Need advice, sorry long
FH has 2 cousins (under 10 years old) that are quite unruly. The parents are not necessarily up for parents of the year. They like to think it's everyone else's job to watch their kids. Last Thanksgiving FH's aunt came up to him and said 'I don't blame you if you don't want to invite the kids to your wedding.' Just tonight, at a family gathering, she cornered me. She asked if we decided whether to allow kids at the wedding. It was never a question in my mind. We have about 10 kids under the age of 10 in our invite list. Everyone else has older kids (teens) or no kids.
I informed FH's aunt that we were intending to invite all the kids and she looked disappointed. She mentioned that at the last family wedding they decided not to bring the kids, and had a blast. I informed her that some of the parents had already decided to leave their children home, so I couldn't even tell her if any kids were actually coming. She stated that leaving them overnight for this wedding wasn't an option (as they live in NJ). There is no pleasing her.
Basically, she's looking for us to not invite her kids. This way we look like the bad guys. If we invite them, other family members will be watching over them, as always. (They are developmentally slow and have been known to injure themselves and break things) Selfishly, I see the wedding cake meeting an untimely demise. The rest of the family supports any decision we make, as they understand the prediciment we're in.
My question is... is it alright to not invite a few kids, but invite the rest? We are trying to be diplomatic. Our invitations go out in a few weeks.![]()
I informed FH's aunt that we were intending to invite all the kids and she looked disappointed. She mentioned that at the last family wedding they decided not to bring the kids, and had a blast. I informed her that some of the parents had already decided to leave their children home, so I couldn't even tell her if any kids were actually coming. She stated that leaving them overnight for this wedding wasn't an option (as they live in NJ). There is no pleasing her.
Basically, she's looking for us to not invite her kids. This way we look like the bad guys. If we invite them, other family members will be watching over them, as always. (They are developmentally slow and have been known to injure themselves and break things) Selfishly, I see the wedding cake meeting an untimely demise. The rest of the family supports any decision we make, as they understand the prediciment we're in.
My question is... is it alright to not invite a few kids, but invite the rest? We are trying to be diplomatic. Our invitations go out in a few weeks.
