My SIL

My SIL, just asked me to be her lamaz coach and be there for the delivery for her fourth child a girl. (her sig,other left her for now) if he doesnt come back I am VERY WILLING to do this with her, we went for a sonogram together, and that was an experience i will never forget!!! however, certain people are telling me that being in the delivery room will turn me off from wanting children for a while.. that i cant see.. they say 'its not like tv you know!!' (some people are rude i think! ) Do you think this is a mistake for me to do? I would LOVE to be there, (not to mention I have baby fever so i am up for anything that has to do with babies these days ) And i would love to do this, do you think it would be a mistake for me? thanks ladies...

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Suzanne, my gosh! Personally, I have only witnessed my own son's birth, so I have never been a 'third party' in a delivery room, so you'll have to take my input with a grain of salt.
But, I can't imagine anyone saying that it would turn you off to having children! Don't listen to anyone and do what your heart tells you. The birth of a healthy child is the most amazing gift from God.

Here's another perspective...my hubby was my birth coach and I was very worried about how he'd do in the delivery room. I was afraid that he'd get sick, pass out and leave me all alone. He even said very early in the pregnancy that he didn't see a reason for him to cut the baby's cord.

However, on the day of Paul's birth, he was a completely different person. Granted, this was his child, BUT - you'll be experiencing your own niece's birth! That can be the foundation of a major bond between the two of you.

Long story short - my husband was a trooper through the whole experience. He watched Paul's birth and his circumcision (which I was also very surprised about) without blinking an eye. He proudly cut the baby's cord when the doc asked. Later, when I asked him why he changed his mind, he said that it felt like the natural thing to do. He also said that it was the most amazing thing he has ever witnessed in his life.

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oh GREAT!!!!! im really so excited that she asked me.. she has no other sisters, all brothers.. im so happy to do it.. we already know its going to be a girl, i am so honored she chose me!!! thanks for the advise again!! :LOL

If the boyfriend comes back then i get the boot thought!! LOL, but i wouldnt mind, id rather her grow up knowing her dad is there.. and ill be patiently waiting in the waiting room to meet my brand new neice!!!

My opinion here... LONG (as usual, LOL)

Suzanne,

That is such an honor that she asked you. I would be so flattered and enjoy every moment that you will experience, in lamaze, in the delivery room, etc etc. Whoever told you that about childbirth, that is strictly there opinion. (and shame on them for trying to influence you like that !! )
There are many gals that I even know that are freaked and disgusted about childbirth also, I think they are nuts, ignorant, and cold (my opinion
)

I have been at the delivery of my twin sister's three children, and I have to say they were 3 of the most special days of my life, and here my due date is one week from today, and I cant beleive that, that miracle is going to happen to me, that I am going to be the one ON the bed.

I think everything you go through in life, depending on how it occurs, will influence your future thoughts about it, whether it's something that gives you a scare, like falling off of a bike as a kid, almost drowning in a pool, being chased by a dog, etc etc. or something leaves a good impression on you...
Either way, you make the judgement yourself and deal with it the best way you can if its something that does scare you or intimidate you for future occurances..

The birth of my first niece was my first time in a delivery room, I was in AWE, I was overwhelmed, I was amazed, I was dumbstruck, I was in a bliss... Here was my flesh and blood, creating the miracle of life... What did leave an impression on me was that the cord was wrapped around the baby's neck. So the nurses had to 'slap her around' a bit. Even though I later found out HOW COMMON this is, at the time, we cried like babies (sis, her DH and I), not knowing what was happening. We heard her cry, thank GOD, and my BIL told me to run out and tell the crowd of the good news (I thought DADDY wanted to do it, but he was so overcome with emotion that he didnt wanna leave the room, and I figured it would be best for me to leave them for their bonding...). When I ran out crying a scared cry and yelling ITS A GIRL, a few people couldnt read my expression, whether I was scared, happy or what.

Moral of my story, I was left with an impression of 'WHAT IF the cord is around the neck, do they check ahead of time or what ?' and for the next 2 births, I was a little nervous of that (yes they both also had the cords wrapped, but I knew that it was very common and would be taken care of ASAP and thank God both were ok.).

You be the judge of things in life. Dont let others influence your thoughts or ideas about something.
I havent been through childbirth yet, but the majority of moms I hear from say 'it hurt, yes, it was 2 hours of pushing, etc etc.... BUT I WOULD DO IT ALL AGAIN IN A HEARTBEAT !


So take those words as an influence and not the negative ones !

Let us know how your SIL's pregnancy goes !

Sorry I rambled !

Re: My opinion here... LONG (as usual, LOL)

That's a wonderful honor! How exciting for you!!!

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OH MY GOODNESS I AM ALL CHOKED UP READING THESE BEAUTIFUL RESPONSES!!!
Everyone is absolutly right how beautiful AND emotional it is to witness a child being brought into this world!! To think you are there in her life from the MOMENT she is born!!! How wonderful!! She(your niece) will always know from you telling her -that from that moment on you are always there for her!!!!

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Thank you ladies!! i am so excited to do this!!! Its not till January.. so i have a couple of months ahead of me..I cant wait!!!
Im sure shes going to be BEAUTIFUL!!!and shes asked me to help with the name picking,, so far its
Angelina
Samantha
Rachel
We have narrowed it down that far.. I told her if she cant come up with it, not to worry, im sure as soon as we see her we will know which name fits!!!