My time....(kind of long)

i am so sorry! i dont think you are being mean at all!!

Sounds to me like FSIL is telling you one thing and your FMIL another. I wouldn't tell your FSIL anything unless she asks and seems truley interested.

Some people sadly don't know how to just be honest with other's and it always comes back to bite them. It will happen to her just wait!.... also I think it is kinda weird that she is saving YOUR ideas for her best friend. That is selfish and childish....

Like I said I would honestly leave her out, that might sound harsh but that's what I would do.

thank you ladies i know i can always count on all of you!! I have left her out but FMIL wants her involved!

i understand where you are coming from, it upsets you that she was just giving excuses, instead of being honest. however, maybe she has been facing complications with getting or staying pregnant & she is upset about it.
many people that i know say, 'i might be pregnant by then, so i can't attend this that & the other thing.' what people don't realize is that it could take a long time to become pregnant & they use it as an excuse before the fact.

i know many of people who have played active parts in bridal party's during their pregnancy. my friends wedding last year 3 girls where pregnant. 1 was only a few weeks, 1 was 8 months & the other (her MOH) was 5 months & had dealt with a miss-carriage a couple of months prior to that.

I think your FSIL should have been honest and upfront with you, it does sound like she is giving you and your FMIL two different stories. I would just try to ignore her as much as possible and not involve her, unless you have to

i'm sorry

I think you have nothing to be sorry for. Your fsil told you she wouldn't be in the bridal party, so who cares. And I agree with Teri that she is probably telling your FMIL somethign else. Sorry gloria, cheer up!

sorry you are going through this. it sounds complicated

is FSIL tryin to get pregnant? maybe there are having troubles and that is why FMIL is trying to overly defend her?

honestly, i wouldnt bring anything up anymore. if she suggested getting FSIL involved, just be like -- 'well i want to b surprised, so if she wants to help the BP that is great...'

leave it at that. the less you know, sometimes, teh better!

GL!

i am sorry you are dealing with this

You are not being mean at all..... I feel for you. Your in a tough situation

Thats insane...she said it and you were just trying to let her know that you wont be upset! Now her mother says, 'can you let that go????' are you serious? sounds like if she still wanted to be in it, you would be totally fine with it. What??? you are not being mean, you just stated the facts! sorry hun that you are dealing with this Maybe if she has an email (the sil, not the fmil), write a quick email saying that you just hope there is no misunderstanding ...that you only didnt want her to feel obligated if she was having doubts about being in the bridal party because you completely understand that she had her reasons for thinking she might not be able to take part in things, etc. I wouldnt say anything about her mother saying what she did but maybe a simple not would clear things and noone could ever point a finger at you!

i think shes being a bish cuz shes jealous. the attention isnt on them anymore and every1 will eb focusing on u and marcel.

she prob has nothing else to look fwd to, so shes prob tryin to get preggers to get attention. thats what IIII think is going on in her sick demented head.

plan away with your girls. shes just a paperweight thats turned into a total inconvenience.

dont let her get to u