Naming Parents on Invitation? - Poll

Lools Posted: Jun 11, 2007 04:51 PM

Naming Parents on Invitation? - Poll

I want to name our parents on our invitation, but FH doesn't because he feels like it's too wordy. (My parents are divorced and mom is remarried so there is one extra name than usual)

What do you think is proper?

margaretk Posted: Jun 11, 2007 04:54 PM

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I actually spoke to my parents and FH's parents about it, and they both found it disrespectful.. i was asking because some invites had a saying 'together with their parents...etc...etc...' which they still found disrepectful... should you ask your FILs and your parents and see if they don't mind either way?

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 04:55 PM

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I think the general consensus has more to do with whether or not they are hosting and/or paying for your wedding, not how many names there are. Even if they're not hosting or paying, you can include the names if you want.

In our case, FH and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. We decided to put 'Together with their parents' because they raised us and have helped and supported us throughout our entire lives so we wanted to mention them at least in that way.

Shorty McBride Posted: Jun 11, 2007 04:55 PM

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I'm a little conservative, and generally quite traditional - I feel its disrespectful.

Nina_m74 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:02 PM

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Traditionally it's who is footing the bill.

I wanted to name my parents and FHs mom to honor them. FHs parents are divorced and originally his father wasn't going to make it to the wedding, now he is going to attend. So that changes how we do the invites, for many reasons I don't want to 'honor' FHs father, if he attends and only FHs mother is on the invite it could cause some difficulty.

If your parents are paying for the wedding, I think it is disrespectful to leave them off of the invite, they are hosting the event. If you are paying for it then it's up to you, you can put them on it to honor them or you can leave it off.

Lools Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:07 PM

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We are putting 'Together with their parents' on our invitation, but I still think it's disrespectful not to include their names on it, no matter how wordy it is! Maybe if we were an older couple that would be different, but we're 26 and 27.

Drv0716 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:11 PM

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We didn't name our parents/ We were originally going to write 'Together with their parents', but my parents agreed that the wording sounded better without it.

gaccrrm Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:14 PM

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We did together with their parents.

kcbride Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:17 PM

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we named both sets of parents, even though we paid for the wedding entirely, I know it meant alot to them

Mrs_C_in_'07 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:19 PM

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My understanding was that the way the wording is on the invitation implies who was footing the bill.

For us, we put, 'Together With Their Parents' as to imply that we paid for the majority but the parents helped out here and there.

BunnyBride Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:33 PM

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We wrote 'Together With Their Families'

DH and I foot about 70 % of the bill and we are both adults who have lived away from home for a long time, we didn't think it was necessary to mention the parents by name. It's obviously a personal choice though!

Nicole622 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:39 PM

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we wrote our parents names out

Flutterbye922 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:49 PM

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If you are paying for everything compltely on your own than I don't think it is necessary to list your parents names, but if they are involved in any of the money or decision making then I think they should be on there.

MissAngel Posted: Jun 11, 2007 06:05 PM

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It's funny I never thought that I was traditional until we ordered our invitations the other day! lol

Even though we're paying for it with my parents help, we put the names of everyone on the invitations - even his late mom. We did it like this

Mr. & Mrs. X X
Request the honour of your presence
At the marriage uniting their daughter...

Missy
to
Jay

Son of Mr. & Mrs. X X
And the late Mrs. X X

HTH!

mskittynj Posted: Jun 11, 2007 07:11 PM

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we just put 'together with our parents' I thought naming everyone was too much...just my opinion!
XOXOXO
Kitty

LaurenSchatz Posted: Jun 11, 2007 07:38 PM

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Both of our parents are divorced and 3 are remarried so we have 7 parents.

We wanted to do together with our parents but then felt bad because our parents are paying for it.

I had a feeling my mom would have an issue and when I spoke to her about it, she insisted on being named on the invite.

So our invite says:
Mr and Mrs XXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Mr and Mrs XXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Ms XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Mr and Mrs XXXXXXXXXXXXXX
request the honour of your presence

Luckily we had liked a long rectangular invitation anyway, so we had the room!

Snickers76 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 08:08 PM

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FH and I didn't write our parents names at all...I am 31 and he is 35...his father lives in Chile, my dad is deceased and his Mom was dying of cancer as the wedding was approaching...

We made an adult decision to get married at this time in our lives and are paying for the entire event. My Mom was grateful that we didn't include their names and found our invitation romantic...

We wrote:

Because you have shared in their lives
You are invited to share in their new life together

Me & FH
will exchange marriage vows on
Sunday, the first of July 2007

Church
3PM

and then a small quote on the bottom

'I have found the one my heart loves'
Song of Solomon...

It was the right move for us...

DiamondPipa Posted: Jun 11, 2007 08:16 PM

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if they pay the bill they should be put on the invite...no doubt about it

aimes1313 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 08:21 PM

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I am paying for 95% of our wedding and my parents are not on good terms right now so we didn't list anyone's names. I left it purposefully vague because I knew no matter how careful I was someone would be offended. It reads:

You are invited to share in a celebration of love at the wedding of Amy and Louis

drpepper318 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 09:01 PM

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Well I didn't put either parents' names on the invite (just because I found wording that I really liked and it didn't work with names) and nobody said anything about it (but we are paying for most of the wedding ourselves).