Fh bought me a beatiful engagement ring 2 years ago. it has a round center stone with a round eternity band attached. After two years of wearing this ring (that i love), i wanted to get an emarald shaped CZ ring to wear once and a while on the same finger instead of the original ring. he is extremely insulted that i wanted to do this but i dont see what the BIG deal is. does anyone agree with me, or with him.
AJsMommy122
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I can see where you are coming from.. and I can see why he would be offended. JMO but I would rather wear a real diamond then a CZ
eta - compromise.. you like the emerald shaped.. wear it on your right hand?
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i can see why he would be insulted. is there any reason why you want to wear something different? maybe you should change your setting if your getting bored. i actually have two wedding bands so that i can change back and forth one to wear with my e ring and the other that is just to wear alone so that i dont get bored. try wearing the emerald on nother hand or get it in a colored stone.
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Sorry i agree with your FH..
AJsMommy122
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i can see why he would be insulted. is there any reason why you want to wear something different? maybe you should change your setting if your getting bored. i actually have two wedding bands so that i can change back and forth one to wear with my e ring and the other that is just to wear alone so that i dont get bored.
Jan - I want to do the same thing! I have a diamond wedding band to match my ering.. I love they way they look when they are together but the band by itself looks like just a diamond ring and not a wedding band.. FH is fine with me buying a plain band for everyday but which one did he put on you at the wedding? I want to have both with me so they are blessed by the preist
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i cant wear the other ring on the right hand because it doesnt look right to wear 2 rings that look like engagement rings and they are 2 different hsapes. but it looks like i might have to becasue i really love the other ring. i would never change my setting because i LOVE my current engagement ring i just sometimes want a change
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If I were him I'd be insulted too. He probably put much time and $$$ in picking out your ring and you are opting to wear a CZ, which isn't from him, instead. I can definitely see his point. JMHO
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I dont want everyone to slam you or anything... I'll be honest I love my ring to death but sometimes I wish I could change the shape of the diamond too.. its human nature to get bored of something.. My FI would flip out if I wanted to wear something fake instead of my ring... I think you should just forget about the other ring
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If I were him I'd be insulted too. He probably put much time and $$$ in picking out your ring and you are opting to wear a CZ, which isn't from him, instead. I can definitely see his point. JMHO
I have to agree
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I see where you are coming from. I love my ring. I really really really do. But I also love jewelry and I have so many rings that just fit my ring finger. I also wanted to get a fake ring because where I worked I did a lot of manual labor. And it got caught a lot in things. I know with insurance you can always get it replaced but it still would not be the same.
I plan on just getting a band after a year or so and just getting a regular band.
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I am getting a CZ ring to wear in place of my real e-ring, but only when I am working st my 2nd job (waitressing) because I don't want anything to happen to my real ring. Right now I wear nothing...so I guess my FH would rather have me wear a CZ than nothing so people know I am taken!
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i guess im just bored with my ring. and i love the emerald cut, and if he could afford to get me it im sure he would be we are saving up for a house. i see where hes coming from with the CZ, but i really like it. i might get the other ring and wear it on my other hand and if it looks stupid, it looks stupid.
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would your FI be opposed to you changing the stone from a round to an emerald? don't know where he bought the stone, but most jewelers have an upgrade policy on diamonds.
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i can see why he would be insulted. is there any reason why you want to wear something different? maybe you should change your setting if your getting bored. i actually have two wedding bands so that i can change back and forth one to wear with my e ring and the other that is just to wear alone so that i dont get bored.
Jan - I want to do the same thing! I have a diamond wedding band to match my ering.. I love they way they look when they are together but the band by itself looks like just a diamond ring and not a wedding band.. FH is fine with me buying a plain band for everyday but which one did he put on you at the wedding? I want to have both with me so they are blessed by the preist
i dont like the way my diamond band looks alone either but i didnt know that untill right before the wedding and didnt have the time to get a plain one. i had the diamond one blessed and i wore that one on my wedding day. my dh went and had a 5mm band with snowflakes etched on it for me after we got back for the honeymoon and i have to go and get that one blessed.
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i think if you have your heart set on it then get it. i wouldnt care if others thought it looked stupid.
I don't want any brides here to be angry with me however I feel he has every right to be angry about this. It is such an important peice of jewlery, for its significance, if he wanted you to wear one specific necklace,bracelet, etc and you wanted another that would be completely different. Wear your gourgeous ring girl! It will look diff again, once that band slips next to it.
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Sorry, but I need to be honest. I agree wiht your FH. This is the ring that he chose for your engagement, to propose to you. I can understand how he would be upset that you didn't want to wear it. Once you get married, if you get bored, you can just wear your wedding band.
I agree with someone else who posted that if you really want another ring, wear it on your right hand.
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Sorry, but I need to be honest. I agree wiht your FH. This is the ring that he chose for your engagement, to propose to you. I can understand how he would be upset that you didn't want to wear it. Once you get married, if you get bored, you can just wear your wedding band.
I agree with someone else who posted that if you really want another ring, wear it on your right hand.
i agree. your FH picked your engagement ring as a symbol of your life-long commitment to each other. to not wear it at all is one thing (i rarely wear my e-ring anymore), but to REPLACE it with something else - i can definitely see why he would be upset.
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I can see where you're coming from. But, guys do get really insulted about this kind of stuff.
I have a BEAUTIFUL diamond that my mom passed down to me. Fi keeps 'suggesting' that I remove the stone from the ring and turn it into a pendant.
