Yesterday we had a 4th of july Bar b Que, well as you know it she hears free food and drinks and makes her way over. When she gets there FH, FMIL, me and two of my friends are standing in a circle and she comes over and says hello to EVERYONE but me!! Then later on while we where doing fireworks she was throwing hers near my car after I told everyone no fireworks by my car, she was mimicing ever word that I said and then she started popping those confetti popper things over my friends head!! You would think she is 2 years old but she is 30. I do NOT want her in the wedding still and if she doesnt treat me alittle better soon then I will personally kick her out since FH doesnt have the balls to do it (even though he doesnt want her in the wedding either, they also do not get along) Anyway I really just needed to vent because I am so upset that no one seems to care about how she treats me except for FH but he wont say anything because he knows it will just cause a war... Oh well I guess this will just be one thing that I will have to suck up for the rest of my life.......
Mooshyboo
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Awwwww I am sorry to hear you are going through this and your FSIL is not so mature...Well maybe one day...
Good Luck!
FDWedding07
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I hope it gets better for you. If she continues like this I would kick her out. This will make you happier in the end. I am going through a similar situation (not family) but a friend in my wedding party and I really need to suck it up and kick her out. But easier said then done.
kara10152006
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Sorry to hear she is still beng so difficult. I can't believe no one even acknowledges how rude she is to you. Can you say anything to your FMIL? Maybe she could suggest to her daughter that she behave like a civilized adult. Rather than dragging you into it and making her more hostile?
neener1211
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UGH...what a baby!!! kick her out...I have no tolerance for stupidity.
BrideChrissy
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So sorry to hear that. If I were you I would not have her in my BP at all. She doesn't deserve it. You shouldn't be treated like that.
CLMon7906
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that stinks. some people just never grow up.
ewickens
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IN can be such a pain - make yourself happier now and just remove her from the bridal party!! You need to have people who care about you and your wishes and who will keep you calm the day of your wedding, not someone who doesn't listen/care to what you have to say. Even if it starts a bitter argument - it's better to get it over with now than create a larger one on your wedding day!
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Posted by Mdolph6
Yesterday we had a 4th of july Bar b Que, well as you know it she hears free food and drinks and makes her way over. When she gets there FH, FMIL, me and two of my friends are standing in a circle and she comes over and says hello to EVERYONE but me!! Then later on while we where doing fireworks she was throwing hers near my car after I told everyone no fireworks by my car, she was mimicing ever word that I said and then she started popping those confetti popper things over my friends head!! You would think she is 2 years old but she is 30. I do NOT want her in the wedding still and if she doesnt treat me alittle better soon then I will personally kick her out since FH doesnt have the balls to do it (even though he doesnt want her in the wedding either, they also do not get along) Anyway I really just needed to vent because I am so upset that no one seems to care about how she treats me except for FH but he wont say anything because he knows it will just cause a war... Oh well I guess this will just be one thing that I will have to suck up for the rest of my life.......
I hate drama. This sounds like stuff my MIL does. I just don't understand it. What a waist of energy to be so difficult - ugh!
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NO! Don't not suck it up! You shouldn't have to settle and deal with this... I'm so frustrated for you! If you're FH won't say anything and you FMIL won't say anything than it's up to you... why the bad blood by the way? Good luck!
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I'm sorry to hear about your FSIL. There is no need to act childish and immature. Your FH needs to stand up for you and tell her to knock it off whether he wants to or not. I'd be really upset.
Feel better!
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Wow that's a story to tell...I'm sorry to hear that is how your 4th July holiday was spent....I too have an immature (that is putting it politely) SIL...she too played those type of games...Hubby wont say anything as 'that's the way she is'...doesn't anybody find their 'humour' RUDE grrrr
Just remeber you are not alone...
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NO! Don't not suck it up! You shouldn't have to settle and deal with this... I'm so frustrated for you! If you're FH won't say anything and you FMIL won't say anything than it's up to you... why the bad blood by the way? Good luck!
I have to agree totally! This is your wedding and if she can't respect that, then she needs to go and fast! If shes pulling this stuff now it'll only get worse if no one says anything to her. Have you tried talking to her or your FMIL? If that doesn't do anything then tell your FH, FMIL and her that she isn't welcome in your wedding.
I am so sorry you have to go through this its ridiculous!
BellaEyes
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Why doesn't her mother say something to her? She sounds like such a child.
waterspout4
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Um, no offense, but why did you ask her to be in BP if she doesn't even get along with FH? There are no guidelines saying siblings have to be in the BP.
tomsgirl07
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I'm so sorry you're going through this.
I'd definitely kick her out- she's being totally ridiculous and you don't need her to ruin your day. Does FMIL see any of her behavior and realize it's uncalled for? Maybe you or you and FH can talk to her first to get some back up on handling the situation. Good luck!
Mdolph6
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Just to let everyone know, I have never done anything to her to make her treat me this way...FH also says 'thats just the way she is' She is a very spoiled girl and is all about ME ME ME....
UGHHH the things that have to make me upset while planning our wedding
R&J0806
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i'm sorry to hear that. It really stinks and what I'm about to say really isn't fair, but if you contantly bring this up to FH (and it looks like he knows without you saying a word), you'll put him in the middle of his family - you tugging on one side and his sister on the other. Instead, be the sugary sweet nice one (this is what I'm doing with FMIL) because in the end, it will make you look like an angel and will magnify your FSIL's faults.
I think since the whole family was there to witness her actions you should have no problems kicking her to the curb. That's where the trash belongs anyway!
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I would kick her out of the BP already. If a war is to be had, better now before the wedding than the day of when she is putting up a fuss b/c too many people are paying attention to you.
