Need some advice on this...

prettyprincess07 Posted: Mar 27, 2006 05:17 PM

Need some advice on this...

Hello my name is Patricia. I;m very new to this site, my wedding is on June 27, 2007. I was looking outside of my imitdiate circle to get some advice about a situation I am having. My FH and I have been going over the guest list on whom we should invite. My FH has a cousin that when he was younger, they were really good friends. Some years has passed and silly and childish incidents occured. He tried to patch things up, and wants to inivite her to make amends . She and I 'really' do not get along. ! I am not happy about this and he knows this. I dont know what to do?

donegal419 Posted: Mar 27, 2006 05:27 PM

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I would let him invite her... . he wants to and that should be reason enough. You don't need to spend a lot of time with her at the wedding if you don't want to. I think it sounds like your FH is trying to make amends and this sounds like a nice way to start. I think it would make him happy so I say go for it. Family is important and this might help them patch things up. GOOD LUCK!

SweetCin704 Posted: Mar 27, 2006 05:31 PM

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Sounds like there may be more to the story or such (reading between the lines). If this person is going to make you feel uncomfortable at your wedding, I personally wouldn't invite her. I wouldn't want to have negative feelings that day when I see her/talk to her, but that's just me.

FH has a friend who's wife is overly friendly w/ everyone & has made many inappropriate comments/gestures & FH/I agreed that its better off they do not come (he's not very friendly w/ him, just someone he works with).

This is JMO

justshir Posted: Mar 27, 2006 06:03 PM

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Posted by SweetCin704

Sounds like there may be more to the story or such (reading between the lines). If this person is going to make you feel uncomfortable at your wedding, I personally wouldn't invite her. I wouldn't want to have negative feelings that day when I see her/talk to her, but that's just me.

i agree. also, can't your FH just make amends with her after the wedding? besides, why the sudden epiphany to resolve the past at the wedding?

bride2b24 Posted: Mar 27, 2006 06:41 PM

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well in my opinion thats his cousin.....def invite her...if it makes you feel any better my FH has a cousin who i CANT STAND! but its just not even an option not to invite her...

prettyprincess07 Posted: Mar 27, 2006 07:25 PM

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I can understand what you're saying The inapproriate comments are what is makeing me upset. Saying things like you 2 are still shacked up together? My FH tells her those arent cool remarks to make since we are getting married and we'll all be family. He is hoping that inviting her to the wedding will stop or smooth over any animosity we have towards one another-

enjft Posted: Apr 04, 2006 10:47 PM

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I say invite her. You will be too busy to notice her.

Tracy&Brian Posted: Apr 04, 2006 10:50 PM

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Posted by enjft

I say invite her. You will be too busy to notice her.

I agree with this advice. You will be so happy, you wont even notice her there.

jenntony Posted: Apr 04, 2006 11:12 PM

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i would invite her, even though you may not really get along with her, you probably won't even notice if she is even there, you will be so busy mingling with everyone. and it would mean a lot to FH if you invite her so just go for it, she may not even show up...

qdavis Posted: Apr 05, 2006 12:16 PM

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Honestly in a situation like this .....I wouldn't invite her because you do not need any negative energy or any sour faces on your wedding day...period.....

GoodLuck....

Quiana