my 'surprise' shower is giving me anxiety

i dont want it to be a surprise, i feel uncomfortable knowing that everytime i go to my sisters in late June/early July, it may be my shower...i actually kinda figured out it was in July, due to my mom slipping...my MOH wants to tell me and I think I want to know...

does anyone else really really not want a surprise??

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Posted by ddnsp618

i dont want it to be a surprise, i feel uncomfortable knowing that everytime i go to my sisters in late June/early July, it may be my shower...i actually kinda figured out it was in July, due to my mom slipping...my MOH wants to tell me and I think I want to know...

does anyone else really really not want a surprise??

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I didnt want it to be a surprise either..i was having terrible anxiety about it...finally convinced my mom to tell me the date!

Im actually kinda feeling like the opposite... All this week, Ive been like dreading Saturday... I hate being in the spotlight and knowing its 2 days away gives me more anxiety than probably having it sprung on me

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by ddnsp618

i dont want it to be a surprise, i feel uncomfortable knowing that everytime i go to my sisters in late June/early July, it may be my shower...i actually kinda figured out it was in July, due to my mom slipping...my MOH wants to tell me and I think I want to know...

does anyone else really really not want a surprise??

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I didnt want it to be a surprise either..i was having terrible anxiety about it...finally convinced my mom to tell me the date!

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werent you concerned like, what if you look like crap and everyone is screaming at you and you have a dumb look on your face.

oooorrr if you like see someones car that you know and you are like oh so its my shower, then you arent surprised and you walk in and have to act surprised and then youll look dumb...ugh this is annoying

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by ddnsp618

i dont want it to be a surprise, i feel uncomfortable knowing that everytime i go to my sisters in late June/early July, it may be my shower...i actually kinda figured out it was in July, due to my mom slipping...my MOH wants to tell me and I think I want to know...

does anyone else really really not want a surprise??

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I didnt want it to be a surprise either..i was having terrible anxiety about it...finally convinced my mom to tell me the date!

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thats too funny!

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Posted by ddnsp618

werent you concerned like, what if you look like crap and everyone is screaming at you and you have a dumb look on your face.

oooorrr if you like see someones car that you know and you are like oh so its my shower, then you arent surprised and you walk in and have to act surprised and then youll look dumb...ugh this is annoying

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yes, is def nice to know exactly what im wearing... altho its gonna rain, and def would have switched my outfit if i had known... and ill be there greeting everyone haha... i cant do the 'look surprised' face... i think its dumb, hardly any one is truely surprised but you have to fake it for guests who prob guessed anyway that you know... LOL its redic

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by ddnsp618

werent you concerned like, what if you look like crap and everyone is screaming at you and you have a dumb look on your face.

oooorrr if you like see someones car that you know and you are like oh so its my shower, then you arent surprised and you walk in and have to act surprised and then youll look dumb...ugh this is annoying

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yes, is def nice to know exactly what im wearing... altho its gonna rain, and def would have switched my outfit if i had known... and ill be there greeting everyone haha... i cant do the 'look surprised' face... i think its dumb, hardly any one is truely surprised but you have to fake it for guests who prob guessed anyway that you know... LOL its redic

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uggghhh i know! im going to discuss this with my MOHs and BMs and mom and i think i want to know.

I just asked my MOH when mine was and she told me! July 12th!

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Posted by ddnsp618

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by ddnsp618

i dont want it to be a surprise, i feel uncomfortable knowing that everytime i go to my sisters in late June/early July, it may be my shower...i actually kinda figured out it was in July, due to my mom slipping...my MOH wants to tell me and I think I want to know...

does anyone else really really not want a surprise??

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I didnt want it to be a surprise either..i was having terrible anxiety about it...finally convinced my mom to tell me the date!

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werent you concerned like, what if you look like crap and everyone is screaming at you and you have a dumb look on your face.

oooorrr if you like see someones car that you know and you are like oh so its my shower, then you arent surprised and you walk in and have to act surprised and then youll look dumb...ugh this is annoying

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I knew about my work shower, but just walking in the door and having all those people yell surprise at me was enough to make me tear up and act surprised. :)

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Posted by ddnsp618

i dont want it to be a surprise, i feel uncomfortable knowing that everytime i go to my sisters in late June/early July, it may be my shower...i actually kinda figured out it was in July, due to my mom slipping...my MOH wants to tell me and I think I want to know...

does anyone else really really not want a surprise??

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I'm the same way! A bit of a control freak I admit... I just like to be organized and it's not really a surprise if you know it's coming. It's like it's there and it's for you and you're not allowed to discuss it... I had a hard time getting over it and asked to at least pick the date so I can doll up and look forward to it and not look like a slob on the day of.
Me knowing actually turned out to be a bad thing cuz I got a little too involved and it got out of hand and I had to take a step back and wash my hands off it. So now I still know the date but not anything else, not even who's coming

I didn't want a surprise either.
Some of my reasoning was due to anxiety but another reason was my MOH was flying in from Vegas (where she lives) and I'd have been so upset if she were in town for a few days before and I didn't see her.