MY SIL copys everything I do!! I can't take it anymore!!!

shelzyp Posted: Jan 08, 2004 08:50 PM

MY SIL copys everything I do!! I can't take it anymore!!!

Now she wants to use my reverend!!

I can't take it anymore, I told Vin there is no way we are giving her, my rev's name. THat is outr ceremony, and I know that hers owuld be a little differetn, but I liked the fact that everyone was commenting ojn our reverend and how unique and beautiful the ceremony was, there is no way I am sharing that with her. I don't care if I am being childish.

A dress, or favor, or video camerea, it not a big deal, but our ceremony is. That is where I draw the line!!!

yabbobay Posted: Jan 08, 2004 10:49 PM

Re: Yabbobay you on???

imitation is a form of flattery....

remember you'll be happier if you just blow her off and don't let her bother you... if I could only take my own advice...

at least I don't have to see my SIL very often

mishandgerard Posted: Jan 08, 2004 11:30 PM

Re: Yabbobay you on???

i do not know her and i dont like her

shelzyp Posted: Jan 09, 2004 07:30 AM

Re: Yabbobay you on???

But I will not sit at her ceremony and listen to the same one. I know imitation is a form of flattery, but I will not give her the name. I told Vin, there is no way!!

Lisa Rose Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:10 AM

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tell her the reverend doesn't do weddings anymore!!

MarcellaBella Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:15 AM

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girl.. I know EXACTLY where you are coming from.. only it's not a SIL.. it's pathetic..

but like I always say..

You can imitate me, but you'll never duplicate me..

butterfly20 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:47 AM

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give her some other reverends name and tell her thats who you used...

cooky11111 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:50 AM

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Posted by MarcellaBella

You can imitate me, but you'll never duplicate me.. [/QUOTE)

I like that!

Don't let it bother you, I know it can be hard. Just be happy she likes you reverend and wants him.....it shows you must have had a beautiful ceremony! Better then saying....gosh I don't want to use her reverend...the ceremoney was horrible!

dietzer Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:58 AM

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Why don't you say he moved out-of-state?

nrvbrd Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:02 AM

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This woman has issues.

I am so sorry.

jennbaby Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:03 AM

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I had a friend who always used to copy me, I hated it!!!

shelzyp Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:03 AM

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Because I should not have to lie. I am not comfortable with it. I got so many compliments on how unique my ceremony was, and I don't want her using them. SHe would ahve never found anyone like that, or would ahve ever wanted that if she didn't see it at my wedding.

Also it is about her not wanting to loko around. he likes everyone else to do the work, and then she just uses their stuff.

She copies everything we do, and I am so sick of having to just get over it, and not let it bother me.

THis is not about a dress, flowers or something triaval, this is copying the cermony that united us in Marriage!!

ChristineC68 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:06 AM

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Can you tell her how strongly you feel that this one aspect of your weddings be different?

I'm sorry you have to deal with this

shelzyp Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:08 AM

Re: MY SIL copys everything I do!! I can't take it anymore!!!

She is a pyscho, and would be mad at anything I saw. I told my DH to tell her we don't want her using our reverend, but I think he is scared to tell her.

ChristineC68 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:13 AM

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I know you shouldn't have to lie but I would make up a BS excuse like he retired or you don't have the number any more.

Can your MIL handle her? Would she be willing to help you out of this one?

MarcellaBella Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:13 AM

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Posted by shelzyp

She is a pyscho, and would be mad at anything I saw. I told my DH to tell her we don't want her using our reverend, but I think he is scared to tell her.

tell her flat out NO.. don't be rude, just state your case, which is a valid one I may add and that is it..

shelzyp Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:15 AM

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See the thing is, if I say it, I will be called a Beotch, not matter how nice I saw it. And DH is a wimp when it comes to his sister, since he knows she will flip over everything.

We ahve had a volitle relationship in the past, and DH wants it to be a smooth one.