*~*~*~*My Very 1st QOTD*~*~*~*

Good Morning to all of you....hopefully this will be a good week!!

I would like to thank Jessica for giving me the honor of being the BOTW and hopefully my QOTD's this week meet up to the standards of all past BOTW's!!!

I think I would like to concentrate on our relationships past & present...

So here it goes...

Your last relationship before FH, how long was it? how did that end? What is different in this relationship? And are you still friends with your ex?

My last relationship prior to FH was about 3 yrs long, during college, and it didnt end well. He had/s some emotional/mental issues. I basically couldnt handle his controlling ways and I realized that I could no longer be with a person like that. He thought we would get married but I knew it wouldnt work out. We are no longer friends and he hates me. He beleives that I ruined his life because he feels that when we were dating it consumed him and he couldnt study so he had to drop out school and go to a community college to start all over again.

My relationship with FH is totally different. FH is confident, strong, doesnt have any emotional issues and is basically the complete opposite of my ex, he is perfect for me

My last relationship before FH was about 3 years in college from Freshman year to Junior year. It was a pretty good relationship until about the last year. We basically kept breaking up when we were both home and not in college, then got back together basically out of convenience. The summer before senior year we broke up, and I think we both fully expected to get back together when we got back to school, but then I met FH and that was that. My ex and I are not friends at all, we haven't spoken in like 4 years. That is sad to me, and I would love to catch up, but he was not interested in being friends.

My relationship with FH is definitely different because I am actually happy with him and I never ever wanted to break up with him, even if we weren't near each other. With the ex it was sort of like an 'out of sight, out of mind' type thing. With FH it is more like a 'distance makes the heart grow fonder' type thing...not that we have to be apart anymore since we live together.

My relationship before FH was about a year (even though we broke up all the time). It was very very intense...I will always care for him but I realized we were just not right for eachother. We speak every now and then to say Hi.. but we are not really friends.

Before that ex I dated a guy for 5 years... he mentioned marriage and I broke up with him lol Im so bad. I just knew I didnt want to spend my life with him. We are not friends but I will say hi to him if I saw him..I still talk to his sisters though!

I am SO happy I found FH

My last relationship before FH was about 7 months.
We were total opposites, and while the ex was a great guy, the whole 'city girl, country boy' was doomed from the start.

Think Carrie and Aidan from Sex and the City-remember when she went to the country house with him? Bad idea.

Fun idea in theory, but the reality is, you can't marry someone who doesn't share the same lifestyle you do. You can pretend it works for a little while, but thats about it.

I met FH 8 months after the break up with country boy. After our 2nd or 3rd date we knew this was it.

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Posted by Just Cindy

I always wonder how many people actually remain friends with ex's. You hear about it on TV and such but in real life I dont think it happens much. Especially if its not a mutual breakup.

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I am actually friends with my high school ex boyfriend. We see each other often because we have many mutual friends. It was never awkward with him, I guess because he was a year older and we ended it when he went off to college and I was a senior in HS...we were both okay with the break up...it was kind of like a natural progression, LOL. I guess it really does just depend on how the relationship ended, ya know?

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Posted by Cacarina

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Posted by Just Cindy

I always wonder how many people actually remain friends with ex's. You hear about it on TV and such but in real life I dont think it happens much. Especially if its not a mutual breakup.

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I am actually friends with my high school ex boyfriend. We see each other often because we have many mutual friends. It was never awkward with him, I guess because he was a year older and we ended it when he went off to college and I was a senior in HS...we were both okay with the break up...it was kind of like a natural progression, LOL. I guess it really does just depend on how the relationship ended, ya know?

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I totally agree that it depends on how it ended.

My relationship before FH was 5 years long!! started dating him in HS firt love all that crap! he was complelely crazy! lol he never let me go out with my friends, got mad if i drank! I knew the relationship was over along time before it actually was, he just made it hard for me to leave! very verbaly abusive and finally i had enough!! we finally broke up and he still swore we would get back together! my name was not alowed to be said in their house for a long time! i was really really good friends with his sister (who is in my bridal party) and he had a 5 year brother who i knew his whole life and was like my little brother!! very hard to leave a relationship when you are so close to their family! for a while i would still go over for dinner and hang out with the fam! lol

so yeah 5 1/2 years later i still dont think hes over it! his siter tell me all the time how he tells he made such a huge mistake about letting me go! he still has this huge grudge against me tho! his sister was having a party at their house and invited me! then i was uninvited due to the ex telling his sister he would make the party hell if i showed up!!! ugh! soo immature! aka the reason we are no longer together! thank goodness!!

