need advice re: bridesmaids' hair

dkga1026 Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:31 PM

need advice re: bridesmaids' hair

i have 6 bm and i'm wondering whether i should ask them all to style their hair in updos...

will my pictures look nicer if everyone is consistent or should i have each girl just do her hair the way she wants?

i know most are okay with the updos but a couple of them think their hair looks nicer down...

thanks in advance!

ps..just to clarify, i would never get as specific as to tell them what style their updo should be...just all up or all down or whatever...so there is some sort of uniformity...
has anyone noticed that pictures look better or worse either way?

MSCJLC Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:34 PM

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let them where their hair the way they are confortable. you really do not want them to look all hte ame and some might not be happy wearing it up or down....

boosh78201 Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:35 PM

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I gave my girls the option of doing whatever they want with there hair. They will feel more comfortable.

Annie02 Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:38 PM

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I gave my girls the option - they all wound up with an up-do though, all except one who has short hair.

applesfla Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:39 PM

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I'm giving my girls the option to do what they want. With so many girls (6 of them too) what are the chances that they will all be happy with one style?
One of my BM's was in a wedding last year and her hair was shorter then the rest of the girls and she hated it up...they put so much hairspray and she had so many bobby pins in her hair that it made her very uncomfortable.

coselige Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:40 PM

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I would let your bridesmaids wear their hair in the way that makes them most comfortable.
If all of your maids are wearing the same dress/color, the different hairstyles may add a bit of personality/uniqueness to the photos.
I definitely do not think your pictures will suffer as a result.

Sassy Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:45 PM

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All my girls are going with an up-do by choice, we all like our hair up, but if they all didn't want to, I wouldn't make an issue out of it. I want them all to be beautiful, and comfortable

alina Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:49 PM

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I am letting my girls decide what they want, but some may need to look for their own hair person.

Niecey Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:50 PM

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I told my girls to do whatever they want (up or down) as long as it is reasonable for a formal event. The only reason I said that was my friend didn't specify and her SIL showed up looking like she just rolled out of bed and when she saw all the other girls had their hair done nicely she threw it into a clippy. My friend didn't care because it was a reflection of herself but she thought it was a little rude.

I have been in bridal parties where I was told to wear my hair anyway I wanted, told to wear my hair up and told what exact updo to wear. I think it is up to you. I just wouldn't go to extremes because you want them to be comfortable. I think if they are comfortable that will show in pictures better than being all styled to look the same.

NuBride Posted: Aug 29, 2002 03:54 PM

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IMO it does matter what their hair looks like in the photos, trust me. I requested that all the girls get an up-do and all but one did and let me tell you it made a difference in the photos. This is an 'occasion' this is a day where you put on the fancy clothes maybe a little extra makeup and you 'look the part' whether all the girls hair was up or down I just wanted it to look uniform. If you are worried about the girls being uncomfortable with their hair up, just remember they made a commitment to you the day they agreed to be in your bridal party and that comes with doing things you really don't want to do but you do it because you love your friend and it's her day and you want to make her happy. I was in a bridal party some time back and my friend wanted us to wear those flower clips behide our ears and of course I wouldn't wear it 'on a dare' but it was her day and that's what we wore. Hope this helps.

spel Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:14 PM

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i think its a bit much to demand that your girls all wear the same hair styles, especially if they do not think the style is flattering on them. why not discuss it with them and see how they feel.

NovemberSue Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:16 PM

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I told my BMs to do their hair however they would like to. I want them to feel comfortable.

anne Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:16 PM

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I would definitely let the girls where their hair the way that they feel comfortable --- ! I think that it is way to much to ask them to wear their hair a certain style...

Sonicstef Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:16 PM

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I don't think its fair to ask your friends to wear a style they are uncomfortable with even if it makes your photos look better. If they feel comfortable and beautiful - they will have a better time.

dkga1026 Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:24 PM

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just wanted to say that i'm shocked at how thoughtful all the brides are nowadays!!

I have been a BM 7 times and 6 of those i was told i HAD to style my hair a certain way!

Karen62794 Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:26 PM

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I will give my girls the option. I am having a makeup artist and hairstylist come to my house, so if they want to utilize those services then they can.

NuBride Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:29 PM

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I agree with dkga1026, I just wanted to clairify what I meant in my post, I wanted my girls hair 'up' I did not pick a specific style, I just wanted it 'up' so what ever style they picked was their choice. It would have been the same if I perferred it down, what ever style they wanted just 'down' and as I'm sure all you girls know, there are plenty of styles to choose from out there.

farah416 Posted: Aug 29, 2002 04:32 PM

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Most of my girls are a lot like me - brush and go girls. So as my BM gift, I'm taking everyone to get their hair done... However, I'm letting everyone have whatever hairstyle they are comfortable with... They will all have different dresses (same color) so there won't be uniformity anyway!