need some feeback...

lisaslove Posted: May 09, 2006 07:28 PM

need some feeback...

i was invited to a wedding that i havent seen the person or talked to them in like four years. and this year is a crayze wedding year for me im in a few and planning my own... i have been debating about this for months, i m not going to the shower, but iam sending a gift. we were really close at one time but just drifted apart not on bad terms or anything like that. now i know after the shower/wedding i wont be seeing her either. is it wrong not to go, and for my wedding\shower we are already over the room limit and when i made my list she wasnt on it. so i dont think im going to the wedding, but should i still send a check? i feel really bad about it and not sure what to do?

thanks, sorry its so long

bride2b24 Posted: May 09, 2006 07:41 PM

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i would send a gift.......i guess its the right thing to do

camposal Posted: May 09, 2006 07:44 PM

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You shouldn't feel obligated to go. If you would really want to be at her wedding, then i say send a gift. But if you're not keen on going to the wedding (forget financial or time issues) then you shouldn't send a gift.

brittny817 Posted: May 09, 2006 07:45 PM

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I would send a gift and write something nice in the card. Don't stress over it.

bride_to_be_2007 Posted: May 09, 2006 07:48 PM

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i would personally send a gift...

lisaslove Posted: May 09, 2006 07:58 PM

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thanks for the advice

Athee07 Posted: May 09, 2006 08:06 PM

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i would also send a gift but def dont feel obligated to go

RobbsWifey Posted: May 10, 2006 10:21 PM

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Send a shower gift, don't go to the wedding Lisa.

leshellem Posted: May 10, 2006 10:46 PM

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Send a shower and a wedding gift and don't go to the wedding.

anglbyme Posted: May 10, 2006 10:53 PM

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I wouldn't go but maybe a nice gift instead. I wouldn't send money though.

PegaLega Posted: May 10, 2006 11:22 PM

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I would send a shower gift and maybe a wedding gift but not both. Dont feel obligated just because.

dianadrw Posted: May 11, 2006 03:47 PM

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FH is in the same situation w/ one of his friends. We decided not to go to the wedding, but we will still send a gift.

camerakrazie Posted: May 11, 2006 07:53 PM

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I am in the same boat..One of my friends from college who was also my roommate and I was once close to is getting married this August...I cannot go because I will be taking sat classes and also FH has a bachelor party weekend for his friend....we prob would still have gone after my sat class but just missed the church....

however I am still going to send a gift and she is not on my list for my shower I dont think...she also lives in Putnam county and I live here in LI....you decide...I already told her what was goin on...but I am still sending a gift and check