My stepmother- can't say the words!

Original post by sept20yay!

Nov 22, 2002 02:51 PM

My father recently got engaged to a woman I despise.... I've known her for seven years and her jealousy and bitterness towards me is apparent in everything she does... She doesn't invite me to family functions, does everything she can to come between and wreck the relationship I have with my father.... I just found out that they are getting married soon---- before me. Does her name need to be on my invitation as she will be his wife? She told my father that it shouldn't be just my mothers name (who is not married) and his name doing the inviting? What is proper? I can't stand this woman!!!

WeDidIt! Posted: Nov 23, 2002 05:24 PM

Re: My stepmother- can't say the words!

You definetly do not have to or need to include her name on the invitaion. Nor do you need to attempt to come up with wording that will group everyone together as opposed to naming each parent. Although you have stated that you really don't care for her...I do not see not including her name on the invitaion as being vindictive, cruel, petty etc. If she wished for her name to be included on the invitation she should have given alot more thought to her interaction with you. She should have attempted to build a relationship with you, at the least.

There are so many things to be stressed over in the planning process. Do not allow this to be one of them. If she is hurt, she will eventually get over it. If your father is hurt, explain why you made the choice that you made and he too will eventually get over it.

I hope this works out for you. I really do.