a friend of mine (we were penpals in the 80s then real friends from like '91 on and off) and i grew apart around the time i got engaged, last year. we have not spoken since i told her that fh and i got engaged. my MOH still says i need to send her an invite. i feel stupid though... i made no attempt to contact her, other than a bday card i sent her and a xmas card since last july. i never heard from her again.
any ideas? i feel like by not inviting her, i'm almost doing her a favor! it looks like i'm hoping for a gift or something. anyone have this happen to them?
tstaa1vw
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how close were you when you grew apart? I have good friends from college that I only talk to once or twice a year and I invited them. I don't think she will think that you are hoping for gift. She will probably be happy that you are trying to get back in touch with her.
AllyDrew1108
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well, there's kinda more to the story than i led on. i have been a sucky friend for the past few years, i am not a fan of driving and she lives about an hour away, she complained that i never visit her and i felt bad and we drifted... eek. i just feel weird to be like 'hey i'd like to be friends again, please come to my wedding!'
i used to live in nyc and would hop on trains to see her. now i live in the same state and there is no real train line i could take, i'd have to just drive it and when i lived in the city, it was fun for her to visit me because well, nyc ... ya know.
Posted by tstaa1vw
how close were you when you grew apart? I have good friends from college that I only talk to once or twice a year and I invited them. I don't think she will think that you are hoping for gift. She will probably be happy that you are trying to get back in touch with her.
sophisticat13
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Do you want to invite her? If you do, I would invite her and let her decide. It sounds as if you want to but that you are afraid of what she will think...don't worry about it Just a thought: she might also be hurt if you don't invite her....JMHO
AllyDrew1108
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ok, i guess i will, i think i'm really embarrassed.
Newsysuzy12
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I don't think it looks bad for you to invite her, but if you really don't want to renew the friendship, I wouldn't bother. Bottom line, if you want her there, invite, if not, blow it off.
roan126
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I wouldnt have invited her if it were me. How much room do you have with the guest list?
