My friends getting engaged - Kind of upset

My friends getting engaged - Kind of upset

She knows its coming but dosne't know when. DH is friends with her BF so of course he told me when its going to happen.

I have known her since we were in diapers and I am really happy for her b/c this is what she really wants

But I feel soooo bad for him. He dosent know what he is getting himself into. She has cheated on him.. ALOT. The last time I know of was not that long ago at all.
They were engaged once for over a year and she broke up with him and gave back the ring to be with someone else she met off the street

( Her bf of 3 years at the time!!!)

Plus there is ALOT of other stuff.... But I can't say any of this to him so I just have to put on a happy face and help plan her wedding when they come back from their cruise in Aug. and she calls to tell me she is engaged

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Posted by Soon2bMsZ

She knows its coming but dosne't know when. DH is friends with her BF so of course he told me when its going to happen.

I have known her since we were in diapers and I am really happy for her b/c this is what she really wants

But I feel soooo bad for him. He dosent know what he is getting himself into. She has cheated on him.. ALOT. The last time I know of was not that long ago at all.
They were engaged once for over a year and she broke up with him and gave back the ring to be with someone else she met off the street

( Her bf of 3 years at the time!!!)

Plus there is ALOT of other stuff.... But I can't say any of this to him so I just have to put on a happy face and help plan her wedding when they come back from their cruise in Aug. and she calls to tell me she is engaged

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That is such an awful situation - I am so sorry for the guy and for you too! Hopefully he will come to his senses before the big day - or maybe she will have a change of heart like the last time

to you. Good luck trying to stay upbeat during their planning process. Why oh why do people cheat

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Re: My friends getting engaged - Kind of upset

Oh no, your poor friend...

My Dh and I went through this once, sort of - a friend of his started dating this girl who had a reputation of cheating on her boyfriends. We all tried to tell him but it just made them closer, more isloated from the group b/c then she hated us. Sure enough, she is now married to the guy that was his roommate. Wonder when they started hooking up

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omg! the terrible! i feel so awful for the guy! i sure hope since getting engaged she's turned over a new leaf. i somehow have put my two cents into this and say i'm not confident in her ability to be with ONE man. for some reason i feel since she's engaged now it'll just excite her even more for the next conquest.

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I really feel for him not knowing what she truly is all about. That is no way to be in a relationship.

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that is a loaded situation, but I would stay out of it......sometimes I should take my own advice!

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that suc ks out loud!! just sounds like a bad situation all around and there is really nothing that you can do

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can you sit and talk to her about your concerns about her behavior? Ask her why are you marrying him if you can't be faithful, etc?

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You know, I was actually in a similar position now that I remember. My cousin was dating this guy for about 2 years. He was ready to propose to her and I knew that she had cheated on him several times. Well...suffice it to say that engagement never happened even though he never found out about the cheating.

I always had a feeling that somehow it wouldn't work out because I always felt that, if she could cheat the way she did, she didn't really love him anyway.

That could happen here. But if it doesn't, there really isn't anything you can do or say like you said, just help her plan her wedding.

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Posted by btrflygrl

can you sit and talk to her about your concerns about her behavior? Ask her why are you marrying him if you can't be faithful, etc?

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Well she wont admit to not being faithful anymore. She admits the times in the past but the time recently I know about, she didnt tell me. She actually cheated with one of my cousins best friends!! ( and my male cousin has NO reason to lie to me and is not a trouble maker at all) So there is nothing I can even say to her if she denies it.

I really feel deep down she wants to get engaged and MARRIED BY NEXT YEAR b/c she wants to feel grown up.. I dont know what it is.
She can't even pay her dirt cheap rent. She is just very immature. She can't pay her rent but will blow hundreds of dollars on tattos, and tanning packages. She goes shopping every day yet dosent have money to pay her cell phone bill
She is really a mess and needs to get her life together.
Her boyfriend is such a nice guy. He dosent really live there just stays over on the weekends.. he pays her rent most the time, her other bills, does her laundry, cleans the house, and he goes to school and works



I went over her house last month and the place was DISGUSTING. I dont mean Messy I mean REALLY DIRTY. The sink was full of pots and dishes ( she is only 1 person so imagine how long it takes 1 person who is never home to pile up that much crap in the sink) floors FILTHY... if I were a roach I would not live there!!! And it was her day off and she was just sitting there watching a lifetime movie
I asked her why dont you clean up instead of watch tv?? She said oh 'John' will be home in a few hours he said he would do it
Umm he went to school, worked, and even worked over time and you were home all day!! Now he has to come over and clean??
That would NOT fly in my house

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Wow...she does sound very immature... which makes me think that, yeah, they might get engaged, but it probably won't go much further than that.

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Wow...I don't know what to say about that. That's a really tough situation.

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That is a tough situation to be stuck in. Sorry to hear that.

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oh man! your friend's a total user! she's got no consideration for others. i feel so awful for this guy! gimme his email address! i'll tell him! hahah! i just hope he finds out and soon!

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I think the only thing you can do is the next time SHE starts talking about getting engaged etc you have a real heart to heart and tell her that being engaged is serious and she cant have her cake and eat it too. She needs to clean up her act bc shes gonna break this poor guys heart. No offense but she sounds really immature and selfish

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well that girl is either really smart or REALLY STUPID! I once told a guy friend that his girlfriend was cheating on him (i had set them up the year before, b/c i didn't know she was like that), when i found out i called him and told him. he hasn't talked to me since and that was four years ago. i heard from a mutual friend that they broke up ayear ago when she cheated on him. so karma will kick you in the butt