need advice...

here's the deal...our guest list was way over what we wanted. in an effort to cut people, ray cut out a co-worker

he has invited other co-workers, but the one he cut he argued was a supervisor and is getting married himself and would not be able to nor want to come, and he also said that he didn't want to make him feel that he needed to invite us...sorry for the confusion

i TOLD him (silly boy ) to invite him, because he is the supervisor. now we got invited to HIS wedding (may 14th) two weeks before ours

what should we do? should would we say yes? should we say no? should we invite him now? should we even say anything to him? i feel so horrible...what a mess

I think you should invite him since he is the supervisor. Is this Ray's direct supervisor? If so invite. Plus you only sent invites a week ago - not like you sent them a few weeks ago. Then only go to his wedding if you want to.

They always say the guest list is the hardest part.

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Posted by KimberlyBride

I think you should invite him since he is the supervisor. Is this Ray's direct supervisor? If so invite. Plus you only sent invites a week ago - not like you sent them a few weeks ago. Then only go to his wedding if you want to.

They always say the guest list is the hardest part.

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Perfect advice!! Maybe if you reply no to their wedding, they wont go to yours...

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Posted by KimberlyBride

I think you should invite him since he is the supervisor. Is this Ray's direct supervisor? If so invite. Plus you only sent invites a week ago - not like you sent them a few weeks ago. Then only go to his wedding if you want to.

They always say the guest list is the hardest part.

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I totally agree. Since he is the supervisor I think you should invite him.

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Posted by May05Bride

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Posted by KimberlyBride

I think you should invite him since he is the supervisor. Is this Ray's direct supervisor? If so invite. Plus you only sent invites a week ago - not like you sent them a few weeks ago. Then only go to his wedding if you want to.

They always say the guest list is the hardest part.

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I totally agree. Since he is the supervisor I think you should invite him.

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Yes, you do HAVE to invite him but you don't have to go to his. Without going into detail I'm in a similar situation... we don't want to invite one of our immediate supervisors for many reasons. We did but we are hoping he/she won't come

thanks so much ladies! you made me feel better about looking stupid. i sent an invite home with ray so he's going to mail it out tommorow. he's also going to talk to him and just lay it all out on the line. we really did want to invite him originally, but we had to make lots of cuts cause we're already way over our budgeted number and we haven't gotten any no's yet!

HATE the guestlist! worst part of this whole process...wish we could just invite everyone

i would invite him. i don't think it would look wierd at all- invites go out at all different times, and for all he knows you haven't sent out any of yours yet. and unless ray really wants to lay it all out with him, i don't think he has to. it's not late enough for it to look like he was an afterthought. i say just send an invitation with no further comment.

what's your thought about going to his wedding or not?

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Posted by alexlynn7

i would invite him. i don't think it would look wierd at all- invites go out at all different times, and for all he knows you haven't sent out any of yours yet. and unless ray really wants to lay it all out with him, i don't think he has to. it's not late enough for it to look like he was an afterthought. i say just send an invitation with no further comment.

what's your thought about going to his wedding or not?

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i think ray was feeling really awful about the whole thing and he tried to talk to him about it today but didn't get a chance to because there were too many people around

we are going to go to his wedding and ray is mailing out his invite tommorow! ray didn't want to go because he felt so awful, but i convinced him we should

thanks ladies for your help!

Oh Az.....you were my role model for 'cutting' the list. I would probably just invite the guy.


Sorry


Editted................good choice guys. Have Fun!

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Posted by panapoli

Oh Az.....you were my role model for 'cutting' the list. I would probably just invite the guy.


Sorry


Editted................good choice guys. Have Fun!

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that was RAY'S cut not mine!!!!!! i insisted that he not cut him in the first place! boys never learn

i'd be happy to cut your list up for you still