need advice (pretty long) - if you posted before, please read my update!

Dec 06, 2003 11:12 PM

I have a bit of a sticky situation that I'm having trouble dealing with. My FH and I have a large group of people we socialized with in college. We are not necessarily inviting all of these people to our wedding, as they are not all people we were ever good friends with or currently keep in touch with. There is one girl in particular who was part of this group, but who everyone found very annoying and overbearing. We all basically tolerated her. Now that I'm getting married, she keeps e-mailing me about marking the date of my wedding on her calender, getting a dress, making our present, etc. We aren't planning on inviting her, and I don't know how to tell her this. I hate the idea of hurting her, which is what is going to happen, and I dont know if I should just say something, or let her realize it when she doesn't get her invitation. Another option is to have someone who is better friends with her break the news to her. I feel like a complete B****, but we are limited in who we can invite to the wedding, and already have a guest list that needs to be cut down. Is anyone else in a similar situation or have an idea about what I should do? Thanks!