Need Opinions

ElovesJ117 Posted: Mar 27, 2011 10:53 AM

Need Opinions

Hey girls! I haven't posted in forever but I need your help!

Situation: My RD

The problem really is who is going to pay for the RD. My FH and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves. My mom said that traditionally the groom's parents pay for the RD. Obviously, we are not very traditional because my parents are not paying for the wedding. But they did pay for our engagement party which was at a hall and they are going to end up paying for whatever my bridesmaid can't pay for for the bridal shower. The question is would it be wrong if my FH asked his parents if they would pay for the RD? I wish they would just offer considering they have not helped us in anyway yet and I hate asking for help but my FH and I do not really have any extra money to be spending for the RD and my parents don't really have money to give us for this also so our only option would to do something small and simple at my parents house which is fine but I would like it to be at a restaurant. Idk - what do you girls think?

spdy540 Posted: Mar 27, 2011 11:06 AM

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That's a tough one. See if fh can ask if you want and hopefully they will help. We are in the same boat we had to pay for everything including the e-party and rd. Hope it all works out. Something small even pizza isn't bad either I have been to those and they were more fun.

Ang9483 Posted: Mar 27, 2011 12:48 PM

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We already asked the inlaws and they said yes but we have to plan it and they will pay for it.

lisam1113 Posted: Mar 27, 2011 12:53 PM

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We didn't have a e-party & we are paying for the wedding ourselves also with noones help. I was talking about restaurants to have the RD & FMIL sorta snapped at me 'you can't pick the restaurant if we're paying for it' Didn't know thattttt!!! But it's nice there paying but now I have no say at all.. which now it'll suck at least I hope not lol See if FH & you can talk to the FIL's & see what they say..

IrishAli Posted: Mar 27, 2011 02:53 PM

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Jeez- always drama, right?

I might ask them if they were planning on hosting the RD and take it from there

Im getting Married Posted: Mar 27, 2011 02:56 PM

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We didn't ask FH's parents we just booked the place ourselves. We are paying for our wedding as well. I just can't be bothered to ask people.

Have you brought it up in front of them? Maybe if you talk about it they might offer to pay

SimHawk8 Posted: Mar 27, 2011 05:50 PM

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We're in the same situation and I told FH to ask his father. Who then claimed he'd wire us the money a month ago and we're still sitting here holding our breath. If you can't so it fine but to act like you son't know that what is done ... annoys me. Financial times are hard for most people these days. I doesn't hurt to ask.