My wedding...

VadersBride2006 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:33 PM

My wedding...

... is going to be a total disaster.

And I just don't care anymore.

luna bride x Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:34 PM

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oh my god!!! is so isn't. it's gonna be amazing. especially with those pretty flower girl baskets of yours!!!

MJDoc12 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:35 PM

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i'm so sorry to hear things are going bad...anything in particular? need to vent? we're here!

VadersBride2006 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:36 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

i'm so sorry to hear things are going bad...anything in particular? need to vent? we're here!

Thank you... but it would take waaay too long...
It's safe to say, everything. Nothing at all is the way I wanted it to be.

jtgarsik Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:36 PM

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feel free to vent if u want!!! i think at some point every bride feels this way - and in the end, no matter what happens, you're marrying the man of your dreams!!!!!!! it's going to be the happiest day of your life...i promise!!!!!

BNBride60 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:43 PM

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Tell us what's wrong so we can try to help you fix it!!!!!!!!!!

DrWho Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:46 PM

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Everything is going to be fine, I promise.

SOTHISISLOVE53109 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:46 PM

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Oh no....hang in there you are almost there and even if nothing goes right (which it will be perfect) you always have each other at the end of the day

VadersBride2006 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:53 PM

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Thanks girls...

it really is not about things going wrong or right... it's more about this not even being close to what I had envisioned my day to be... I have had to give up so much: limos, DJ, decorations, etc. because of our budget. I have had to settle every step of the way for things I did not ever totally want. I am at the point where I don't even want this to happen.

BNBride60 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 03:58 PM

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Everything happens for a reason and I'm sure when the wedding actually happens you will love everything you picked. I think it's normal to second guess. Keep smiling!! You're marrying the man you love!!!

DrWho Posted: Jul 20, 2007 04:01 PM

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As always, if I can do or bring anything, just let me know. You've got a great set of bridesmaids, gorgeous accessories, and just 3 tiny little weeks before you can stop digging your nails into your palms. It'll be what it'll be, and everyone will have a fabulous time.

MRSin2009 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 04:04 PM

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I am so sorry to hear about this. I am sure everyone has this idea of what there wedding should be. But in the long run in 20 years from now you are going to remember the love of your life not the little things that go into a wedding. Take a deep breathe and remember you are marrying theman you love.

Weddings these days come with a lot of expectation but the most important thing is if you are happy with the person you are marrying.

good luck

thelastresort Posted: Jul 20, 2007 04:05 PM

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We went to a wedding last year that was a major budget affair and let me tell you, it was so much fun. It was nice that it was something totally different. All that stuff you said you had to sacrifice, is just that...'stuff'. That's all material things. None of that is necessary and definitley do not think for one second that your wedding will not be as special as anyone else's. And actually, keep in mind, more people are likely to remember your wedding and talk about it b/c of where it is and all of your unique details. It'll be great!

Vivi1006 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 04:07 PM

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Please don't feel like that, it will make you miserable.. Try to find the positive things and look at what you like. your wedding is less than a month away so just try to enjoy everything you can, then you will realize everything is great, we can't always get everything we want but if we accept it, it will be easier to enjoy everything else.....You are probably nervous since the wedding is so close

Cheer up!

VadersBride2006 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 04:53 PM

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Posted by DrWho

As always, if I can do or bring anything, just let me know. You've got a great set of bridesmaids, gorgeous accessories, and just 3 tiny little weeks before you can stop digging your nails into your palms. It'll be what it'll be, and everyone will have a fabulous time.

Thank you, Mich... as always, you know you are the best!

And you also know I would never impose on you - you have enough to do, planning your own affair!

MJDoc12 Posted: Jul 20, 2007 04:59 PM

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so sorry that you feel like you are settling on things or not getting what you want! i know the feeling....i felt that way sometimes cause we were paying on our own.......but i really hope that by the time the big day comes, you will be happy and enjoy every minute of it! maybe this is just one of those bad days where its allllll getting to you and you will eventually feel better.

KSquared Posted: Jul 20, 2007 05:07 PM

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Even if all the material things aren't what you want, just remember that at the end of the day you'll be married to the love of your life.

I'd probably kick someone for telling me that if I was getting upset about things, but I think it has truth to it. It's just hard to see it when you invest so much into your wedding day being perfect.

Colette Posted: Jul 20, 2007 06:18 PM

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Posted by VadersBride2006

Thanks girls...

it really is not about things going wrong or right... it's more about this not even being close to what I had envisioned my day to be... I have had to give up so much: limos, DJ, decorations, etc. because of our budget. I have had to settle every step of the way for things I did not ever totally want. I am at the point where I don't even want this to happen.

I'm so sorry!!!! I've had similar times throughout the planning, i've got champagne tastes and a beer budget!!! Our RH is way $$$$ but I compromised on other things and its all working out well I think? I really believe there's something to be said for having LITTLE OR NO DEBT after your wedding!!! How many brides-to-be or even newlyweds would trade places with you today because they weren't disciplined at ALL and now have a year or more of crushing DEBT ahead of them???
Hang in there, it will be a beautiful day and you and FH will have a great start to a happy life together