I've been engaged since September and my father has yet to say congratulations! My mother wants nothing to do with me - she's just always angry at me.
I KNOW that it has nothing to do with my FH or the fact that I'm getting married. They just resent me for some reason and always have. We are paying for the whole thing ourselves - I wouldn't ask them for anything.
It's just so sad to go through the happiest time of your life feeling so alone!!!
Sorry had to vent so I don't cry at my desk!
palebride
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so sorry!!
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DecBride04
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i am sorry That is terrible for them to be that way. Gosh, maybe try talking to your mom about your feelings and see why to act this way towards you.... This can't be, your getting married! Families are suppose to be HAPPY!
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. When I first got engaged(my whole family was there)my mother was so excited. That was Easter of 93 and I think she has probably asked me about the wedding maybe at the most 5 times. I have to ask her to go look at my dress or anything like that. It's not even like we don't get along. It s*cks that she doesn't involve herself more, and I don't feel like I should have to ask. Thankfully I have great aunts, cousins and FMIL that are always willing to help and share these moments.
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First Second : i read this whole post a few times over and over again.
Everyone said about the finacal aspect and how to invovle her if that hurts that she cant finacially support you but i think everyone missed something unless i am overemphasing on this and it bothers me you said: 'They just resent me for some reason and always have'
I am so bothered by this statement that this is the part of the whole story that made me cry for you. Your parents (BOTH) have always resented you, treated you unfairly? Can i ask u and u dont have to answer are u an only child, did your parents show you affection as a child.
Speaking from my own life my dad left us and my mom raised me and my brother however it was so hard that she did not have time for being 'affectionate' just doing the motherly things and working to keep clothes on our back and a roof over our head. Regardless IMO there is always time for affection. When i got engaged my mom was excited for a mere 2 minutes until she blurted how come i was not told this was happening? (referring to FH) since then she is like ya thats nice yeah if thats what u want. and i am getting married in 101 days! she has yet to find a dress, SEE MY DRESS or anything i feel your pain so much but no matter what i say it still hurts. Just let me tell you that EVERYONE i here I AM SURE is more then HAPPY FOR YOU AND YOUR FH! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! and it has taken me a long way to say this but DONT GIVE A CRAP ABOUT ANYONE IN YOUR WEDDING PLANNING IF THEY DONT WANT TO BE INVOLOVED CARE ABOUT ONLY YOURSELF AND FH! i know its horrible to say but its true!
Good luck, GOd Bless & I am here for you if you ever need to talk!!!!!
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I hear you OCT04. I have a father that has MORE than enough money to pay for our entire wedding. My mom is SO dependant on me that she doesn't ask anything about the wedding, she wasn't interested in my dress NOTHING. My dad all of a sudden decides that he is MOVING w/ his little family to Trinidad, just another excuse to dissapoint me. We are paying for everything ourselves. This is supposed to be OUR year but it doesn't seem so. Do like I do, I say a prayer, shed some tears and MOVE on and think of how nice our day will be.
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You are all so great! I have a hard time talking to the FH about it - only because he hates to see me upset. Unfortunately, this is nothing new. I don't think anything specific caused it - its just the cards I was dealt. I think it's just getting to me because I really hoped that the wedding would bring us together. I'm starting to realize that it's just not gonna happen. Well at least I have an older brother who I thank God for everyday - because without him I would have lost my mind by now!!!
and I'm so sad to hear I have so much company in feeling like this! Hopefully we all learn from our parents errors and become better people!!!
Thanks again!
AUG21-04
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Always be grateful for your brother. My brother was killed when I was 16. And my little one is in that I am 18 and I am a MAN mode. So there is just no talking to him,he will learn when he is jsut a little older and he wants a real life and a job.
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So sorry you are going through this Remember your Mom is the one missing out and when she is old and alone she will have nothing but to feel sorry for herself...but she did it to herself. You have your life to live so never stop living it!! Besides you always have us to talk to...
janwinterbridejoy
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brothers are the best!!!! mine is my best friend and was my man of honor
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shelly3950
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I am so sorry you are going through this, but you are not alone- we are all here for you! I know its not the same as having parental support, but focus on the important things. you have a fiance who loves you!
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I am sorry that you have to deal with this- My family can be far from supportive and on the draining side! To make a long story short- You can only pick your friends not your family! Hang in there and enjoy your wedding. This is your day to shine and let nothing or anyone take that away. Best wishes to you :)
