter who I have never met. I had asked him to get her measurements so I could order the dress since FG lives in Las Vegas and the dress I wanted would take 5 months to come in. I asked him for them in Oct and a few times after. Finally in Jan I told him if I didn’t get the measurements by Friday she was not going to be in the wedding. Well he got them and when I went to order the dress realized that her mom did the measurements herself and although it looked like at a glance they were all there, they weren’t. She measured from the waist to knee, ankle, & floor, not from hollow to hem. So there I am in the store trying to get in touch with FH to call and get the right measurements but getting all voicemails. Needless to say I was Tee’d off and it wasn’t able to be ordered for another week. So yesterday, I went to pick up the dress and the sash and piping are the WRONG color. My color is royal blue and this is cornflower blue. It’s now too late to get another one shipped. The bridal shop however is FANTASTIC. When I ordered the BM dresses I ordered extra material so they are going to replace the sash and piping on the dress with this. Pretty much the whole dress needs to be taken apart and then put back together. The woman at the shop was amazing at trying to ease my fear. All I have to say is thank God I ordered it early, however if it had been ordered when I wanted I wouldn’t be worried about how it will look when done!!!!!
I am just so tired of having to get upset to get things done. I wanted to enjoy planning the wedding. But I’m not. FH has taken all the joy out of the planning and left only a TON of stress.
The flowergirl is FH’s goddaughter who I have never met. I had asked him to get her measurements so I could order the dress since FG lives in Las Vegas and the dress I wanted would take 5 months to come in. I asked him for them in Oct and a few times after. Finally in Jan I told him if I didn’t get the measurements by Friday she was not going to be in the wedding. Well he got them and when I went to order the dress realized that her mom did the measurements herself and although it looked like at a glance they were all there, they weren’t. She measured from the waist to knee, ankle, & floor, not from hollow to hem. So there I am in the store trying to get in touch with FH to call and get the right measurements but getting all voicemails. Needless to say I was Tee’d off and it wasn’t able to be ordered for another week. So yesterday, I went to pick up the dress and the sash and piping are the WRONG color. My color is royal blue and this is cornflower blue. It’s now too late to get another one shipped. The bridal shop however is FANTASTIC. When I ordered the BM dresses I ordered extra material so they are going to replace the sash and piping on the dress with this. Pretty much the whole dress needs to be taken apart and then put back together. The woman at the shop was amazing at trying to ease my fear. All I have to say is thank God I ordered it early, however if it had been ordered when I wanted I wouldn’t be worried about how it will look when done!!!!!
I am just so tired of having to get upset to get things done. I wanted to enjoy planning the wedding. But I’m not. FH has taken all the joy out of the planning and left only a TON of stress.
