My wedding is on Rosh Hashanah!

Colby212 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:13 PM

My wedding is on Rosh Hashanah!

So when I booked my wedding date, I didn't think to consult the jewish calendar...there's not much I can do about it now. I'm half Jewish, but my family doesn't usually observe the holidays

But as I sent my 'STD' cards, I am finding that a few people can't come because of teh holiday!

FH and I are going to review the guest list tonight and find out if there are others that will not be able to come to the wedding...I can't believe this is happening! I have many other friends who are jewish that casually celebrate some of the holidays.

We can't change the date at this point...so I'm praying everything just works itself out.\

Any helpful advice from any jewish girls would be appreciated..and it's also ok if I'm just sh1t out of luck!

CandB4604 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:15 PM

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Oh man! How annoying! We're Jewish too but very very reformed (more 'cultural jews' as I say) but if it were my cousin's or friends wedding I'd DEF skip the holiday - hopefully they'll do the same for you.

I mean C'MON you only get married once - it's just ONE year, right? Good luck!!

Colby212 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:22 PM

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Thanks for the encouraging words...I believe the majority of my jewish are lax ..but who knows...we shall see.

Mich2585 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:25 PM

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aw im sorry to hear that your upset ... im getting married on a holiday too and even tho its not a religious one its a national one and some people have already made comments about not being able to attend because of their 'usual 4th of july plans' ... i think that those people who love you and want to be there will be there no matter what ... i hope that helps!

MrsList09 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:34 PM

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Posted by Mich2585

people have already made comments about not being able to attend because of their 'usual 4th of july plans'

WOW! Well at least you'll know who to send a Christmas card to next year. Jeez!

pa56 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:40 PM

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We're Hindu and my cousin got married Easter weekend a few years ago. We were surprised, but A LOT of their Christian friends came to the wedding... even plenty from out of town.

Don't stress too much!

VeggieBride Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:43 PM

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excuse my ignorance but what kind of holiday is rosh hashanah? Is it a celebratory one or an observance to those that lost their lives?

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:44 PM

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I didn't realize that until you wrote it. I don't have any Jewish friends....but if roles were reversed and I was invited to a wedding 'Good Friday', I would go...though technically it's a day of mourning and no meat or drinking.

I'd skip the observance for a once in a lifetime event (and I'm fairly devout Catholic). I wouldn't worry about it.

Colby212 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 04:50 PM

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Thanks sooo much for the positive words! I'm feeling better about this already =)

EsquireBride Posted: Jan 22, 2009 05:09 PM

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I think you have to be very understanding of people who may not come due to the Holiday -- I myself barely attend temple on regular Saturdays but I attend services on the Holidays and usually don't go to work or anything. If I were invited to a wedding on your day, I hate to say, I would probably have to decline.

CandB4604 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 05:15 PM

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Posted by VeggieBride

excuse my ignorance but what kind of holiday is rosh hashanah? Is it a celebratory one or an observance to those that lost their lives?

The Jewish New Year - one of the more religious holidays.

bride2be2009 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 08:25 PM

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is it the 1st or 2nd day?

i went to a friend's wedding once on Rosh Ha Shona when it ended, and also Yom Kippur when it ended. I think Yom Kippur is the more religious one though....

Colby212 Posted: Jan 22, 2009 08:45 PM

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It's on the 19th - I think it's the first..not as serious as Yom Kippur.

dutchessev Posted: Jan 23, 2009 01:29 AM

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I am not Jewish but I hope everything works out.

beram63 Posted: Jan 23, 2009 05:47 AM

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look on the bright side: it's a party holiday, as opposed to yom kippur, which was when i unwittingly had my e-party. none of my jewish guests came.

sharivera Posted: Jan 23, 2009 06:32 AM

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Unless they are religious and spend the holiday in temple, they should have no problem going to your wedding. At least it isn't on Yom Kippur, the day of atonement where they fast!! Good luck..hopefully they can make it!.

Just Cindy Posted: Jan 23, 2009 07:06 AM

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I actually have jewish friends and when I was looking at RH's I originally wanted 9/19 but one of the BM's told me it was a jewish holiday and I immediatley emailed them and one said she would go and the other said he wouldnt be able to attend so I changed the date to the 12th.

debzy Posted: Jan 23, 2009 09:13 AM

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Posted by beram63

look on the bright side: it's a party holiday, as opposed to yom kippur, which was when i unwittingly had my e-party. none of my jewish guests came.

Well, Rosh Hashanah is not exactly a 'party' holiday. It is the new year, but it is also the beginning of the period from Rosh Hashanah to Yom Kippur where religious Jews repent for their sins of the past year. Together, these two holidays are known as 'The High Holidays' because they are the 2 most important holidays that a Jew can observe.

As for the wedding being on Rosh Hashanah - I don't think there's too much you can do. If you are inviting Jewish people, then they have to decide how to observe that day. Even the 'less religious/observant' Jews usually celebrate the first day (your wedding day). But maybe if your wedding is later in the day they will choose to go to temple in the morning and your wedding in the evening?

Colby212 Posted: Jan 23, 2009 10:05 AM

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So far, only five people said they can't make it. We know that there's always going to be a number of people who can't come no matter what...so we're sticking with teh date and moving forward.

We're gonna treat it as a holiday and just send invites out a little earlier than normal

flairforfashion Posted: Jan 23, 2009 10:07 AM

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Listen, don't fret. I had a cousin who married on GOOD FRIDAY which to us is like the most holy day of the year. And I have to say a lot of people showed up and it was one of the most beautiful ceremonies / weddings I have ever been to!