Need advice... LONG
Hi,
So what I need some advice on is what to do about one of my BMs. This is obviously a fake name, and I have already gotten married 2 months ago. I had someone I had known for 20 years as a BM. Through the years, we have had our ups and downs, but I always figured we would be freinds. Everyone we have known from HS no longer speaks to her, because she is drama ridden and has no feeling what so ever. In fact, everyone yelled at me and called me stupid for having her as a BM. But I felt I should have her anyway, all the while knowing she would cause some drama right before my big day.
Sure enough, 4 days before my wedding, she decided she wanted to bring a date to my wedding. I told her yes, however there was no room at the bp table, so either he would have to sit at the next table, or both of them could sit at the next table. She wanted me to rearrange my bp tables so he could fit and make 3 tables instead of 2, but it was 4 days before my wedding and I wasn't going to do that at that point in time. At the rehersal dinner, she pulled my best freind (who she didn't know) aside and bad mouthed me to her, saying I was trying to control her bringing someone.
Anyway, as I said earlier, I was prepared for that, cause she starts drama if the attention is not on her. So now, someone I had known for 20 years, in my bridal party, the only one who still talks to her, and she did NOT give a gift or even a card. It has been 2 months. It is not that she can;t afford the gift, cause her parents both still give her allowance... which is her rent and half her car payment per month. But even if she couldn't afford a gift it wouldn't matter, but where is the card or even the congratulations. Cause she didn't even say that.
My friends have said this is a small price to pay for finally realizing what she has thought of the freindship. And, to top it all off, everyone said I told you not to have her. And all along, I knew in the back of my mind, I shouldn't have, but a part of me had wanted to.
So what would you guys do? Do I edit her out of the pictures if possible, do I confront her? Do I forget about everything? What would you do
So what I need some advice on is what to do about one of my BMs. This is obviously a fake name, and I have already gotten married 2 months ago. I had someone I had known for 20 years as a BM. Through the years, we have had our ups and downs, but I always figured we would be freinds. Everyone we have known from HS no longer speaks to her, because she is drama ridden and has no feeling what so ever. In fact, everyone yelled at me and called me stupid for having her as a BM. But I felt I should have her anyway, all the while knowing she would cause some drama right before my big day.
Sure enough, 4 days before my wedding, she decided she wanted to bring a date to my wedding. I told her yes, however there was no room at the bp table, so either he would have to sit at the next table, or both of them could sit at the next table. She wanted me to rearrange my bp tables so he could fit and make 3 tables instead of 2, but it was 4 days before my wedding and I wasn't going to do that at that point in time. At the rehersal dinner, she pulled my best freind (who she didn't know) aside and bad mouthed me to her, saying I was trying to control her bringing someone.
Anyway, as I said earlier, I was prepared for that, cause she starts drama if the attention is not on her. So now, someone I had known for 20 years, in my bridal party, the only one who still talks to her, and she did NOT give a gift or even a card. It has been 2 months. It is not that she can;t afford the gift, cause her parents both still give her allowance... which is her rent and half her car payment per month. But even if she couldn't afford a gift it wouldn't matter, but where is the card or even the congratulations. Cause she didn't even say that.
My friends have said this is a small price to pay for finally realizing what she has thought of the freindship. And, to top it all off, everyone said I told you not to have her. And all along, I knew in the back of my mind, I shouldn't have, but a part of me had wanted to.
So what would you guys do? Do I edit her out of the pictures if possible, do I confront her? Do I forget about everything? What would you do
