need advice on where to live...post divorce.....

as you all know I live in Long Beach, in the West End Party Zone.... My ex to be also lives down here and grew up here so he pretty much knows everyone..... and as we all know is the party boy.. I avoid certain well many places because I dont want to run into him...

I am looking to move because I want to start fresh and I dont like my apt anymore. Too many miserable memories But Im torn..

Do I stay in Long Beach and deal with the stress of running into this a$$. I would never leave town because of him but I also dont want it to be uncomfortable, especially when I start dating again. He knows EVERYONE and I know my business will become his.

I could move to the East End of Long Beach where it is quieter...

I could move to Rockville Centre- cute little town with bars/restaurants and not too far from Long Beach.
My sister lives in long beach and I am very close with her- thats why im trying to stay close.

i dont want to move to some random town where I will be bored out of my mind- i did that once. moved to bethpage and moved back down to long beach 4 months later. no offense to bethpage but it wasnt me...

help!!!!!!!!!!

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Well, maybe move to the quieter side of Long Beach. I think you do need to feel like you are having a fresh start and maybe a little separation from the area would be good. If it's important to be near your sister, I definitely wouldn't go too far. Even a new apartment in the same area is fresh.

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i totally understand wanting to live near your sister. i also know how towns are (like long beach) and knowing everyone's business.

if you could take it, id move to a new town close by. remember, even though its a pain moving...nothing is permanent. i think moving, starting fresh is good. and if you hate it, or if you feel youre ready to re enter your old town, then you can. good luck!

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If you want to start fresh and move to a different state , Hoboken NJ is a great, young, party town as well...

You sure sound like you are doing all the right things! I admire your strength!

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I think moving to the quieter end of LB or rockiville centre (really pretty!) would be good. RVC might be better b/c you'd still be close to your sis, but you'd be removed enough so not everyone would know you and you could really start fresh

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I just want to say

If you were my sister I would say get out of Dodge. Away from him and his friends and the torment of always wondering if you are going to run into him or have his friends know your business.

You can always go visit your sister, and vice versa. But honestly I would get away so you can move on.

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Why don't you look into pt.lookout, island park, or atlantic beach. Those are some nice areas. I mean Long Beach is beautiful, and you have family there. But you have to do whats best for you, and what will make you the happiest.

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Posted by cluelessbride

I just want to say

If you were my sister I would say get out of Dodge. Away from him and his friends and the torment of always wondering if you are going to run into him or have his friends know your business.

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I agree- you should go as far as you need to go to avoid running into him. Rockville Center is nice but the other end of Long Beach would probably work too, as long as you aren't going to run into him.

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Posted by cluelessbride

I just want to say

If you were my sister I would say get out of Dodge. Away from him and his friends and the torment of always wondering if you are going to run into him or have his friends know your business.

You can always go visit your sister, and vice versa. But honestly I would get away so you can move on.

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I agree I would move out of Long Beach proper and into the next town maybe if you still want to be close to your sister.

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What about Rockaway 121st Street or better...not too far from your sister

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Kristi -
As someone who knows LB - as you know - I would prob move out and go to RVC. Granted, you could move to the East End - but you still run the chance off running into your ex at Waldbaums, CVS,etc. We know that LB is really not that big - I'd prob go to RVC - which is still close enough to see your sis all the time!

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I absolutely LOVE RVC. Both DH and me said that if we were stll single in our late 20's we would of moved there. I have a friend (engaged) who moved into a cute apartment, within walking distance and we go to dinner with them quite ofter. The bars are great, the restaurants are great and the stores are great. I want to move there someday if i can ever afford it! So that is my vote

I agree that even if you move to the east side you have a very good chance of running into you ex.

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Septwed- you said your friend moved to RVC- did she move into an apt building or private home? if she did move into an apt building could you get me the name of the building? thanks.. i would have fmd you but i cant from work- its blocked!

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I live in Valley Stream in an apartment building. They are actually renovating the building, putting in all new appliances and cabinets. They even started painting the inside of the building to make it look nicer, it needed a face lift. (It hasnt been updated in a while prior to the new Mgmt Co.)

I've lived in this building for 5 years and I have no complaints. The old landlord sold the building to a new company and we have a new super who is great! If any thing needs to be fixed he's right on the ball.

The rent is $1165 per month.. You have to pay for your own electric/gas/cable. There are washing machines & dryers in the building.

It's walking distance to Rockaway Ave which has plenty of shops, plus it's close to RVC. It's also a 4 min walking distance to the LIRR (I do the walk everyday).

The management service is Ben-Art Realty (516) 564-0247.

PS: The nicer apartments are the corner ones. That's what I have. You have a king size bedroom, living room, EIK, hardwood floors, high ceilings, & the bathroom is a nice size. PM me if you want more info.

Good Luck!!

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Posted by kdelace


i dont want to move to some random town where I will be bored out of my mind- i did that once. moved to bethpage and moved back down to long beach 4 months later. no offense to bethpage but it wasnt me...

help!!!!!!!!!!

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I'm from Bethpage. . .
I kinda like it, but it really is better for families, not really any nightlife.

Rockville Center sounds like a good idea.

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Posted by kdelace

Septwed- you said your friend moved to RVC- did she move into an apt building or private home? if she did move into an apt building could you get me the name of the building? thanks.. i would have fmd you but i cant from work- its blocked!

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She lives at the Mayfair Apartments (they are right next to where Home Goods are). HOwever they are all co-ops...as are a majority of the apartments in RVC from what i heard. Not too many rentals, but you might find something in a house.....not sure what you are looking for.

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Posted by SeptWed

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Posted by kdelace

Septwed- you said your friend moved to RVC- did she move into an apt building or private home? if she did move into an apt building could you get me the name of the building? thanks.. i would have fmd you but i cant from work- its blocked!

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She lives at the Mayfair Apartments (they are right next to where Home Goods are). HOwever they are all co-ops...as are a majority of the apartments in RVC from what i heard. Not too many rentals, but you might find something in a house.....not sure what you are looking for.

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I don't know RVC, but I live in a mostly co-op area, and I rent. Sometimes the buildings rents a few units, or unit owners sub-let.

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I would suggest a fresh start as far away as possible. JMO but I wouldn't want to live with the stress of always thinking I might run into him or his friends, you would feel like you have to watch everything you do.

LB is great if you are single but so is Huntington. IT's a vibrant community. A lot of great restaurants, art, music etc. I know it might as well be on the opposite side of the world compared to LB but that might be good.

Several years ago a co-worker of mine moved off of LI because of the same reasons. Her EX stalked her and was really scarey. I miss her and we have lost touched since her move. I'll never forget how nervous she got anytime we were in public.

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My parents are selling their condo in Holbrook....very nice neighborhood, but pretty far east of you.

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When I was reading this first two places I thought well maybe you could move to the East End or maybe somewhere like Rockville Centre (Actually thinking of moving there myself).

Do what's comfortable for youi - if you want to be close to your sister - you could stay in LB - but then again RVC is such a short ride away.