Need Advice

Original post by needadvice

Jul 20, 2004 12:10 PM

I am a regular poster on these boards, but I do know some people on here that might know who i am talking about so i am doing this annonymously.

I had my shower two months ago. There are 10 girls in my bridal party. My mother paid for my entire shower and the Bridal Party was only responsible for the bridal party gift and decorations/cake at the shower.

I have only heard about most of this recently from some of the girls in the bridal party who are a little upset and don't know what to do. My Maid of Honor collected $150 from each bridesmaid for a total of $1,500. They all gave it without hesitation and my MOH got the gift without telling anyone in the BP what it was. Well after the shower they realized the gift given to me was only about $500 and the cake/decorations were no more then $150 at most. This leaves a lot of money left over. Now some members of my BP are asking my FH what they should do (they are not that close to my MOH). I think they are in the right, but I would feel weird saying something to her. FH said he will down the road (he i believe is going to wait till after the wedding)

Any advice? I'm very upset over this matter, but i feel if i say something to my MOH she might get all defensive and say she was going to return the money (and I am sure she won't unless asked by someone).

Butterflybride Posted: Jul 20, 2004 05:18 PM

Re: Need Advice

Posted by BCTM33

Posted by divabride

Posted by james'pokey

If I were a BM it would not matter to me what my relation was to the MOH I would ask her where my money went. One of them has to confront her in a nice way and ask where the rest of the money went. It is not fair for her to profit from your shower.

I definitely agree with this. Dont involve yourself with this. This is something your BM's need to do. I understand that they dont know each other well, but that's no reason to let someone mishandle funds like that. But the key here is to approach her in a respectful way, not accusingly. Good luck and I hope this was all some kind of misunderstanding.

I third this opinion!

Definately!

annaae Posted: Jul 20, 2004 06:08 PM

Re: Need Advice

Posted by Butterflybride

Posted by BCTM33

Posted by divabride

Posted by james'pokey

If I were a BM it would not matter to me what my relation was to the MOH I would ask her where my money went. One of them has to confront her in a nice way and ask where the rest of the money went. It is not fair for her to profit from your shower.

I definitely agree with this. Dont involve yourself with this. This is something your BM's need to do. I understand that they dont know each other well, but that's no reason to let someone mishandle funds like that. But the key here is to approach her in a respectful way, not accusingly. Good luck and I hope this was all some kind of misunderstanding.

I third this opinion!

Definately!

I agree......this is a tough situation and hope thinks work out.

OSCARtheGROOM Posted: Jul 20, 2004 06:42 PM

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If was me in this situation, and Brianne can vouch for me I would have lost it. I would have your bm's handle this. Let your fh talk to the remaining bm's, but dont let him talk to the moh. Have them ask her what the deal is with the money. Have the bm's ask the moh for receipts to see where the money went. And the most important part don't you get yourself involved. Play it like you know nothing.Good Luck!!!

lvdolphins Posted: Jul 20, 2004 09:30 PM

Re: Need Advice

Posted by BCTM33

Posted by divabride

Posted by james'pokey

If I were a BM it would not matter to me what my relation was to the MOH I would ask her where my money went. One of them has to confront her in a nice way and ask where the rest of the money went. It is not fair for her to profit from your shower.

I definitely agree with this. Dont involve yourself with this. This is something your BM's need to do. I understand that they dont know each other well, but that's no reason to let someone mishandle funds like that. But the key here is to approach her in a respectful way, not accusingly. Good luck and I hope this was all some kind of misunderstanding.

I third this opinion!

I agree as well!!!