My last relationship before FH lasted 2 years. We were young and thought we were in love but it was a roller coaster ride of emotional abuse. I was trying to 'save' him from himself and in the process I destroyed myself. Finally, my parents decided that we were going to move out of NC and come back to NY and there was no way that they were letting me stay in NC with this guy. So we moved and I tried to make the long distance thing work but it never did and I thank god that my parents moved me away because that relationship was toxic and it took me a long time to see that. He and I are not friends nor could we ever be friends. I still chat with his mom occasionally through FB and she tells me that leaving him was the best thing I ever did and that he still talks about me. He is and was a looser and a deadbeat and I'm so glad that I realized that.

FH and I have been friends since we were 14 and we dated for a little while after HS. Then we lost touch for about 8 years and in 2006 we found each other again. It's funny...but we were meant to be together we just both needed to experience life on our own before we could begin our life together.

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Posted by Just Cindy

I always wonder how many people actually remain friends with ex's. You hear about it on TV and such but in real life I dont think it happens much. Especially if its not a mutual breakup.

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I am still friends with mine..in fact, he's coming to the wedding

We dated for 2 years, and it wasn't mutual..at the time, we didn't really talk, but we have the same friends, so we kept in contact.

I'm totally over it, so is he...not to mean, but I look at him now and wonder what I was thinking..FH and I are sooo much more compatible.

I only dated 1 guy before FH. We dated in college for 4 years. It was a bad break up we are def not friends. I was then totally single for 8 months and then met FH and from the moment I saw him, had a totally butterfly, I'm going to marry this man feeling.
But looking back on it I'm glad it happened because it made me realize how much I love fh and how much healthier and fulfilling my relationship w fh is.

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Posted by Just Cindy

Your last relationship before FH, how long was it? how did that end? What is different in this relationship? And are you still friends with your ex?

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Before FH, my last rel was about 1 yr... My ex considered himself a 'playa'... I went on his email acct and found tons of pics of girls he was trying to talk to... at that time, it was on AOL where you could see how many times you signed on, and while I was away on vacay, he signed onto my acct numerous times and was snooping my sh*t as well... I think it dragged on for another couple months before he ended it with me!!!! (i was a stupid, naive 17 yr old)

Its really amazing what you think love is at such a young age We are no longer friends... I used to hate him and wish hed get run over my a bus, but I now wish him the best... people can change... and i hope he has for the sake of whatever girl he is with now...

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Posted by 2ndTimeBride

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Posted by Just Cindy

I always wonder how many people actually remain friends with ex's. You hear about it on TV and such but in real life I dont think it happens much. Especially if its not a mutual breakup.

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I am still friends with mine..in fact, he's coming to the wedding

We dated for 2 years, and it wasn't mutual..at the time, we didn't really talk, but we have the same friends, so we kept in contact.

I'm totally over it, so is he...not to mean, but I look at him now and wonder what I was thinking..FH and I are sooo much more compatible.

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Thats great that you are friends with your ex. I dont know too many people like that.

There was a guy I was seeing on and off for several months, but I wouldn't call it a relationship. My last actual relationship was about 6 months, but we rarely saw each other because he was getting his PhD at Catholic and I was in school for film. We broke up after he was rude to my cousin when she came to visit. I am still friendly with him though. He is best friends with one of my BMs, thats how we met.

There were a lot of differences, he was funny, fun and the big warm teddy bear type I thought I wanted, but he was much more into himself and a philosophy major so that was interesting. Our biggest problem was I wanted to either go back to NY or live in CA, he said he hated both those states.

My last relationship was 8 1/2 years Yes it's true, we weren't married but we lived together for years. He was a crazy person and our relationship was criminal at times. Thank God I finally got it together and moved out.

Our relationship it TOTALLY DIFFERENT!!!!!!!!!! That's why I married him!!! Everything is different and I'm so happy for what seems like the first time in my life!

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

My last relationship before FH was about 7 months.
We were total opposites, and while the ex was a great guy, the whole 'city girl, country boy' was doomed from the start.

Think Carrie and Aidan from Sex and the City-remember when she went to the country house with him? Bad idea.

Fun idea in theory, but the reality is, you can't marry someone who doesn't share the same lifestyle you do. You can pretend it works for a little while, but thats about it.

I met FH 8 months after the break up with country boy. After our 2nd or 3rd date we knew this was it.

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I know exactly what you are saying. My relationship right before FH was with a NYPD police officer from Astoria. We were complete opposites and lived two completely different lifestyles. My friends HATED him. I think the only thing we had in common was a mutual love for Guns N Roses, lol. We dated for about 5/6 months before we broke up. The relationship ended pretty badly, but I did see him in the West Village about a year ago and we said hello. Two months later, I met FH and the rest is history!

before fh i was with a guys for 5 yrs..from when i was 15 to whe i was 20...why did we break up..turned out he liked blondes..lots of them