that she is moving to Miami the end of this month!!! I am so upset. She's my best friend and we had plans to do so many things together to plan this wedding....and now she won't be here to do any of it.
She'll still be my MOH....but she'll be in Miami and only in NY for the bachelorette party/rehearsal dinner/shower/wedding. But she's not gonna be here with me when i have my weekly nervous breakdowns. I cried for like 1/2 hour when she told me.
Am I just being totally over sensitive? Wouldn't this upset you?
cindyandkevin
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Of course it's upsetting, you're not being overly sensitive at all!!!!!! I'm sorry she's moving but I'm sure it's necessary and she's gonna miss out on being here for you too. Glad she's still going to be your MOH tho, that's important!!!
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My MOH moved to Florida, so I feel your pain! She's only a phone call away, though!
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You are not being oversensitive, but things will work out fine. My MOH lives in Virginia and I call her every time I am having a 'crisis'. She walks me through the problems, she listens to my silly bantor and she gives me advice over the phone. She is coming up to NY this weekend to come to my dress fitting and she has helped plan things even though she doesn't live in NY. I have e-mailed her 'novels' explaining issues that I am having, sent her pictures to get her advice...it's not the same as her being here, but there are so many ways to keep her involved.
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My MOH moved away too during the planning. Its sad but she'll still be able to help you a lot, even from far away, with the planning. Email is so wonderful for that.
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I would definitely be upset too. When I moved away from all my family and friends, it was the hardest decision but I thought it was the right decision for me.
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of course it's upsetting! she's your best friend! and this is going to be an exciting and crazy time in your life and you'll be away from each other.
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Thanks everyone. I felt silly crying this morning but I couldn't seem to stop. Then my sister stressed me out a bit when I told her by saying 'well, now who's gonna plan the shower with me and the bachelorette party'...she even said 'can't she wait until after the wedding to move?'. Of course she can't...her life needs to move forward too but on top of feeling bad...my sister wasn't helping me feel any better about it.
She did seem like she was gonna try to 'take over' stuff in Jenn's absence. I feel guilty b/c I didnt make my sister MOH and I think she feels happy that Jenn is leaving becasue she's gonna try to take her place..... but Jenn is my MOH. :(
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I say be happy that she is at least going to come up for bachelorette party and shower. MY MOH is in cali and she just told me the other day, she would rather be able to make the more important things like the actual wedding so she probably won't make the bachelorette party or the shower.
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Posted by PrincessButtercup
I say be happy that she is at least going to come up for bachelorette party and shower. MY MOH is in cali and she just told me the other day, she would rather be able to make the more important things like the actual wedding so she probably won't make the bachelorette party or the shower.
Oh that stinks...I'm so sorry. But remember...she has 'said' she'll be here...let's see what happens when the time comes. She keeps saying Jetblue baby....$69 flights...I can make it to everything. We'll see.
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a hug from me - don't worry, it will be ok
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You arent being oversensitive...I would have been upset too, my MOH is in Michigan, but she has been there since before we were engaged, she is always a phone call away
for you!
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My MOH/BF for 20 years is moving to Florida on Nov.15 and I cant even talk about it w/out crying. DH laughs at us because he thinks its 'silly' Her FI already said 'Jenn we have the extra room for you whenyou come down' MOH already told him its a package deal. you get 2 for 1 Hubby thinks were crazy. Its hard to let someone that close to you go
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i'm sorry - that is terrible.. You have every right to be sad and upset over it...
but being an optimist - now you always have a reason to go on vacation to florida!!
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i'm sorry - that is terrible.. You have every right to be sad and upset over it...
but being an optimist - now you always have a reason to go on vacation to florida!!
PRO: You're right, I have a place to visit. CON: Who can afford to travel when saving for a wedding and a house.
Thanks everyone. I'm glad that I'm not the only one who is going thru this. A lot of people seem to have MOH that moved in the middle of planning the wedding. I guess she'll have to order her dress in FL!
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It's absolutely okay to be upset - she's your best friend and she's moving away. But her address won't change the fact that she's your MOH. I'm sure she'll do as much as she can to help you.
My best friend moved to VA before I was engaged. I still asked her to be my MOH and it has worked out great. Email and free nights and weekends are wonderful things.
Hang in there. It's a sad and upsetting time but it will get better.
